DrNeethu Krishnan

28/08/2025

🥴 Recently, I read this news: UP Man Wanted Wife To Look Like Nora Fatehi, made her starve, work out 3 hours daily, and allegedly Made Her Abort.

This made me wonder. How unhealthy obsession not only destroys the life of the one having it but also that of those associated with such people?.

So here's my 2 cents about it as a Psychologist.
Psychologically, this case is an excellent example of unhealthy obsession.
What happens on the screen does not always stay there. We bring back ideas, notions, and sometimes unhealthy goals from the screen.

Words that describe an unhealthy obsession may include fixation, mania, preoccupation, infatuation, craze, monomania, and limerence when the obsession is directed toward a person. Which was in the case in this one.

In this case, the fixation of this man disconnected him from his reality and took him to a "delulu" world where he had a mental narrative in his head completely off from reality. This interfered with his daily life, which led him to the extreme of being a criminal with his own wife.

People bring unreal images of perfectionism, such as, " How an ideal man should look like?"," How an ideal woman should look like?", "How a mother should be?", " How a good wife looks like?", " How a family should look like ?".

One size doesn't fit all when it comes to reality. Reality is humans come in all shapes and sizes, mentally and physically. Only way to be accepting of oneself is in a way where you leave space for growth, but do not become obsessed with the goal that you destroy or harm your current self or others.

The reality is always far more different than what we see on a screen or what we consume on social media. This consumption and obsession have led many individuals to hate themselves, others, and have led to extremism.

Being aware of this unhealthy mental picture is the only rational way to stay away from the screen world and be more connected with the real world. Also, whenever you notice such a pattern with a family member or friend, instead of ignoring, confront them with the necessity to get help from a mental health professional. Educate, empower, and refer is the only way to go about such issues before they turn into a scene of crime or danger for themselves or others.

So let's stay real and not reel 👍

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12/10/2024

Dear Readers,

🤯I am in extreme shock looking at the growing number of individuals taking short therapy courses and then advertising themselves as life coaches or mental health experts without adequate qualifications.

This is BS and I am calling it out as what it truly
is 🚫

I strongly believe such unscrupulous practices must be called out to protect the integrity of mental health support.

These are my two cents on the same :

🟩 While these courses may provide basic insights, they do not equip individuals with the depth of knowledge required to handle complex emotional or psychological issues.

🟩 True therapy requires years of training, clinical supervision, and certification to ensure that therapists are fully prepared to address the unique needs of each client.

🟩 When unqualified individuals attempt to step into these roles, it can lead to misinformation, ineffective guidance, or even emotional harm to vulnerable clients.

🟩 It’s essential for people seeking support to verify the credentials of their life coaches or therapists, ensuring that they have undergone accredited training.

Mental health is a serious matter, and relying on well-trained, qualified professionals is key to effective, safe care. The next time anyone looks for therapy/ counseling please check the background and education of your psychologist. Don’t fall prey to such quacks/unqualified self proclaimed life coaches/psychologists/Therapists .
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10/10/2024

Dear Community ,

As a psychologist, I have witnessed firsthand the profound impact that mental health has on every aspect of our lives. Through my work with clients and myself , it has become very clear to me that mental health isn’t only about managing mental health conditions. It’s also about creating a balanced, fulfilling life where one can thrive emotionally, socially, and cognitively.

In my daily life, I dedicate time to mental health in small but consistent ways. I practice mindfulness every morning, taking a few moments to center myself before the day begins with stretching and silence morning practice for an hour after I wake up. This helps me approach my work and personal life with clarity and calm. I also prioritise self-care, whether it’s through a quick walk, reading, or just stepping back from work to breathe.

By setting boundaries between work and personal life, I ensure I don’t overextend myself emotionally, which is crucial for maintaining my capacity to support my clients. Watering ourselves before we can water others is crucial. We cannot pour from an empty cup. Being a psychologist can get mentally draining if we do not take care of our own mental health foremost. ( Remember the part where the flight attendants ask us to wear our own oxygen mask before we help others in case of emergency) .

On this world mental health day (10th October ) , I believe we should prioritise our mental well-being every day, as that can help us to be better equipped to contribute positively to our communities, families, and workplaces. Strong mental health enhances our ability to handle stress, build meaningful relationships, and make balanced decisions, all of which ripple outward to impact the people around us.

Do not take me wrong, although I emphasise on the prevention it leaves no stone unturned for the need of a professional. Counseling is essential as a treatment because it provides individuals with a safe, non-judgmental space to explore their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. It allows people to gain insight into their challenges, develop coping strategies, and address underlying issues such as trauma, stress, or relationship difficulties.

By working with a trained professional, individuals can process their experiences, challenge unhealthy patterns, and develop healthier ways of thinking and behaving. This personalised support is vital in managing mental health conditions like anxiety, depression, and stress, making counseling a critical element of holistic treatment.

What are the ways in which you take care of your mental health everyday ? .
Let’s share and get to know.

03/10/2024

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As a Counseling Psychologist with a strong background in Homeopathic Medicine, I believe in the power of holistic healing. My approach combines the best of both worlds: compassionate therapy and a deep understanding of the mind-body connection. Together, we'll work to address your unique challen...

