05/08/2025
Spaghetti Made Me Think About Women’s Brains 🍝
The other night, I had spaghetti for dinner — and as random as it sounds, it made me think about how women are wired.
Let me explain.
As a therapist, I’ve sat with thousands of women. And one thing I’ve come to observe — and deeply respect — is how interconnected their thoughts, emotions, and responsibilities are.
Imagine a plate of spaghetti. Every noodle is touching another noodle. You can’t just grab one without grabbing a few others by accident. That’s how a woman’s mind works. Everything connects. Everything touches.
A woman can be thinking about work… while also thinking about the kids, her weight, what to cook for dinner, how someone’s tone rubbed her the wrong way, what she forgot to do yesterday, and what she needs to prepare for tomorrow — all at the same time. And not in a chaotic way, but in a flowing, layered, and powerful way.
Bro, if you tried to follow just one thought (like tracing one noodle on the plate), you’d bump into five others along the way. That’s what makes her her. She lives from a place where everything is woven together.
It’s why my wife can:
• Talk on the phone
• Text three people back
• Stir the food on the stove
• Jot down the grocery list
• Remind the kids about chores
• And close the door with her foot — without breaking stride.
And me? I’m usually just focused on one thing — because like most men, I compartmentalize. We’re more like waffles: little boxes, one thing at a time. That’s not wrong. It’s just different.
So brothers… hear me on this:
👉🏾 Don’t just look at what she does — see how she carries it all.
👉🏾 Don’t get annoyed at her need to process. Appreciate the depth it comes from.
👉🏾 Don’t assume she’s “doing too much.” Recognize that her mind is built to hold and manage complexity.
She’s a masterpiece — not just because of what she does, but because of how she’s wired.
Celebrate that. Thank her for it. And let her know you see her.
She’s a blessing.
