Mac's Healthy Love Lab

10/10/2025

If you're in a relationship and you don't remove your ex, people you've slept with, and people who you know want to be more than just friends from your phone, your social media, and your life; you're the one bringing toxicity into your relationship! By keeping these people in your orbit, you're creating an environment that's ripe for drama, insecurity, and mistrust.

When you hold onto past relationships or keep potential threats close, you're sending a message to your partner that they're not enough, that you need to keep your options open, or that you're not fully committed to the relationship. This can lead to feelings of insecurity, jealousy, and anxiety, which can be toxic to the relationship.

Removing these people from your life isn't about cutting ties out of obligation or duty; it's about respecting yourself, your partner, and the relationship you both are building. It's about creating a safe and secure environment where you both can thrive.

By taking control of your social media and phone, you're showing your partner that you value their feelings and your relationship. You're demonstrating that you're committed to building trust, communication, and intimacy. It's a simple yet powerful way to prioritize your relationship and nurture a healthy, fulfilling partnership.

25/09/2025

And you should not settle for less …

🔥 The SEXIEST thing about a MAN isn’t his jawline… it’s his INTEGRITY.

Ask a thousand women what they crave most in a man and the same word keeps punching through the noise:

INTEGRITY

Here’s the classic definition:

“Integrity means wholeness. The state of being undivided. Your values, words, and actions line up even when no one is watching and especially when it costs you.”

And I love that…
But personally, I take it before.

Here’s mine:
“Integrity is when my words match my thoughts, and my ACTIONS match my words.”

It is honoring my commitments to others (and to MYSELF) without needing a spotlight or a trophy.

Integrity is keeping your word to the world, AND to the man in the mirror.

Why is that so damn sexy to women?

Because most haven’t met enough men who live it.

They’ve heard the pretty speeches, then watched behavior betray the script.

Lied to.
Cheated on.

Promises made, then missed, then excused. Over time her nervous system learns to brace.

So “integrity” becomes non-negotiable not because she is difficult, but because she is WISE.

Integrity does something to a woman’s body that no “pickup line” ever will.

It lets her exhale.
It makes her feel safe enough to soften.

It tells her the man in front of her won’t collapse when life gets loud.

Her shoulders drop.
Her breath deepens.
Her body knows she’s safe.

TRUST ME… she can feel when your words are backed by blood, sweat, and sacrifice.

And when your words are forged in ACTION, she doesn’t just hear them… she surrenders to them.

Men, this isn’t about perfection.

Integrity isn’t a medal you win once.

It’s a practice.
A daily discipline.

The sacred work of closing the gap between the man you are today and the man you know you could be.

Chosen again in this moment… and the next… and the next.

How to cultivate it (no fluff):

1. Tell the truth quickly. If you screwed up, say it clean. No spin.

2. Make FEWER promises. Then treat each one like a contract with your soul.

3. Keep tiny agreements ruthlessly. Wake time, training, diet, money, p**n, screen time. If you can’t lead yourself, you can’t lead anyone.

4. Close loops daily. Return the call. Pay the bill. Send the message. Leave nothing festering.

5. Align calendar and bank account with your values. Your time and your money are your real belief system.

6. Guard your word. “Let me get back to you” is integrity if you mean it. “Yes” to please is not.

7. Repair without groveling. When you break your word, own impact, make amends, and name the new commitment. Then meet it.

8. Choose the hard right over the easy out. Integrity is forged exactly where it’s most inconvenient.

9. Build an integrity ritual. Each night ask: Where did I keep my word? Where did I wobble? What gets corrected tomorrow?

10. Surround yourself with men who hold a line. Accountability is jet fuel for character.

Character is everything!

Skill impresses.
Status distracts.
Integrity endures.

A man with integrity might not be the loudest in the room, but when the storm hits, he is the one everyone looks at.

He is the harbor.
He is the spine.

Women do not want another charming boy who cosplays as a “good man”.

They want a man whose LIFE is proof.

A man whose yes means yes, whose no means no, and whose silence is never hiding anything.

Be that man.
Not for applause.
For peace.
For power.

For the woman who will finally relax in your arms because you didn’t just say it… you lived it.

—Eric Graham 🙏❤️‍🔥

Question: What is the clearest sign of real integrity in a man?

24/09/2025

A healthy relationship will test you more than a toxic one. Because it won't let you run. It holds up a mirror and says: Show up. Communicate. Grow. That's why real love scares people more than chaos ever could. Healthy relationships require effort, vulnerability, and commitment. They challenge us to confront our flaws, work through conflicts, and grow as individuals.

In a healthy relationship, you're encouraged to be your authentic self, and your partner does the same. This level of emotional intimacy can be daunting, especially for those who are used to avoiding their emotions or running from challenges.

Toxic relationships, on the other hand, often involve manipulation, control, and emotional abuse. While they may feel intense or dramatic, they're often easier to navigate because they don't require the same level of emotional intimacy or personal growth.

In a healthy relationship, you're pushed to communicate effectively, listen actively, and work through conflicts in a constructive way. This can be uncomfortable at times, but it's ultimately rewarding because it allows you to build a deeper connection with your partner.

