05/01/2024
As conversations around race grow in offices and around dinner tables, microaggressions have more of a chance to come out of the shadows.
But it puts non-white people in a difficult position. Not only do we have to reckon with the emotional impact of the microaggression itself, we have to choose how to respond– knowing our disadvantaged position in these scenarios. We have to consider how responding could further enforce false stereotypes about our race. We have to gauge whether we could be provoking more racial aggressions, even bodily harm. We also have to consider how staying silent will enforce this behavior in the future, and cause further suffering.
With privilege comes the responsibility to intervene on behalf of someone harmed and address racist interactions directly. Derald Wing Sue, a psychology and education professor at Columbia University in New York City, offers a way for anti-racist allies to intervene during a microaggression in an interview with CNN.
1. Make the Invisible, Visible
According to Sue, the perpetrator is often unaware of their actions. As an anti-racist ally, you must, at minimum, make sure they are aware of the harm they caused. Diane Goodman, a social justice and diversity consultant, offers this format in the NYTimes:
“I know you didn’t realize this, but when you __________ (comment/behavior), it was hurtful/offensive because___________. Instead you could___________ (different language or behavior.)”
2. Educate the Perpetrator
Ensure they understand that regardless of the intent of what they said, it’s the impact of their words that matters. "You lose the argument when you focus on intention because you can’t prove intent. Focusing on the impact as influenced by the significance, Sue explained, gets the perpetrator to understand what happened and how he might have caused pain."
3. Disarm the Microaggression
Move the conversation away from the problematic statement to communicate that it’s offensive. According to Sue, you’ll be “modeling good behavior to other people present, and you can have a later conversation with the person about why his joke was inappropriate."
Macro systemic racism is reinforced by micro-actions, and racial microaggressions play a major part. We must take accountability for microaggressions, and use our privilege to call them out however we can.