Mac's Healthy Love Lab

15/09/2025

I’d be so grateful if you can share this post, and get the word out there ♥️

I have a fabulous GROUP course starting soon - it will equip you fully if you are in an unhealthy relationship and want to leave, or looking for a new HEALTHY LOVE.

It will cover many areas including; trust, instinct, commitment, dating pitfalls, attachment, boundaries, what true compatibility really is, red flags/green flags, using your inner voice effectively, and much more.

I will be doing groups of 8, for 6 weeks, 60 minute sessions online. So you can connect from anywhere in the world.

The first course will be discounted at a low cost, affordable price of £99.
If you recommend to friends, and 2 people purchase, you will receive this course for half price!

This course will help you change negative dating patterns, equip and empower the SELF, and help you to implement healthy love patterns within a relationship.

This course will commence in November, so please message if you are interested. Incorporating a blend of hypnosis, and life/relationship coaching.

This is going to be an amazing course, where every person will indefinitely walk away with knowledge, that will be life valuable.

If you are fed up with attracting unhealthy individuals, time wasters, narcissists, abusers, or just absolute utter morons, and want to have a deserving, healthy, and loving union… then this is the course for YOU!

Lisa - Mac Therapy ♥️

28/08/2025

23/08/2025

The WORST feeling for a woman is when she tries to have a conversation with a man about his BEHAVIOR that hurts her every day, but instead of listening, he gets ANGRY and turns the situation around on her.
It’s a feeling that cuts deep—a mix of frustration, sadness, and emotional abandonment. She gathers the courage to speak up, not to argue, not to attack, but because she loves him and wants to make things better. She speaks from a place of pain and hope, hoping that maybe this time, he will really hear her, that he will understand the weight she’s been silently carrying.

But instead of leaning in, he raises his defenses. Instead of acknowledging her feelings, he deflects. He gets loud, or cold, or sarcastic. He shifts the blame onto her, twisting her concerns into accusations against her character, her tone, her timing. Suddenly, the conversation becomes about how she brought it up instead of what she brought up. And just like that, her pain gets buried under his anger.

And it’s not just the argument that hurts—it’s the message underneath it all: Your feelings don’t matter. Your pain is inconvenient. Your voice is too much. That moment becomes a silent wound, another scar added to the emotional pile she’s been trying so hard to suppress for the sake of peace. But peace without understanding isn’t peace—it’s silence. It’s pretending. It’s walking on eggshells while slowly losing pieces of herself just to keep things from falling apart.

What’s worse is that after enough of these moments, she starts to question herself. “Maybe I am too sensitive.” “Maybe I should just let it go.” “Maybe it’s not a big deal.” But deep down, she knows it is. She knows what respect, empathy, and love should feel like—and this isn’t it.

When a woman reaches out to address something that hurts her, it’s a gift. It’s her saying, I still care enough to fix this. It’s a chance for connection, healing, and growth. But when that moment is met with anger or blame, it pushes her further away. Not just emotionally—but spiritually. Because nothing is more damaging to a woman’s spirit than constantly being made to feel wrong for wanting to be treated right.

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🎨credit to the artist via Pinterest

19/08/2025

What a beautiful piece - and so true!

When a man is gentle with you... not just in his touch, but in his tone, his presence, his energy — something in you begins to shift. You breathe a little easier. Your body doesn't brace for disappointment. Your heart doesn’t flinch at every word. Because for the first time in a long time, you feel safe.

That’s what emotional safety does. It quiets the anxiety. It softens the walls you built to survive. It teaches your nervous system that it no longer has to be in fight or flight. You’re not walking on eggshells. You’re not constantly questioning where you stand or if you’re asking for too much. You're just... loved, consistently and calmly.

That’s why some women start glowing when they’re loved right. It’s not just the relationship. It’s the healing. It’s the peace. It’s the reassurance that love doesn’t have to hurt, doesn’t have to be chaotic, doesn’t have to break you down to build you up again.

It’s him showing up without you begging. It’s the softness in his voice when he says your name. It’s his ability to make you feel held be motionally, spiritually, mentally not just physically. It’s knowing that you’re not a burden, that your feelings are safe with him, that your past doesn’t scare him, and your vulnerability isn’t a weapon to be used against you.

That’s the kind of love that makes a woman radiant. That makes her blossom. That makes her soul rest. Not because she’s being loved with fireworks, but because she’s finally being loved without fear.

Real Vibes.

