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24/11/2025

This year snapped something in me.

Burnout showed me how much fear and shame I’d been carrying just to stay inside a life, a routine, relationships, a business that didn’t fit anymore.

And honestly… I thought your 20s were your “figure it out” decade. Turns out your 30s are the actual plot twist. You evolve again. You shed identities again. You wake up one day and realise you don’t fit the life or identity you built and the tick list you completed seems sorta irrelevant 🤯

You can find yourself staying loyal to a version of yourself because you are scared of what starting over says about you.

But it doesn’t mean you’ve lost the plot. It means you outgrew it 🤍

The brave thing is not forcing something to keep working. The brave thing is saying “I’m done here” even when you don’t know what’s next.

If you can accept that you’re going to reinvent or outgrown yourself multiple times in your life you can swerve the danger of staying stuck in a version of your life that no longer aligns with who you are. Because when you choose to change your job, your relationship,

This where I am now and I don’t have perfect clarity. My five year plan is in the bin. But I have accepted that I need to stop staying where I don’t belong.

If something in your life suddenly feels too small… trust that. You’re not breaking down you’re not a quitter. You’ve evolved faster than your life can hold.

🤍🦋🫶

What part of your life feels too small for you right now?

, starting over, burnout stories, inner critic healing, life in my 30s, women in burnout, self rediscovery

17/11/2025

I want to be clear. When i say not being my true self i mean the learned behaviour of ND’s to mask the parts of themselves that others find different, confronting or not “proper”.

It’s only this year (4 years after my ADHD diagnosis and rock bottom burnout) that I’ve had to question what might be causing me to burnout so bad.

My masking didnt save my job, it didnt stop me from friendships ending - all it did was make me really fu***ng tired and confused about who i actually am at my core.

I’m glad we’ve got a name for this because talking about “masking” is the starting point for giving ourselves permission to just let go of expectations of others and the way we control ourselves.

In person and online!
Although i’m no where near feeling myself yet and life feels like its running away with me whilst I figure it all out - putting this out here means one less place i need to pretend 🙂

If you’ve been through this tell us how long it took to feel yourself again 🙏 👇

18/10/2025

BEFORE OR AFTER? ✂️ Testing the 3-inch theory after everyone telling me they prefer my hair in a bob.

Well, I failed the test but I did what I wanted anyway. 🤷‍♀️ ♈️ Classic Aries

After my wedding, late last year, I had some serious shedding / tellagen effluvium and as the months progressed it felt liked I’d lost about 40% of my hair.

In a bid to prolong the length a little longer I had some tape extensions for the summer. They were so fun but I couldn’t ignore the ni**le inside me saying cut it all off and start again so, here we go (hit to follow my journey!)

I think the 3inch theory has legs but it’s not a hard and fast rule 🙃

People also have their own agendas and advice which doesn’t always serve your vision of yourself.

I felt empowered bringing the bob back with the team as it was through their cuts, colours and at home products that got my hair to the most luscious, thick and swingy state it had ever been - just in time for my wedding.

If you want to see the reel of me getting my hair cut of and the [not to be dramatic but DRAMATIC] transformation then check out the reel linked in this post 👇

f If you’ve ever had hair loss or have damaged hair and just want to feel good about yourself again - go for the chop with a recommended technical stylist who knows how to cut hair and has a long term plan for you.

// bob inspiration / short hair inspo // short hair cuts

18/10/2025

Testing the 3-inch theory after everyone telling me they prefer my hair in a bob.

Well, I failed the test 🤷‍♀️ but did what I wanted anyway. Classic Aries ♈️

After my wedding, late last year, I had some serious shedding / tellagen effluvium and as the months progressed it felt liked I’d lost about 40% of my hair. It didn’t feel thick healthy or like anything at all.

Before I say anything else I want to just acknowledge anyone who suffers hair loss, I know how debilitating it can be to your sense of self or confidence 💕

In a bid to prolong the length a little longer I had some tape extensions for the summer. They were so fun but I couldn’t ignore the ni**le inside me saying cut it all off and start again so, here we go.

I think the 3inch theory has legs but it’s not a hard and fast rule 🙃 I also know that people have their own agendas and advice which doesn’t always serve your vision of yourself.

I felt empowered bringing the bob back with the team as it was through their cuts, colours and at home products that got my hair to the most luscious, thick and swingy state it had ever been - just in time for my wedding.

If you want to see the reel of me getting my hair cut of and the [not to be dramatic but DRAMATIC] transformation then check out the reel linked in this post 👆

🫶 If you’ve ever had hair loss or have damaged hair and just want to feel good about yourself again - go for the chop with a recommended technical stylist who knows how to cut hair and has a long term plan for you.

Trust me you’ll be feeling SO MUCH better for it 🙌🥰

Cute “self care” won’t cure sh*t. The real work for curing your burnout is redesigning a life you want to return to, for...
30/09/2025

Cute “self care” won’t cure sh*t. The real work for curing your burnout is redesigning a life you want to return to, for the long game.

If you’re asking yourself “who am I when I am not productive?” Then you’re in the right place.
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