28/07/2025
AIO - it’s been 1.5 yrs+ and my ex just will not leave me alone
u/LemonStrict3040 says,
ok I know that the texts are a lot, and honestly it’s just a very brief snippet of all the pages upon pages of messages he has sent me over the last year and a half. For context, I (24F) met this guy (27M) when I was 19, he was 22 and we lived next door to each other. Long story short, we moved in together way too fast (after like 6 months), dated for 2.5 years and then I broke up with him. We were very different people, he’s a veteran and had just gotten out of the army when we met and we had very different views on the world, religion, future children, etc. I just wasn’t happy and couldn’t see myself marrying him, so I ended it. That was at the end of October, 2023.
He was never an emotional guy (that was part of the reason I was ending things) so I thought he would handle the breakup well, but he went a little crazy. He has been consistently blowing up my phone every couple of months for the last year and half, begging for a second chance, threatening [self-harm] at some points, begging for reasoning and closure. I explained my reasons for breaking up with him when I did it and several times after over text and he just won’t accept it. I haven’t engaged most of the time and just try to ignore his messages at this point but I don’t know if that’s the right thing to do. It should also be noted that these messages span across Instagram, Facebook, texts, and when I’ve blocked profiles he’s created new ones to continue messaging me. I hadn’t heard from him since January (he left me a 30 min voice memo talking about how I apparently have no integrity or honor and that I ruined his life ofc) and kinda thought it was over until he started messaging me on Facebook AND Instagram from Friday through Sunday, sending like 30 messages over the weekend.
AIO? I feel like this is just crazy behavior, but should I solidify my boundaries again or just ignore him?