Happy Thing

02/07/2025

It's so crazy how you never even knew anything at all about red flags, boundaries, gaslighting, manipulation, or what a narcissist even was, until that one person came into your life and shattered your reality.
Before them, those words were just vague concepts—terms you might've heard in passing but never truly understood. You didn’t know that love could come with such hidden conditions. You didn’t realize that someone could look you in the eyes, say all the right things, and still have the most destructive intentions underneath. You were innocent—open-hearted, trusting, hopeful. And they saw that as opportunity.

That one person became a crash course in everything you never asked to learn.
They taught you that people will weaponize your kindness.
That silence can scream louder than words.
That apologies don’t always come, and closure isn’t something you’re guaranteed.
They made you question yourself, your worth, your sanity. You’d go to sleep wondering if you were too sensitive, too dramatic, too much. You twisted yourself into knots trying to make things work, trying to prove your love, trying to fix what you never broke.

And still, somehow, you kept giving chances.
Because you believed in potential. You saw the good in them, even when they showed you who they really were over and over again. You stayed longer than you should have, not because you were weak, but because you were loyal. You wanted to believe in the connection. You wanted to believe in them.

But the moment came—the final straw.
The awakening.
That painful, necessary breaking point where you saw everything clearly. The mask slipped. The charm faded. The illusion shattered. And for the first time, you stopped making excuses for them and started defending yourself instead.

And from that moment on, everything changed.
You began unlearning.
You began healing.
You started setting boundaries, not just with others, but with yourself—promising to never ignore the red flags again.
You researched. You cried. You confronted truths that were hard to face. And slowly, the version of you that they tried to destroy started rising again—this time stronger, wiser, more aware.

That one person didn’t just hurt you.
They woke you up.
They sparked the beginning of your healing journey.
And now you see people differently. You don’t just listen to words—you watch actions, you trust your intuition, and you protect your energy.

So while they tried to break you, they ended up building a version of you that they could never reach again.
And that’s the most powerful part of it all.
You didn’t just survive them.
You outgrew them.

02/07/2025

30/06/2025

"Relationship with a Narcissist in a Nutshell: You will go from being the perfect love of their life to nothing you do is ever good enough. You will give everything and they will take it all and give you less and less in return. You will end up depleted emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and probably financially—and then get blamed for it."

That’s the devastating cycle of being involved with a narcissist. At first, they mirror your dreams, your desires, your values, and make you feel like you’ve finally found someone who truly understands you. They shower you with attention, compliments, and promises of a beautiful future. But once they’ve secured your attachment, the mask starts to slip. The validation turns to criticism, the affection becomes cold indifference, and the love you once felt slowly fades into confusion and hurt.

You’ll try harder, give more, and sacrifice your own needs in hopes of bringing back the person they once pretended to be. But it’s never enough. The more you give, the less they appreciate. The more you compromise, the more control they demand. You will find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to someone who has already decided to devalue you.

By the time you realize what's happening, you’re drained—emotionally exhausted, mentally confused, spiritually lost, and maybe even financially broken. And instead of compassion, you’ll receive blame. They'll act like you were the problem all along, rewriting the narrative to suit their image and protect their ego.

That’s not love. That’s manipulation wrapped in false charm. Healing begins when you see the cycle for what it is and start reclaiming your worth, piece by piece.