06/09/2026
AITA for getting annoyed at my mum for not trying to learn the language of the country she has lived in for 20 years?
Moving this further up because people seem to disregard the edits: her English skills are adequate, she knows enough to get by but struggles from time to time.
So I (19F) just got into an argument with my mum (47), and long story short it all started from when I made a comment about how her and my father can barely speak English, despite having lived here for 20 years.
What started off as something I said in passing blew up into something which led to an explosive argument and lead to me storming off to my room. You see here’s the thing, she was complaining about how it’s so easy for people who live in England and speak English to get their way and sort out their problems. I then said maybe if she had actually put in the effort to learn the language and the customs of the country she lived in, she could effectively sort out her problems too.
Here’s what she said, that there’s no need to ‘waste’ her time to become more educated or learn the language of a country she doesn’t see her self staying in for long. She also proceeded to talk about how she is a mother and doesn’t have time to invest in learning the language.
Right. Okay. That doesn’t make any sense.
She then said she doesn’t want to become educated, or learn about other cultures or customs and just wants to focus on religion because she’s an old woman.
I then remembered something she used to preach about all the time...