DrNeethu Krishnan

26/01/2026

magine a world where you can rent out a family for yourself.

Need a husband for a wedding, when your family doesn't accept, understand, or know about your sexual orientation?. Yes, you got it. Need a father for your daughter as a single mom? When you don't want to bring the biological father into the situation, you've got it. So this is the world where, in short, you can rent belonging (actors who can play any role you want them to play in your real lives).

This was the premise of the recent Japanese movie I watched called " The Rented Family." I am not here to speak about whether the concept is right or wrong; this is basically about how something like this affects humans.

What first appears as an unusual and bizarre concept slowly begins to feel like a subtle commentary on modern loneliness.
Because, at the core of the movie isn't the deception or fakery of these relationships; instead, it's about the "unmet emotional needs" of the characters, aka people.
How does even such a relationship impact their life, or does it have an impact at all?.

It raised an important question in my mind, "If a connection is structured but the comfort felt is real, does the heart experience it as real or fake?"
The lines blur when real emotions are felt amongst people, even in such a transactional setting.
Their choices (of renting a family) were not about pretending life was perfect, but they were about surviving emotional emptiness in a seemingly disconnected world.

The deeper question the film left me with was: The society we are all part of can take humans to outsource the sense of belonging anyday (If such a service is available, there would be takers). Today, the loneliness epidemic is real and affects 1 in 6 people, as a profound sense of disconnection

As a psychologist myself, it made me think,
How we create safe spaces personally and collectively for people to be real, seen, and imperfect can make a great deal of impact in their lives. And this will help to build communities where the sense of belonging doesn't have to be borrowed but where it can be lived, imperfectly but authentically.

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28/08/2025

🥴 Recently, I read this news: UP Man Wanted Wife To Look Like Nora Fatehi, made her starve, work out 3 hours daily, and allegedly Made Her Abort.

This made me wonder. How unhealthy obsession not only destroys the life of the one having it but also that of those associated with such people?.

So here's my 2 cents about it as a Psychologist.
Psychologically, this case is an excellent example of unhealthy obsession.
What happens on the screen does not always stay there. We bring back ideas, notions, and sometimes unhealthy goals from the screen.

Words that describe an unhealthy obsession may include fixation, mania, preoccupation, infatuation, craze, monomania, and limerence when the obsession is directed toward a person. Which was in the case in this one.

In this case, the fixation of this man disconnected him from his reality and took him to a "delulu" world where he had a mental narrative in his head completely off from reality. This interfered with his daily life, which led him to the extreme of being a criminal with his own wife.

People bring unreal images of perfectionism, such as, " How an ideal man should look like?"," How an ideal woman should look like?", "How a mother should be?", " How a good wife looks like?", " How a family should look like ?".

One size doesn't fit all when it comes to reality. Reality is humans come in all shapes and sizes, mentally and physically. Only way to be accepting of oneself is in a way where you leave space for growth, but do not become obsessed with the goal that you destroy or harm your current self or others.

The reality is always far more different than what we see on a screen or what we consume on social media. This consumption and obsession have led many individuals to hate themselves, others, and have led to extremism.

Being aware of this unhealthy mental picture is the only rational way to stay away from the screen world and be more connected with the real world. Also, whenever you notice such a pattern with a family member or friend, instead of ignoring, confront them with the necessity to get help from a mental health professional. Educate, empower, and refer is the only way to go about such issues before they turn into a scene of crime or danger for themselves or others.

So let's stay real and not reel 👍

Image credit: News18

12/10/2024

Dear Readers,

🤯I am in extreme shock looking at the growing number of individuals taking short therapy courses and then advertising themselves as life coaches or mental health experts without adequate qualifications.

This is BS and I am calling it out as what it truly
is 🚫

I strongly believe such unscrupulous practices must be called out to protect the integrity of mental health support.

These are my two cents on the same :

🟩 While these courses may provide basic insights, they do not equip individuals with the depth of knowledge required to handle complex emotional or psychological issues.

