The Nappy Harcissist

18/07/2025

18/07/2025

So youre single....

Is it a good thing???

Theres plenty of people out there, that will literally do anything, just so theyre not alone...

Some people, have to be with someone else, to make it in this life, and yet others are completely fine with being alone.

Some people are alone by choice, some are alone because their partners passed away, some people are alone because the person they love doesnt want to be with them, some people are alone because theyre scared of being hurt again, some people are alone because they dont believe there are anymore quality people out there...

Whatever the reason may be, and regardless of whether youre "good" with being alone, is being alone, good for you???

I could never tell you whether being in a certain relationship or in a relationship at all, but if do believe theres a way to tell whether of not being single is good for you!

What are you filling that void with???

Are you using that time, to figure out who you really are? Are you figuring out if your wants have changed? Are you seeing what led to your singleness? Have you thought about all the ways, you messed up in past relationships? Or is all, the other persons fault?

Are you trying to figure out what's best for your future, or are you waiting for someone else, to start back living?

What youre doing in your singleness, will make it real clear, whether or not being single, is good for you....

And just because theres been a season of your singleness that hasnt been good for you, doesnt mean you take away all the benefits of being single, from yourself...

Its only going to hurt other people, and eventually yourself, to be out there in relationships, when you never let being alone, be a good thing....

17/07/2025

This one is gonna be a little hot...

I heard one of the stupidest statements, I've ever heard. And it made my blood boil...

I was told, "its their fault, they feel like theyre all alone. Theres too much assistance out there. If they would have asked for help, they would have gotten it."

That is definitely NOT the case...

The only thing that guarantees you, is that everyone will know your business....

The "help" thats been out there (aside from the past maybe 2 yesrs) has been completely non existent to the regular person. Theres been a h0tline for years, up until recently, unless you were a danger to yourself or others, you'd only get told that you need to find a friend groupor a therapist. And if you call them more then twice, and haven't gotten a therapist and friend group, they'll tell you youre not trying to help yourself...

You definitely cant reach out to friends or family, and be 100% honest about what's in their head. Not without being looked at like a different person. And Lord forbid, that it be something that others dont see or believe in. Then, youre 100% crazy and wasting everyone's time.

Then, if you dont follow each person's "suggestions" then they write you off, because again, youre not trying to help yourself...

Dont let their be drugs involved...then, every problem you name off, is the drugs. You could have been sober your entire life, done drugs 3 times, and yet, thats where all of your problems come from. The more time spent on drugs, the less anyone, wants to hear you out....

Dont get me wrong, somebody else's problems, will never look or feel like our own, but that doesnt mean they're any less important...

People aren't speaking out, because of what the "help" actually looks like....

From experience, theres only a few times, I didnt regret reaching out for "help" and theres so many times, that reaching out and being slapped with regret, made me and my situation so much worse....

Watch what you say, when youre speaking out of ignorance, and if somebody reaches out for help, make sure youre helping them and not hurting them!

16/07/2025

We dont need to keep fighting these battles multiple times, and we definitely have to quit creating battles, that dont exist....

15/07/2025

If it raining, I can look outside and see that its raining, I could go outside and feel that it was raining, I could see puddles on the ground and water coming from the sky; and I would have to make the conclusion that it was raining...

We can all agree on that....

So for anyone thats ever had mental health issues, you might be triggered (not sorry) (because we do need to talk about this sh*t) but for anyone that hasnt, LISTEN UP...

When i had my mental breakdown, the fact that the events that had happened (past tense) (something that had happened and couldn't be changed) didnt happen. And everyday, more pieces of the day to day activities, slipped away...

I dont mean figuratively, I mean literally....like seriously, p**f that no longer existed. Down to needing a job to have ANYTHING. Down to needing to eat, to LIVE.

But, it doesnt start that way. It starts by you feeling like youre in one of your dreams...

Then it turns into you thinking that everyone is betraying you. Not because of anything that they are doing in the present day....(well maybe partly)

Then, when the things that dont have any importance as far as trying to figure how youre stuck in this time loop, start disappearing out of your life...it could be the most important thing in your life or the most insignificant, you dont have a choice of when they dissappear, so then that creates a whole separate set of issues...

Then it gets out, more then your close circle know about what you "THINK" is happening, and know you're "CRAZY"

At this point, work will be scarce...and it'll get worse daily...

If you have kids and haven't ruined your relationship with them, you've definitely left a mark on them, that'll they'll never forget. (unless they're infant or toddler size at the time)

If youre living alone, and somehow have managed to keep all your bills paid, you definitely dont have anything in order...youll be malnutritioned, and even people that have never done drugs....this is the point, even they start using (for those of us that were already doing drugs, or have done drugs got sober(ish) and then relapsed, this is where its a deep dive because, THERE HAS TO BE A CHANGE.....

This is when you start realizing somethings wrong. You know its partially you, but not all of it.........

Anyone that was in your life, they're not there....thats been ruined...

