Overcomer Reforge at Wind Haven

10/07/2025

💭 Toxic or Just Tired?

A Self-Check Guide from Wind Haven Foundation

Purpose:
To help survivors and caregivers recognize whether a relationship is truly toxic or if stress, illness, or external strain is distorting connection.
Because sometimes the relationship isn’t the poison—the environment is.

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🧩 1. Check the Intent

When It’s Toxic When It’s Tired
Words and actions are used to control, belittle, or dominate. Both people are snappy or distant because of exhaustion, pain, or sensory overload.
The goal is power. The goal is relief.

🕊️ Ask: “Are we trying to win—or trying to breathe?”

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⚖️ 2. Check the Pattern

When It’s Toxic When It’s Tired
Cycle of control → apology → repeat. Irritability or shutdowns appear only during high stress, sickness, or chaos.
They never take ownership. They usually apologize once calm and try to improve.

🕊️ Ask: “Is this who we are—or how we’ve been under pressure?”

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💬 3. Check the Communication

When It’s Toxic When It’s Tired
Gaslighting, guilt trips, triangulation (“Tell them I said—”). Misunderstandings from sensory overload, ADHD brain fog, or poor timing.
Conversations feel like interrogations. Conversations just keep getting lost in translation.

🕊️ Ask: “Is truth being twisted, or are we just tangled?”

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❤️ 4. Check the Safety Level

When It’s Toxic When It’s Tired
You feel afraid, controlled, or small. You feel drained but basically safe.
Threats, insults, or financial manipulation. Short tempers, silent treatments, stress meltdowns—followed by remorse.

🕊️ Ask: “Am I unsafe—or just overwhelmed?”

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🌿 5. Check the Environment

Sometimes the “villain” is invisible:
• Mold / Toxins: cause brain fog, mood swings, fatigue, reactivity.
• Chronic Illness / Pain: constant discomfort fuels irritability.
• Neurodivergence: different processing speeds and sensory thresholds = misfires.
• Financial Strain / Crisis Living: survival mode replaces tenderness.

🕊️ Ask: “If our bodies and space were healthier, would this still feel the same?”

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🧭 6. Check the Fruit

“You will know them by their fruits.” — Matthew 7:16 (NRSV)

Healthy-under-stress relationships still show:
• Humility → “I was wrong.”
• Repair → “Let’s fix this.”
• Hope → “We’ll get through it.”

Toxic ones show:
• Pride → “I did nothing wrong.”
• Deflection → “It’s your fault.”
• Decay → “Nothing ever changes.”

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💡 7. What To Do Next
1. Document patterns (dates, triggers, recoveries).
2. Address environment (air quality, sleep, diet, rest).
3. Get support—therapy, medical check, or pastoral care.
4. Re-evaluate after the storm calms.
5. If harm continues, reach out to a domestic-violence hotline or Wind Haven advocate for safety planning.

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🌸 Closing Reflection

Sometimes the relationship needs counseling.
Sometimes the body needs healing.
Sometimes the house just needs clean air.
Discernment is learning which one it is—
and giving each the remedy it deserves.

10/05/2025

We were forced out of apartment in Georgia due to toxic mold that had probably been there longer than us, and we were there six years. When my husband and I got married almost a year ago we didn’t need a registry because we had everything we needed… but the mold ate it. As we near our first anniversary and are settling back in Indiana I’ve created this registry for recovery and if anyone would like to help out we’d be eternally grateful. Otherwise please keep us in your prayers. This was the right move and things are getting better! God is and always will be in control. ♥️🙏🏻🙌🏻

09/26/2025

The truth is the Bible is very specific about what it takes to fix damaged relationships and broken trust - and it’s not what you may have heard in the past.

09/14/2025

🌿 Hello Muncie! We’re Wind Haven 🌿

Wind Haven is a nonprofit originally founded in Georgia by our family to support survivors of domestic abuse—including systemic abuse—and to combat homelessness and rising poverty, which often leave survivors trapped and contributes to further housing instability. We know that in many communities, exploitative landlords, unsafe housing, and a lack of affordable options make it even harder for survivors and vulnerable tenants to find stability.

Our family and nonprofit were displaced in Georgia due to negligent landlords and mold in the apartment we had called home and run our grassroots nonprofit from for five years. We returned to Muncie seeking better opportunities, more favorable income, and a place to continue our mission.

While exploring the local housing scene, we quickly noticed many properties facing the same problems we left behind. In Georgia, fighting these issues wasn’t feasible—but here in Muncie, there’s a spark we didn’t see before: the Hoosier fire. Local activists, students, and tenants are standing up, speaking out, and demanding change. Georgia was complacent… but Muncie is not.

We were forced out of Georgia, but have not forgotten what we left behind. We intend to continue our work here and expand back to where it started and nationwide to combat these issues head on.

I’m the CEO and visionary of Wind Haven, a Hoosier native, born at Ball Memorial Hospital, raised in Selma, Muncie, and a Cowan graduate, and also a Human Services major. I’m bringing my experience, education, and passion home to listen, learn, and support tenants and survivors in our community.

Right now, we’re officially setting up Wind Haven in Indiana and starting small, one step at a time. Follow us to stay connected and hear how we aim to make a difference for tenants and survivors in Muncie.

09/01/2025

08/16/2025

🚨 Wind Haven Update: From Crisis to Continuation 🚨

Our Wind Haven family has faced a severe black mold infestation, forcing a difficult but necessary decision: we’re relocating to Muncie, Indiana, to stabilize our health and our nonprofit. It’s literally “Muncie or bust.”