🟩 True therapy requires years of training, clinical supervision, and certification to ensure that therapists are fully prepared to address the unique needs of each client.

🟩 When unqualified individuals attempt to step into these roles, it can lead to misinformation, ineffective guidance, or even emotional harm to vulnerable clients.

🟩 It’s essential for people seeking support to verify the credentials of their life coaches or therapists, ensuring that they have undergone accredited training.

Mental health is a serious matter, and relying on well-trained, qualified professionals is key to effective, safe care. The next time anyone looks for therapy/ counseling please check the background and education of your psychologist. Don’t fall prey to such quacks/unqualified self proclaimed life coaches/psychologists/Therapists .
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10/10/2024

Dear Community ,

As a psychologist, I have witnessed firsthand the profound impact that mental health has on every aspect of our lives. Through my work with clients and myself , it has become very clear to me that mental health isn’t only about managing mental health conditions. It’s also about creating a balanced, fulfilling life where one can thrive emotionally, socially, and cognitively.

In my daily life, I dedicate time to mental health in small but consistent ways. I practice mindfulness every morning, taking a few moments to center myself before the day begins with stretching and silence morning practice for an hour after I wake up. This helps me approach my work and personal life with clarity and calm. I also prioritise self-care, whether it’s through a quick walk, reading, or just stepping back from work to breathe.

By setting boundaries between work and personal life, I ensure I don’t overextend myself emotionally, which is crucial for maintaining my capacity to support my clients. Watering ourselves before we can water others is crucial. We cannot pour from an empty cup. Being a psychologist can get mentally draining if we do not take care of our own mental health foremost. ( Remember the part where the flight attendants ask us to wear our own oxygen mask before we help others in case of emergency) .

On this world mental health day (10th October ) , I believe we should prioritise our mental well-being every day, as that can help us to be better equipped to contribute positively to our communities, families, and workplaces. Strong mental health enhances our ability to handle stress, build meaningful relationships, and make balanced decisions, all of which ripple outward to impact the people around us.

Do not take me wrong, although I emphasise on the prevention it leaves no stone unturned for the need of a professional. Counseling is essential as a treatment because it provides individuals with a safe, non-judgmental space to explore their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. It allows people to gain insight into their challenges, develop coping strategies, and address underlying issues such as trauma, stress, or relationship difficulties.

By working with a trained professional, individuals can process their experiences, challenge unhealthy patterns, and develop healthier ways of thinking and behaving. This personalised support is vital in managing mental health conditions like anxiety, depression, and stress, making counseling a critical element of holistic treatment.

What are the ways in which you take care of your mental health everyday ? .
Let’s share and get to know.

03/10/2024

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As a Counseling Psychologist with a strong background in Homeopathic Medicine, I believe in the power of holistic healing. My approach combines the best of both worlds: compassionate therapy and a deep understanding of the mind-body connection. Together, we'll work to address your unique challen...

20/06/2021

PRIDE 🏳️‍🌈
Your sexuality is something you should be proud of. Nothing to be ashamed about or to be hidden.
The shame and social stigma against various sexuality is dealt by people even today. Why? Because of our ignorance, inadequate knowledge and judgmental outlook. Instead of calling out names , we need to educate ourselves that sexuality comes in all different colors. Just like how all colors in a rainbow makes it beautiful, it's the coexistence and love between each person irrespective of their sexuality that would make the society beautiful ❤️
I have felt aphalled and disgusted when people say it's a disease, disorder, something that can be corrected!!!!
It's as natural as it can get. Human desire is the natural inclination we feel. Not something we decide and choose. Let's respect such a natural and beautiful process 🏳️‍🌈
I would request and plead each one of you to read about the same . Trust me it is something we all need to learn more about to have a beautiful coexistence. Let's kick out our ignorance. The more we know, the more we can pass on the information to the unknowing and our upcoming generations 💛
HAPPY PRIDE MONTH TO EACH ONE OF YOU 🏳️‍🌈

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