13/08/2025
In Modern Marriage, Love Is Optional—Divorce Is Mandatory
Let’s be candid:
Modern women don’t come to build,
She came for the benefit,
She wanted the ring, the attention, and the big grand party.
But not the responsibility that came after.
Modern marriage is not built on togetherness.
It’s built on what he has to offer her
Until her hunger can no longer be sated
Then she leaves.
Let’s break it down.
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1. She prepared for a wedding—Not a marriage
In this current time,
Modern women want the wedding
Especially the one that comes with a lot of paparazzi
They learn everything that comes with a wedding
Not with a marriage
She didn’t stay to learn how to submit,
how to support a man or to stay through storms.
And the minute reality showed up
She checked out emotionally.
And looking up divorce trends on Instagram .
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2. She wanted a king but hates what comes with being with a king
The throne is not a easy seat
She wanted a man who could lead
But fought for control at every turn.
And every decision became a debate.
If he sets boundaries, she says he’s too controlling
She didn’t want a man, she wanted a clown that she can control,
And the moment she sees there’s no room for that
She looks for all possible means to leave
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3. Her own love is conditional but yours is not allowed to be.
You were expected to provide,
To protect and leas,
No issues with that
But you weren’t allowed to take a breather
But her own love had terms and conditions attached to it
On days you forgot date night
She zones off and becomes emotionally unavailable to you
You explained that it was work
But she fell on dead ears
And after a while, she decided she wanted out
Her unhappiness now? Your fault.
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4. She said “I do” but it came with a clause—until she doesn’t want to anymore.
She said forever,
But didn’t really mean it
Her “I do” is conditional until she no longer has interest
The marriage is not just between you both but involves her friends.
One rough patch and she’s talking to her friends.
A couple disagreements and she’s planning her exit
She wanted a man who wouldn’t leave,
But she gave herself the permission to quit first.
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5. Society was more married to her than her husband
Instead of following wisdom,
She followed influencers
Her idea of marriage came from TikTok,
Not the scripture
So she brought feminism to the altar,
And pride into the bedroom.
Every correction became criticism.
Every compromise felt like slavery.
And when submission was necessary
She was repulsed by it
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6. Modern women marry not because they need a partner but a provider
Every question she ever asked you
Always ended up with her as the beneficiary
You were the cover for her bills and rent
She didn’t really want to build a future
She wanted to enjoy one that you build for her
And when you needed her most
She ghosted
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7. Divorce has always been her backup plan
She didn’t come to fight for the marriage,
She came with an escape route in her back pocket.
One disagreement?
She’s on the phone with her friends
A rough month,
She’s fantasizing about her soft life era.
The modern woman says till death do us part
But only stays as long as she’s never inconvenienced.
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Final Word:
It’s not about loyalty anymore.
It’s about leverage, what can be gotten
Modern women want the fairytale,
Not the work that comes with marriage
The truth is
Modern women say they want love
But they’ve been trained overtime to leave
The modern woman says she wants a man
But she has made divorce the destination from the start.
It’s why a thinking men must be scared of riding himself to the slaughterhouse called marriage.
