20/03/2025
IF ALL WOMEN COULD STOP DOING THIS.
The society we live in, our homes/way of upbringing has (by default) conditioned the girl child to always think of themselves less or of lesser value, even in vital conversations that the woman could have given a better angle to in resolving a problem.
First of all, being a woman doesn't make you less human in nature, in fact, it adds more value to the human specie. But unfortunately, almost everything in our society, culture or work environment doesn't speak volume of how valuable a woman is, and that is such a terrible thing.
Here's an instance. There was this lady who lost her sanity due to what transpired between her and the man she was dating at a time.
Some years ago, a certain lady (whom we would call Funke) started dating this dude, but before she met him, she had already graduated from the University and was already working in a big multinational company, and her salary was 700,000naira - However, the man's salary was way below what she earned, rather than becoming a support system for Funke in order for her to achieve more growth in her career path, the man started complaining about how it was improper for a woman to earn higher than her man.
It continued to become a reoccurring debate that'll often cause little f!ğhts in the relationship, Funke who was deeply in love with this man felt the best way to handle the situation was to be submissive to her man's request, his request was that she should resign from the company and look for a lesser paying job that wouldn't have an intimidating salary, one that won't make people think she's way out his league - She eventually quite her well paying job, took on a smaller job at a business centre to satisfy her man's ego.
Unfortunately, this didn't solidify the relationship as she had thought, despite being the impression her man had given.
He broke up with her a few months later over a flimsy excuse - in fact, it was tied to the new job she had taken up, he said that the job made him look like he was dating a local girl who doesn't have class.
It was unbelievable to Funke, because she had invested all her emotions and life into this relationship, she had sacrificed all that she had achieved just to please her man, yet this didn't make him stay.
She literally lost her sanity. Well, thanks to the good and supportive friends she had who helped her recover overtime, however this is one experience she'll never forget as long as she's alive.
Hearing people share their personal stories like this often breaks my heart. Because in different ways countless women are re-oriented, twisted about their value or how they should live their lives, how high in life they should or should not aim for.
It is a societal plague that needs to be cured, it is a lifelong lie we've fed our female children that they shouldn't aim higher than a man in a public space or office.
We k!ll dreams, we k!ll potentials, we kill generations of ideas and values that could have made the world a better place, we suppress change makers that could have turned the world around in a positive direction.
All this, because someone centuries ago felt it makes sense to only glorify the achievements of a man, and that women only need to feed off from the crumbs that fall off the table of the men.
This is a concept that we need to [K]ill forever, that perception needs to be (b)uried and never be uprooted again till eternity.
Dear women, you're more valuable than the world has taught you to believe - You are not less human and your virtues aren't lesser too.
Stop the devaluation of your potentials and begin to aim for the skies, express yourself, be vocal, be bold, be fearless, be creative and don't be apologetic about your rizz.
