Lit AF Podcast

14/05/2025

Today I released the 200th episode for Lit AF Relationships podcast. I’m a very proud podcast mama. And to be honest I can’t believe I’ve done anything 200 times. This podcast is the reason I became an attachment coach. Over the years I just kept asking attachment related questions and I finally knew it was time to become a relationship coach. At first I was resistant. I think I always wanted to but was too afraid to step into a leadership position. Now you can’t get me off this mic!
Thank you to everyone who listens to the podcast. You are the fuel that keeps me going. It’s my life’s work to make homes safer for everyone. I hope these weekly episodes help you to show up with more love and support in all of your relationships.
This week’s episode is very special and features an amazing client who is making incredible change in her life. Link in bio to listen. 🎧

11/05/2025

10/03/2025

Happy (belated) International Women’s Day! Today, I want to take a moment to celebrate all the incredible women out there—doing the hard, invisible work of raising kids who are emotionally attuned, secure in their needs, and confident in their boundaries. The women who show up every day, working a 9-5, then coming home to cook a meal and listen deeply about everyone’s day. The women balancing careers, relationships, households, and parenting. We are magic.
Five years ago, I quit a 20-year smoking and drinking habit to prepare for pregnancy. At the time, I had no idea that quitting ni****ne and alcohol would lead me to the most rewarding work of my life—my own personal growth. With the space and clarity that sobriety gave me, I found myself exploring the bigger questions about life. That journey led me to healing my attachment style and showing up more authentically in the world.
I am forever grateful to my son for inspiring this work. I didn’t realize it then, but every step I took toward healing made me a more patient, understanding mom. And now, I get to raise my child in a home built on safety, trust, and love.
This weekend, I felt deeply proud to be a woman. We are powerful in so many ways. And I am endlessly grateful for the opportunity to pass on these lessons—to nurture the next generation with intention and care.
Cheers to you, to us, and to the magic we create every day. 💫✨

08/01/2025

Im hosting a free workshop to help you survive and thrive your recent divorce or breakup on January 16th at noon pst. I’m including all the information and tools I’ve picked up from my own past breakups and coaching people through theirs. I know how painful breakups and divorce can be and this workshop will help you feel more confident and secure in yourself.
Here’s what’s covered:
Step-by-step guide to being your confident and authentic self again.
Deep dive into the different attachment styles and their relationship patterns.
Three pillars to creating healthy relationships that feel supportive.
Register with the link in bio. I hope to see you there.

08/11/2024

My heart is hurting this week. I’ve tried to write this post three times now and my words are failing me. I wanted to write an inspirational message that reminded you to double down on self care. But it felt trite and unnecessary. Now that I’ve had some sleep and the smallest amount of time to process I just want to say that I’m disappointed. I wanted to see a female person of color in leadership in the White House. I have a huge amount of fear for the bigotry and hate that we’ll endure in for the next four years. And I’m so so incredibly grateful that I have the tools to process whatever emotions come my way as we navigate through this. 2016 stung like a slap in the face for being a woman. 2024 feels different. Like we’re both closer and farther somehow. This is certainly a setback and if I’ve learned anything from my work as a recovering fearful avoidant setbacks are in important part of the process. But they seriously suck when you’re in them. So that’s what I’ve got. Please take care of yourself and drink some extra water. Love, acceptance and connection will always find their way. 💔

31/10/2024

I cried after eating this gluten free churro because I thought I would never eat churros again after quitting gluten. Four years ago I would not have been able to acknowledge my tears let alone display them in public. Acknowledging feelings is a really tough process for dismissive avoidants. It feels so unsafe. Like it has to been done in private if it has to happen at all. But the best part of acknowledging my feelings is that I get to move past them. I cried, it was done. It didn’t linger. If you’re an avoidant reading this please know it’s possible to begin feeling your feelings. It will help create meaningful partnerships in your life. It’s a slow process but it can be done.

17/10/2024

Today’s the day. Join me live at 5pm pst to learn about your attachment style. I’ll cover the four main attachment styles and what they’re like in relationship to each other. Link in bio to register and join. See you then!

14/10/2024

Celebrating Indigenous People’s Day with my Indigenous family. I still find strands of white supremacy and patriarchy clouding my judgement and decision making. But a huge part of raising my son has been questioning the “rules” of the parenting and making it our own. Sadly it means that things like cosleeping and watching tv arent talked about. So I’m posting a photo of us all in bed which is how we have slept every night for the last 2 years.
I celebrate indigenous folks of past, future and present. We have so much to learn from you. And we have so much to repay. You make this world a much more interesting, rich, and connected place to be. 🌎❤️

04/10/2024

Want to know more about your attachment style? Join this free virtual workshop on October 17th at 5pm pst. You’ll learn more about your relationship to boundaries, emotions, and asking for your needs. I’ll also share about how the different attachment styles show up in relationship to each other. Link in bio to join.

26/09/2024

I don’t want to excuse this behavior but it is helpful to understand why they create space so you don’t take it personally. I know it feels personal but it’s their way to protect their heart, avoid vulnerability and conflict, and “process” on their own. Yes, they are the love wolves of the attachment spectrum because they had to be growing up. How do you manage the space that your avoidant needs?

24/09/2024

Announcement time. Hi folks, friends, and family. I have been slowly using this account to grow my relationship and communication coaching practice over the last 5 years. I originally used this personal account because it actually had followers and I was sharing weekly episodes of my podcast, now called Lit AF Relationships. So many of you have sent me words of encouragement over the years that have helped fueled me in this endeavor. Please know I am so grateful for your support. Now I realize I’ve been holding back on this channel because you represent a mix of personal and coaching connections. So, I’m making the official shift. This account will be dedicated to creating secure attachment for a healthy relationship. If you would like to follow along in my personal life, please head on over to There you will see jumpsuits, crocs, croc charms, and many baby photos. If you are not interested in the relationship content I share on this channel now is the time to unfollow or mute. I promise you won’t hurt my feelings. I want to make sure I’m helping the folks that need it and that means showing up fully as a relationship coach in this space. Thank you a million times. This is my personal passion to share this work with the world.

14/05/2024

My heart is open and my head is still swirling from last nights event with I met so many amazing women that were willing to share vulnerably and be open to change. I will forever be grateful for the work you do Kara. And now I get to crack open this book and learn some more about myself. Thank you! Thank you!!!