Real love requires courage, vulnerability, and a willingness to grow and learn together. It's not always easy, but it's worth it. By embracing the challenges and opportunities of a healthy relationship, you can build a stronger, more fulfilling connection with your partner.

~Silent Writings
Art: Pinterest

23/09/2025

When a woman replaces you with peace....not another man....it’s really over. That’s the part men rarely understand.

They think her silence means she’s confused. That her distance is temporary. That she’s just emotional and will come back once she calms down.

But what they fail to realize is that when a woman starts craving peace more than your presence, you’ve already lost her.

She’s not looking to be rescued by another man. She’s not rebounding, she’s recovering. She’s not out here trying to make you jealous....she’s trying to make herself whole again. And the most dangerous version of a woman is the one who no longer needs to be heard, fixed, or fought for… because she’s finally found safety in her own space.

It’s not that she didn’t love you. It’s that she loved you so deeply, she forgot to love herself. She showed up. She stayed loyal. She gave you grace you didn’t even know you needed. But she got tired of begging for the bare minimum… tired of constantly questioning her worth… tired of feeling like loving you meant losing pieces of herself.

So now, she’s replaced the chaos with clarity. The arguments with quiet mornings. The anxiety with deep exhales. The walking-on-eggshells feeling with a home she’s built just for her peace. No loud exits. No drama. Just gone. Because when a woman truly heals, she doesn’t chase closure...she becomes it.

📌 You see, another man could’ve been forgiven. She could’ve competed, cried, or pleaded. But when peace walks in and takes your place, understand that her soul has already moved on… and where she’s going, you’re not invited.

Courtesy - Jen at Hong Kong.

15/09/2025

I’d be so grateful if you can share this post, and get the word out there ♥️

I have a fabulous GROUP course starting soon - it will equip you fully if you are in an unhealthy relationship and want to leave, or looking for a new HEALTHY LOVE.

It will cover many areas including; trust, instinct, commitment, dating pitfalls, attachment, boundaries, what true compatibility really is, red flags/green flags, using your inner voice effectively, and much more.

I will be doing groups of 8, for 6 weeks, 60 minute sessions online. So you can connect from anywhere in the world.

The first course will be discounted at a low cost, affordable price of £99.
If you recommend to friends, and 2 people purchase, you will receive this course for half price!

This course will help you change negative dating patterns, equip and empower the SELF, and help you to implement healthy love patterns within a relationship.

This course will commence in November, so please message if you are interested. Incorporating a blend of hypnosis, and life/relationship coaching.

This is going to be an amazing course, where every person will indefinitely walk away with knowledge, that will be life valuable.

If you are fed up with attracting unhealthy individuals, time wasters, narcissists, abusers, or just absolute utter morons, and want to have a deserving, healthy, and loving union… then this is the course for YOU!

Lisa - Mac Therapy ♥️

28/08/2025

23/08/2025

The WORST feeling for a woman is when she tries to have a conversation with a man about his BEHAVIOR that hurts her every day, but instead of listening, he gets ANGRY and turns the situation around on her.
It’s a feeling that cuts deep—a mix of frustration, sadness, and emotional abandonment. She gathers the courage to speak up, not to argue, not to attack, but because she loves him and wants to make things better. She speaks from a place of pain and hope, hoping that maybe this time, he will really hear her, that he will understand the weight she’s been silently carrying.

But instead of leaning in, he raises his defenses. Instead of acknowledging her feelings, he deflects. He gets loud, or cold, or sarcastic. He shifts the blame onto her, twisting her concerns into accusations against her character, her tone, her timing. Suddenly, the conversation becomes about how she brought it up instead of what she brought up. And just like that, her pain gets buried under his anger.

And it’s not just the argument that hurts—it’s the message underneath it all: Your feelings don’t matter. Your pain is inconvenient. Your voice is too much. That moment becomes a silent wound, another scar added to the emotional pile she’s been trying so hard to suppress for the sake of peace. But peace without understanding isn’t peace—it’s silence. It’s pretending. It’s walking on eggshells while slowly losing pieces of herself just to keep things from falling apart.

What’s worse is that after enough of these moments, she starts to question herself. “Maybe I am too sensitive.” “Maybe I should just let it go.” “Maybe it’s not a big deal.” But deep down, she knows it is. She knows what respect, empathy, and love should feel like—and this isn’t it.

When a woman reaches out to address something that hurts her, it’s a gift. It’s her saying, I still care enough to fix this. It’s a chance for connection, healing, and growth. But when that moment is met with anger or blame, it pushes her further away. Not just emotionally—but spiritually. Because nothing is more damaging to a woman’s spirit than constantly being made to feel wrong for wanting to be treated right.

✍️Ctto
🎨credit to the artist via Pinterest

19/08/2025

What a beautiful piece - and so true!

When a man is gentle with you... not just in his touch, but in his tone, his presence, his energy — something in you begins to shift. You breathe a little easier. Your body doesn't brace for disappointment. Your heart doesn’t flinch at every word. Because for the first time in a long time, you feel safe.