16/08/2025

Are you ready to move on from the past?

16/07/2025

Client Review - thanks so much 💕 My client attended the 8 week programme below after requiring support upon leaving a difficult relationship. We worked together through her emotions, fears, and empowered the self for the future.

I have been working with Lisa since April 2025 and she has been nothing short of fantastic. Lisa is not only a fantastic listener, but she has the ability to challenge her clients to dig deep and see a situation from another perspective. This is extremely helpful for inner conflict resolution with oneself.

Lisa is highly qualified and specialised in helping her clients navigate relationships and family traumas particularly dealing with narcissistic personalities. Lisa’s therapy sessions have allowed me to develop a completely different perspective on interacting with others and she has offered me several effective coping mechanisms that have helped me navigate life’s rough waves.

Mac’s Family & Relationship Hub - https://www.facebook.com/share/1Bi4iqEhd3/?mibextid=wwXIfr

🔆 As a Trauma Therapist and Life Coach - i have tailored a fantastic 8 week programme, that allows you to heal, learn, and gain self-love, change and rewire your relationship patterns sub-consciously, therefore allowing you to be forewarned, forearmed, and feel fully equipped, to attract a healthy love partnership.

“It’s all about the Self - Attracting Healthy Love”

*Are you currently healing from a toxic relationship?
*Do you want to leave an abusive relationship, or have left?
*Do your dating choices need to change?
*Do you attract the same toxic - unhealed person, but in a different body, time and time again, yet want to desperately change this pattern?
*Are you scared to venture out into the dating world due to a past experience, in fear of attracting the same type?
*Do you project an image of what you would like to see, rather than what you are being shown (seeing too much good in a person when it is not there).
*Do you not understand why these patterns continue, and keep happening to you?

What we need to address;

1. Listening to, or seeing the red flags during the dating process.
2. Learning to trust our instinctive signals, that are there to alert us of danger (instinct/gut feelings).
3. Learn true compatibility (moral and value alignment).
4. Having enough self love (which can include strong personal boundaries), or self worth (bear in mind constant abuse diminishes self identity and worth).
5. Look at OUR internal patterns - of our role we play in this process.
6. Having personal boundaries, or maintaining dealbreakers when needed.
7. Increasing knowledge of narcissistic and toxic patterns - which can easy deceive even the strongest of individuals.
8. Heal the inner parts within, that hold us back from healthy love.
9. Change old patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving in love interests.
10. Addressing and healing from any past relationship debris (emotions, fears, negative beliefs).

There are many reasons why we may continue to remain with an unhealthy, toxic partner who creates chaos, and mayhem in our life; with serial infidelity, secretive about who they really are, emotional and physical abuse, emotional unavailability/non committal traits, and a lack of relationship skills.
Hidden fears, unhealed past traumas, a lack of self empowerment, a trauma bond, appeasing behaviours, all contribute heavily to finding yourself stuck in an unhealthy relationship.

When one finds themselves with this type of person, you are making this choice from the sub-conscious - the mind willl choose familiar chaos, rather than what is unfamiliar yet safe, (these sub-conscious patterns need rewired), or if you are struggling to leave this type of relationship, it is very likely due to being ‘trauma-bonded’ to the toxic individual - a bond which THEY have psychologically created, which makes it difficult to leave; otherwise known as; intermittent reinforcement & cognitive dissonance - noted in the psychological medical journal.

My 8 week programme covers all of the above - “It’s all about the Self - Attracting Healthy Love”

- this includes HEALING YOU; learning about the self awareness (patterns), increasing self love, self worth, and self esteem, discussing the pitfalls of dating, recognising manipulation and abusive tactics, listening out for, and recognising the red flags, learning what real compatibility is, learning to grow healthy relationships at a natural pace, learning about attachment styles, developing healthy boundaries, learning new terminology such as love bombing, gaslighting, devalue & discard narcissistic patterns, trauma bonded etc …
- with the END goal of YOU attracting a healthy and balanced person into your life, and feeling self empowerment, and confident to do so.

This programme will equip you with all you need moving forward, as well as healing the historical parts that need addressed.

This is open to both men and women. Appointments are available online via video link - from the comfort of your own home.

If you know someone who is struggling in this situation please share my post.

♥️ ‘Self Love is the key!’