Theres still so much that you just cant make sense of...

Theres too much that you believe with every fiber in your soul...
Theres too many people involved to not question it though...

The entire time, you feel the pain in your heart of events that your mind doesnt believe happened, events that actually have happened since your life got put on pause, the pain that its causes to be at a battle what's real or not, and the pain that its causing to anyone around you...

So, then you make sure that no one can be around you, so you're atleast not a burden....

At this point, if you're alone, the success rate of getting out of that loop isnt high...

Theres literally nothing anyone can say or do, that would change your mind, not even your own words or actions...

Those are times where God is undeniable, but ik not trying to preach to you...

However, its not something people are imagining, its not something people are doing for attention, and yes there are terrible people out there that do put on an act....and their time will come...

But, for those that have made it through anything experience like this, its not just something that happened to you...it changes almost everything about you (atleast for a moment)

And even if all the good changes dont stink, that person will never go back to being who they were before...

Very rarely, do people open themselves up, to the possibility of building a life for themselves after having gone through something of that magnitude....

Fear!

For the longest time, it was the fear of it happening again...something happening, and then one day im stuck in a reality that isnt real, r ruining everything that is...

There might be a "label" i dont know and dont care....

This happened to me, and it changed who I am for the absolute best....and yea im not thrilled about certain situations. But I gained so much more then lost....

However. It took me 3 years to start saying that, 4 years to mean it, and 5 years to carve it in stone...

The number of people that are like me and are still here and have a story to bore people with, need to increase significantly....

Along with the number of ears willing to listen to the stories, the mouths or the hands to tell the stories, and the help thats offered and available to help the helpless....

For those of you that took the time to read this, I thank you. If nothing else, maybe you learned to see things through a different lense...

For those of you that have a story to tell, I welcome you with open arms....
For those of you that have advice for someone that might be going through something similar., leave it in the comments for them to read...

If you think this can help somebody you know or if you wanna spread awareness, share this thing...

If this doesnt concern you and you dont agree with what I said or anythjng really, click the back button and dont read it again, but if you feel the need to put your feelings in the comments with your objections, please DONT!

It might not be life or death serious to some, but people are dying everyday, because they feel like out of 8 billion people,not a single one of them cares about that person....

I know that LIE, all to well...I hear it every single day of my life, and I choose to fight it....

Let's make sure, no one else is out there fighting that voice alone!

14/07/2025

P**n = loneliness sold as s*x
Alcohol = escape sold as fun
Fast food = poison sold as food
Luxuries = emptiness sold as joy
Video games = isolation sold as play
Celebrities = ads sold as role models
Drugs = numbness sold as happiness
Social media = likes sold as friendship
Smoking = addiction sold as relaxation
Scrolling = distraction sold as downtime

Cheap dopamine is the Trojan horse of modern misery.

14/07/2025

Some men wake up at 18.

Some don’t wake up until life breaks them at 30.

Most… never wake up at all.

Son, no one’s coming.

- Not your friends.
- Not your parents.
- Not the system.

It’s just you your pain, your dreams, and your choices.

So wake up early.

- Fix your wallet.
- Fix your body.
- Fix your mind.

Because if you don’t fight for your life…

No one else will.

14/07/2025

Those people didnt become strangers overnight....
When you seen the gap come between yall for the first time, it wasn't that important...
However, its alot easier to walk away, from someone you dont recognize anymore...
But did you ever want, anything other then that outcome???

13/07/2025

If your best guy is thinking about quitting, you'd better pay attention.

He's not being dramatic.

He's not being lazy.

He's just tired of carrying the weight while no one else steps up.

He's tired of being micromanaged.

Tired of the double standards.

Tired of watching mediocrity get rewarded while real effort gets ignored.

Good people don't just walk away for no reason.

They burn out, they get fed up.

And eventually, they realize they deserve better.

And when they leave, they take more than just a set of hands.

You can't build a strong crew if your leadership keeps pushing the best ones out.

Respect isn't about pizza on Fridays.

It's about backing them up when it counts.

Letting them work without constant second-guessing.

And actually fixing the problems they speak up about.

So if your top guy is pulling away, don't blame him.

Look at what your culture has become.

And ask yourself why the one who always showed up is the one looking for the exit.

12/07/2025

I don't care how you look at it...
For the ones that are taking the losses, it doesn't seem like karma works fast enough...
For the ones that are handing out losses, it seems like karma didn't send a clear enough message...

However, I know this to be true...
You CAN NOT be out here hurting people, taking advantage of them, lying, stealing, harassing, fooling them, leading them on, or using them and live a good life...

It may be good for now, and you may feel as if you got away with it...
You can justify it, however you'd like, to make it where you can see no fault on your part...
But, ONE DAY, you're gonna have to face the music...

And whatever you think you gained by doing what you did, is only temporary, but what you'll lose from it...will be permanent...

12/07/2025

The key to everything you want in life, is already in your possession...its up to you, how you use it...