That’s what emotional safety does. It quiets the anxiety. It softens the walls you built to survive. It teaches your nervous system that it no longer has to be in fight or flight. You’re not walking on eggshells. You’re not constantly questioning where you stand or if you’re asking for too much. You're just... loved, consistently and calmly.

That’s why some women start glowing when they’re loved right. It’s not just the relationship. It’s the healing. It’s the peace. It’s the reassurance that love doesn’t have to hurt, doesn’t have to be chaotic, doesn’t have to break you down to build you up again.

It’s him showing up without you begging. It’s the softness in his voice when he says your name. It’s his ability to make you feel held be motionally, spiritually, mentally not just physically. It’s knowing that you’re not a burden, that your feelings are safe with him, that your past doesn’t scare him, and your vulnerability isn’t a weapon to be used against you.

That’s the kind of love that makes a woman radiant. That makes her blossom. That makes her soul rest. Not because she’s being loved with fireworks, but because she’s finally being loved without fear.

Real Vibes.

16/08/2025

Are you ready to move on from the past?

16/07/2025

Client Review - thanks so much 💕 My client attended the 8 week programme below after requiring support upon leaving a difficult relationship. We worked together through her emotions, fears, and empowered the self for the future.

I have been working with Lisa since April 2025 and she has been nothing short of fantastic. Lisa is not only a fantastic listener, but she has the ability to challenge her clients to dig deep and see a situation from another perspective. This is extremely helpful for inner conflict resolution with oneself.

Lisa is highly qualified and specialised in helping her clients navigate relationships and family traumas particularly dealing with narcissistic personalities. Lisa’s therapy sessions have allowed me to develop a completely different perspective on interacting with others and she has offered me several effective coping mechanisms that have helped me navigate life’s rough waves.

Mac’s Family & Relationship Hub - https://www.facebook.com/share/1Bi4iqEhd3/?mibextid=wwXIfr

🔆 As a Trauma Therapist and Life Coach - i have tailored a fantastic 8 week programme, that allows you to heal, learn, and gain self-love, change and rewire your relationship patterns sub-consciously, therefore allowing you to be forewarned, forearmed, and feel fully equipped, to attract a healthy love partnership.

“It’s all about the Self - Attracting Healthy Love”

*Are you currently healing from a toxic relationship?
*Do you want to leave an abusive relationship, or have left?
*Do your dating choices need to change?
*Do you attract the same toxic - unhealed person, but in a different body, time and time again, yet want to desperately change this pattern?
*Are you scared to venture out into the dating world due to a past experience, in fear of attracting the same type?
*Do you project an image of what you would like to see, rather than what you are being shown (seeing too much good in a person when it is not there).
*Do you not understand why these patterns continue, and keep happening to you?

What we need to address;

1. Listening to, or seeing the red flags during the dating process.
2. Learning to trust our instinctive signals, that are there to alert us of danger (instinct/gut feelings).
3. Learn true compatibility (moral and value alignment).
4. Having enough self love (which can include strong personal boundaries), or self worth (bear in mind constant abuse diminishes self identity and worth).
5. Look at OUR internal patterns - of our role we play in this process.
6. Having personal boundaries, or maintaining dealbreakers when needed.
7. Increasing knowledge of narcissistic and toxic patterns - which can easy deceive even the strongest of individuals.
8. Heal the inner parts within, that hold us back from healthy love.
9. Change old patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving in love interests.
10. Addressing and healing from any past relationship debris (emotions, fears, negative beliefs).

There are many reasons why we may continue to remain with an unhealthy, toxic partner who creates chaos, and mayhem in our life; with serial infidelity, secretive about who they really are, emotional and physical abuse, emotional unavailability/non committal traits, and a lack of relationship skills.
Hidden fears, unhealed past traumas, a lack of self empowerment, a trauma bond, appeasing behaviours, all contribute heavily to finding yourself stuck in an unhealthy relationship.

When one finds themselves with this type of person, you are making this choice from the sub-conscious - the mind willl choose familiar chaos, rather than what is unfamiliar yet safe, (these sub-conscious patterns need rewired), or if you are struggling to leave this type of relationship, it is very likely due to being ‘trauma-bonded’ to the toxic individual - a bond which THEY have psychologically created, which makes it difficult to leave; otherwise known as; intermittent reinforcement & cognitive dissonance - noted in the psychological medical journal.

My 8 week programme covers all of the above - “It’s all about the Self - Attracting Healthy Love”

- this includes HEALING YOU; learning about the self awareness (patterns), increasing self love, self worth, and self esteem, discussing the pitfalls of dating, recognising manipulation and abusive tactics, listening out for, and recognising the red flags, learning what real compatibility is, learning to grow healthy relationships at a natural pace, learning about attachment styles, developing healthy boundaries, learning new terminology such as love bombing, gaslighting, devalue & discard narcissistic patterns, trauma bonded etc …
- with the END goal of YOU attracting a healthy and balanced person into your life, and feeling self empowerment, and confident to do so.

This programme will equip you with all you need moving forward, as well as healing the historical parts that need addressed.

This is open to both men and women. Appointments are available online via video link - from the comfort of your own home.

If you know someone who is struggling in this situation please share my post.

♥️ ‘Self Love is the key!’