09/04/2025
Spanking your children is lazy parenting..
I used to think spanking was just part of parenting. It’s how I was raised, and for a long time, I believed it worked. But then I had my own child.
The first time I felt that frustration, that urge to react, I stopped. I looked at my child, small, vulnerable, looking up at me with big eyes that trusted me completely. And I realized something.
I didn’t want my child to fear me. I wanted them to understand me.
Spanking is the easy way out. It’s a quick reaction when we don’t know what else to do. But all it teaches is fear. It doesn’t teach why something is wrong, it just teaches that pain follows mistakes. And that’s not real learning. That’s just control.
So I made a promise, to be better. To take the time, to get on their level, to talk to them. To teach, not punish. To guide, not hurt.
Because my child deserves better than fear. They deserve a parent who shows them how to be kind, patient, and understanding, by being those things myself.
