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Psychologist translating therapy into practical tools for nervous system regulation and sustainable growth.

31/07/2026

Ever felt like there's a part of you watching your emotions unfold? 🤔

Tag someone who needs to explore their inner self!

Today, we dive into the incredible capacity of self-observation. This isn’t just philosophical chatter; it’s about our evolution.

Imagine if we only reacted without understanding our feelings. Scary, right? The ability to ask ourselves, "Why am I feeling this way?" is what sets us apart as humans.

William James taught us that we are both the observer and the observed. This duality helps us reflect, learn, and grow. It’s this self-awareness that gives us control over our actions and choices.

So remember, it’s not just about what you feel, but how you understand those feelings. Let’s keep exploring this journey together!

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6aKbVKyL0KUW1ZiTo5E2XB?si=f-YVh55eSQCii3JpQO5qcQ

31/07/2026

People often think psychological health means never feeling anxious, sad, angry, or afraid.

I don't think that's true.

One of the greatest gifts of the human mind is our ability to experience emotion while simultaneously observing it.

That observing self allows us to remember, reflect, choose, and respond instead of simply reacting.

In this episode I explore William James' ideas about the knower and the known, developmental psychology, psychotherapy, and even how running helped me understand what psychological freedom really looks like.

I hope you'll listen.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6aKbVKyL0KUW1ZiTo5E2XB?si=f-YVh55eSQCii3JpQO5qcQ

17/07/2026

Are we really seeing the full story behind "perfect" lives?

A lot of what looks glamorous from the outside can actually be someone managing life with a very narrow range of emotion. It may look polished, confident, even aspirational — but that doesn’t mean it’s healthy or sustainable.
Don’t aspire to be someone else’s ideal self. Aspire to be whole, grounded, and honest about your own emotions.
The most important question isn’t “How do I look like them?”

It’s “What am I trading away to get there?”
Save this as a reminder to choose emotional health over image.
That's why understanding the psychology of the self is so powerful.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/79JEAXqENQrZcoE7vMskSE?si=kMEl-W-CQgaHSZDvlx34rQ

17/07/2026

New Podcast Episode--the second installment in our series on the self is live: #86 The Self Doesn't Just Describe Who You Are—It Shapes How You Experience the World

In this episode, we explore the
how our self-concepts include the actual self, the feared self, and the ideal self.

It’s a thoughtful conversation about how our perceptions of ourselves shape our experiences and can lead to discouragement or motivation.

This episode talks about how therapy helps individuals differentiate and internalize healthier self-processes, moving from external regulation to internal resilience.

Listen to episode #86 and share your thoughts.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/79JEAXqENQrZcoE7vMskSE?si=kMEl-W-CQgaHSZDvlx34rQ

16/07/2026

A 23-year-old has just graduated from college and lands an entry-level job.
Every morning she has a choice:
Stay in bed.
Go to work.
Ask questions.
Volunteer for projects.
Learn new skills.
Those behaviors aren't simply motivated by a paycheck. BUT ALSO BY WHO SHE IMAGINES BECOMING.
"I want to be someone who has it together.”
"I don't want to end up drifting from job to job, living with people I do not like or my parent’s house.”

15/07/2026

This episode explores how the self is more than static qualities; it is an active, ever-changing psychological system. By unraveling the layers of self-concept, self-processes, and the different versions of ourselves, we gain tools for healthier self-management and deeper self-awareness—crucial for both personal growth and effective therapy.

15/07/2026

New episode is out 🎙️

If you’ve ever felt pulled between who you are, who you want to be, and who you fear becoming, this one is for you. This episode, we explore how the self isn’t just something we have, but something actively shaping how we think, feel, and behave.

Listen now at ...

https://open.spotify.com/episode/79JEAXqENQrZcoE7vMskSE?si=SSbpGYLVT9yAoEcfn5jHAw

15/07/2026

**🎙️ New Podcast Episode: The Dynamic Self**

Have you ever noticed that you seem like a different version of yourself depending on who you're with?

Maybe you're confident at work but quiet in a crowd. Calm with one friend but anxious with another. Hopeful one day and discouraged the next.

Does that mean you're being inauthentic?

Not at all.

In this episode, I explore one of psychology's most fascinating ideas: **your self-concept isn't fixed—it's dynamic.** The same person can organize their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors differently depending on the situation.

Using research and everyday examples, we'll explore:
✨ Why different relationships bring out different parts of you
✨ What psychologists mean by the *working self*
✨ How our ideal, actual, and feared selves influence motivation
✨ Why therapy isn't just about changing *who* you are, but changing *how* your mind organizes your experiences

If you've ever wondered why you don't always feel like the "same person," this episode is for you.

🎧 Listen wherever you get your podcasts.

For the full episode listen.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/86-the-self-doesnt-just-describe-who-you-are-it/id1521430215?i=1000776810894

10/07/2026

Ever ask for feedback-get their honesty and end up disappointed? You're not alone. Our motives (whether they are conscious or not) shape what we want to hear.
Drop a 🔥 if you've ever caught yourself seeking reassurance rather than truth.
Here’s the truth: we ask for feedback to serve one of three motives — to affirm, to verify, or to improve.
Affirmation: You want to feel good, so you choose positive comments.
Verification: You need to confirm your beliefs — even if they’re negative.
True assessment: You genuinely want to get better, no matter what.
Next time you ask for feedback, pause and ask yourself: What am I really seeking?

It might change what you hear — and how you grow.
Worth thinking about.
What’s your go-to motive when asking for feedback? Share below!

09/07/2026

“Your self-concept is made up of your memories, roles, beliefs, values, and experiences.

Episode 1 explores how psychologists think about identity.”

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