But we’re not leaving our mission behind. From Muncie, we will continue our Warner Robins housing project, working to fight the root causes of systemic abuse, injustice, and oppression—what we define as systemic domestic abuse. For years, we’ve lived the challenges of Georgia’s housing crisis—experiencing firsthand the barriers and systemic failures that trap families like ours. These lived experiences are now shaping the pilot program ideas that will become a national model of support for survivors.

Why your support matters:
• Survivor-led mission: Solutions come from real-life experience, not theory.
• Fighting systemic abuse: We don’t just treat symptoms—we confront the root causes of injustice, oppression, and domestic abuse.
• Developing programs from lived challenges: Our insights ensure practical, effective support for others.
• Scalable national vision: Your contribution fuels the backbone of Wind Haven so we can turn these ideas into actionable programs nationwide.
• Stabilizing our team: Operating from Indiana allows us to work efficiently and safely—while continuing our Georgia initiatives.

💛 How you can help:

Donations to Wind Haven’s General Operations Fund directly support our ability to:
• Maintain daily operations while developing programs based on lived experience
• Continue the Warner Robins project from Muncie
• Fight systemic abuse by supporting displaced families rebuilding in safe environments

Every contribution, no matter the size, fuels survivors helping survivors. We can’t do this without you.

[Donate Now → https://WindHavenFoundation.org/donate]

Thank you for standing with us—through the crisis, the move, and the mission. Together, we’re confronting the root causes of abuse and building solutions that last.

07/29/2025

🌬️ Wind Haven Foundation // Real Talk Series
💬 From the Desk of Sarah Grace Yoder-McEntyre, CEO

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🎯 Let’s Be Clear: This Isn’t About Control—It’s About Covenant

There’s a lot of noise out there about “living together before marriage,” and it usually centers around s*x. But at Wind Haven Foundation, we dig deeper than that. We don’t do surface-level religion—we seek God’s heart.

So let’s set the record straight.

I’m not trying to push s*x outside of commitment. In fact, I’m saying the opposite.

What gets twisted is this idea that marriage equals covenant. But the truth is:

Marriage—legally speaking—was a concession. Covenant is God’s design.

S*x outside of commitment hurts—not because God’s mad, but because God loves us enough to protect us from soul wounds.

It hurts when someone cheats. It hurts when someone uses s*x as leverage in a fake relationship. It hurts when you give your body to someone who hasn’t committed to your soul.

God’s not uptight about your floorplan—He’s concerned about your foundation.

At Wind Haven, we walk with survivors every day who’ve been used, discarded, and betrayed by people who played house with holy things. And we see the healing that happens when people stop chasing contracts and start pursuing covenant.

So no, living together isn’t automatically sin.

But calling something covenant when it isn’t?
That’s where hearts get broken.

God’s not anti-s*x. He’s anti-using people.
He’s not anti-living together. He’s anti-confusion and counterfeit love.

Don’t just ask:

“Can we live together if we’re not having s*x?”

Instead, ask:
• Are we walking in covenant, not just comfort?
• Are we honoring each other’s emotional, spiritual, and physical safety?
• Are we building a relationship that reflects heaven, not just a Netflix account?

Because covenant isn’t just saying “I do.” It’s saying, “I’m staying.”
It’s protection before passion.
Foundation before furniture.
Legacy before lifestyle.

At Wind Haven, we believe in that kind of love.

You are more than a conqueror.
You’re an Overcomer.

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🔗 Learn more about covenant, healing, and relationship recovery at WindHavenFoundation.org
📖 Need help navigating relationship questions? Join our free virtual support group or browse our resources.
📬 Got a question for Sarah? Email [email protected].

07/28/2025

Fair housing is key to ending domestic violence cycles. Warner Robins’ housing crisis shows how safety, justice, and dignity are deeply connected.

https://windhavenfoundation.org/secrets-of-the-hidden-fair-housing-crisis-in-warner-robins/

Fair housing is key to ending domestic violence cycles. Warner Robins’ housing crisis shows how safety, justice, and dignity are deeply connected.

07/26/2025

📍 WARNER ROBINS, GA—WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT HOUSING.

You ever walked into a place and thought, "This isn't just a fixer-upper... this is a safety hazard"?

We have.

Too many survivors of domestic violence in Middle Georgia are being funneled into housing that looks like a time capsule from 1985—and not the charming kind. We're talking busted HVAC, moldy vents, roach hotels, carpets so torn you could trip into next week. 🪳💀

This isn’t just about comfort—it’s about dignity, safety, and survival.

🚨 Domestic violence doesn’t end when someone leaves—it just changes forms. Unsafe, unstable housing puts survivors and families right back at risk. That’s why Wind Haven is stepping in.

But we can’t do it without YOU.

🛠️ Here’s how you can help us bring safe, affordable housing to Warner Robins and support survivors in rebuilding their lives:

💻 Donate directly through our website

🛍️ Shop in our donation-based store or grab a membership to support our mission

✉️ Sign up for our Recovering with Grace blog (we recommend a one-time donation with sign-up)

🛒 Use our affiliate products—100% of proceeds support Wind Haven programs

🏢 Are you a local business? Let’s talk corporate sponsorships for community housing & DV prevention

🌐 Every gift is tax-deductible, every dollar goes to work right here in Houston County, and every action says:
"We won't let our neighbors slip through the cracks."

👉 Visit WindHavenFoundation.org to get involved.

Let’s give Warner Robins a housing future worth coming home to.