13/07/2025

When you start your healing journey, and start to self reflect, it is important to explore, and ask yourself some ‘soul searching’ questions, such as the reasons as to; why you didn’t exercise your dealbreakers when needed, why you stayed so long in an abusive situation, why you put another before yourself at your detriment, and what red flags you missed, or ignored, from the beginning, and why. In many cases, where there has been a covert narcissist involved, many things go hidden, and often people are unaware to what really is, so it isn’t just the same situation for all.

Your healing journey isn’t just about you healing from the emotions of the toxicity that you endured, but being fully honest with yourself, as to what got you there in the first place - this is where your real inner work lies.

26/05/2025

You’re not chasing them because you love them. You’re chasing them because, deep down, you’re still trying to prove to yourself that you’re worth choosing. It’s no accident that you keep finding yourself with people who can’t fully show up - your nervous system is replaying an old pattern, mistaking familiarity for love.
When they distance themselves, you feel the ache of withdrawal. When they come back, even for a moment, that rush of relief... That’s dopamine, not love. You’re addicted to the cycle of their validation.

Here’s the hard truth: If it’s driven by fear, it’s not love. This isn’t about them it’s about the part of you that still believes love is something you have to earn.

Mac - helping you to heal & recover from narcissistic abuse.

09/05/2025

As a Trauma Therapist and Life Coach - i have tailored a fantastic 8 week programme, that allows you to heal, learn, and gain self-love, change and rewire your relationship patterns sub-consciously, therefore allowing you to be forewarned, forearmed, and feel fully equipped, to attract a healthy love partnership.

“It’s all about the Self - Attracting Healthy Love”

*Are you currently healing from a toxic relationship?
*Do you want to leave an abusive relationship with a narcissist, or have left?
*Do your dating choices need to change?
*Do you attract the same toxic - unhealed person, but in a different body, time and time again, yet want to desperately change this pattern?
*Are you scared to venture out into the dating world due to a past experience, in fear of attracting the same type?
*Do you project an image of what you would like to see, rather than what you are being shown (seeing too much good in a person when it is not there).
*Do you not understand why these patterns continue, and keep happening to you?

What we need to address is;

1. Listening to, or seeing the red flags during the dating process,
2. Learning to trust our instinctive signals, that are there to alert us of danger (instinct/gut feelings).
3. Learn true compatibility (moral and value alignment).
4. Having enough self love (which can include not putting others before the self), or self worth, to know we deserve better (bear in mind constant abuse diminishes self identity and worth).
5. Look at OUR internal patterns - of our role we play in this process.
6. Having personal boundaries, or maintaining healthy boundaries with others.
7. Increasing knowledge of narcissistic and toxic patterns - which can easy deceive even the strongest of individuals.
8. Heal the inner parts within, that hold us back from healthy love.
9. Change old patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving in love interests.

There are many reasons why we may continue to remain with an unhealthy, toxic partner who creates chaos, and mayhem in our life; with serial infidelity, secretive about who they really are, emotional and physical abuse, emotional unavailability/non committal traits, and a lack of relationship skills.

Hidden fears, unhealed past traumas, a lack of self empowerment, a trauma bond, appeasing behaviours, all contribute heavily to finding yourself stuck in an unhealthy relationship.

When we find ourselves attracting this type of person, we are making this choice from the sub-conscious (the sub-conscious patterns need rewired), or if we are struggling to leave this type of relationship, it is very likely due to being ‘trauma-bonded’ to the toxic individual, a bond which THEY have psychologically created, which makes it difficult to leave, otherwise known as; intermittent reinforcement & cognitive dissonance - noted in the psychological medical journal.

My 8 week programme covers all of the above - “It’s all about the Self - Attracting Healthy Love”

- this covers all of the above & MORE, to HEALING YOU; learning about the self, increasing self love, self worth, and self esteem, discussing the pitfalls of dating, recognising manipulation and abusive tactics, listening out for, and recognising the red flags, learning what real compatibility is, learning to grow healthy relationships at a natural pace, learning about attachment styles, developing healthy boundaries, learning new terminology such as love bombing, gaslighting, devalue & discard narcissistic patterns, trauma bonded etc …
- with the END goal of YOU attracting a healthy and balanced person into your life, and feeling self empowerment, and confident to do so.

This programme will equip you with all you need moving forward, as well as healing the parts that need addressed.

This is open to both men and women. Appointments are available online via video link - from the comfort of your own home.

If you know someone who is struggling in this situation please share my post.

♥️ ‘Self Love is the key!’

https://www.facebook.com/findinghealthylove