20/06/2021

PRIDE 🏳️‍🌈
Your sexuality is something you should be proud of. Nothing to be ashamed about or to be hidden.
The shame and social stigma against various sexuality is dealt by people even today. Why? Because of our ignorance, inadequate knowledge and judgmental outlook. Instead of calling out names , we need to educate ourselves that sexuality comes in all different colors. Just like how all colors in a rainbow makes it beautiful, it's the coexistence and love between each person irrespective of their sexuality that would make the society beautiful ❤️
I have felt aphalled and disgusted when people say it's a disease, disorder, something that can be corrected!!!!
It's as natural as it can get. Human desire is the natural inclination we feel. Not something we decide and choose. Let's respect such a natural and beautiful process 🏳️‍🌈
I would request and plead each one of you to read about the same . Trust me it is something we all need to learn more about to have a beautiful coexistence. Let's kick out our ignorance. The more we know, the more we can pass on the information to the unknowing and our upcoming generations 💛
HAPPY PRIDE MONTH TO EACH ONE OF YOU 🏳️‍🌈

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Is Minimalism the answer to Anxiety and Stress disorders?

Minimalism as a concept of living means living with the bare essentials.

Decluttering the non-essentials and hoarding patterns within ourselves can lead to beneficial results in everyday life.

A certain sense of uneasiness is common in all anxiety and stress-related disorders. Common everyday scenarios may include as below.

How often have you regretted the decisions taken once those impulsive buys have arrived?

Have you ever felt bogged down by your belongings and the overwhelming feeling you have before cleaning those?

Have you ever got angry at yourself for not knowing where that office folder is at the last minute of a meeting about to happen?

How many mornings have you wasted your precious energy deciding what to wear and then tired of it just decided to wear whatever?

How many times have you wasted time thinking about what food to order or what to cook?

Have you not felt a sense of guilt when you see objects or items that were bought by you but never used, the ones gifted by close ones to you but never used, the ones which remind you of hurtful memories?

Many a time it is common to find ourselves drawn to impulsive shopping for a void emotionally or to feel a temporary high or happiness. Many of us are guilty of such buys. Once it is done, the stress levels, the anxiety, all the thought patterns repeat itself. It is common for people to find an escape in the form of materialistic wealth.

The more belongings and material possessions that you own, the more energy is spent in reviving and keeping the same prim and proper. There is a certain amount of everyday mental energy that is spent on the same.

Prioritising the things that are valuable to you can lead to better clarity of thoughts. The lesser clothes, files, folders, furniture you own, the lesser becomes the obligation to be spending time on each of them. Constant cleaning, tidying, and maintenance of the same can cause a certain level of anxiousness in daily life. More than the process, there is a certain level of mental fatigue associated with the constant thought process related to material possessions.

Decluttering has shown to improve mental abilities and leads to better focus and clarity.

Decision fatigue is another common issue most people face when presented with many choices. If we take clothes, for example, decision fatigue creeps in when there is a lack of organisational skills.

Many known personalities such as Mark Zuckerberg wear the same pattern of clothes every day to reduce this so-called Decision fatigue.

In the clothing aspect, this fatigue can be helped by owning a few pairs of clothing that are comfortable and easy to be paired along. The concept of a capsule wardrobe has been in trend lately as a result of the same.

Clutter can lead to mental fatigue, exhaustion, also feelings of guilt and comparison leading to unhappiness.

Of course, to live we need our essentials and this list of essentials can vary from individual to individual depending on your personality. The essentials to one may be non-essentials to another.

Minimalism is to live comfortably with the least material possessions. Decluttering is the most important aspect of the same.
It can help to save time and energy, also providing a sense of calm and comfort.

With lesser possessions, you can be sure of what you own and end up spending less energy searching for daily items like car keys, house keys, and also less time deciding what to wear. In a workspace, anxiety usually creeps in when you are unaware of the folders, files, or important matters and can't find it at the last minute. Being late, lack of time is a very common anxiety trigger. Such a last-minute sense of urgency and stress can be excellently dealt with a minimalist way of living. This can help to wonderfully deal better with your anxiety and stress disorders.

Clearing out desks with fewer essential items can make it organised and help in better productivity. It can also help you to focus on the important tasks at hand rather than losing focus due to the clutter.

A minimalist way of living also helps you to avoid unwanted everyday comparisons that can otherwise come in.
Minimalism can help you to also reduce the fears of financial insecurities. When you start living in such a way, you realise you have a sense of identity even if all the material things are taken away from you. You realise that material possessions are not the need for happiness or contentment. You start to seek happiness within and not externally as the form of immediate happiness.

Minimalism on a broader spectrum can also help in ecological sustainability.

A common example is of fast fashion. Fast fashion is a trend where clothes are purchased as per the current trend only to end up unused once the trend surpasses. This can lead to an individual sense of guilt and also on a broader level add up to the ecological waste.

We live in a world of consumerism where we are bombarded with constant advertisements of why we need every product available in the market. The sense of need creation should be tackled effectively and thoughtfully by all of us.

Minimalism in digital media should also be practised by us. Current times are times of information overload. We have so much information at our disposal that we need to be aware of what to consume and what not to.
Spending adequate time and also not feeling stressed by other people's accomplishments in social media is also important. Most of the times social media shows us only the happy aspects of things rather than the stark reality.

A minimalist everyday approach can make you a lot more mindful and help you to achieve a calmer state of mind.

A minimalist approach to living is definitely something to be thought of and to be implemented in everyday life that can help in stress and anxiety-related disorders. Also the need for medications, proper treatment and counselling are not to be overlooked for such cases depending on the severity of the individual.

Written by,
Dr Neethu Krishnan

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