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Nope We're Not Monogamous Helping adventurous people break the social conditioning of toxic monogamy.

Your body usually knows you’re activated before your brain catches up. Learning to notice the tight chest, clenched jaw,...
17/04/2026

Your body usually knows you’re activated before your brain catches up. Learning to notice the tight chest, clenched jaw, or racing thoughts can change everything. This week’s episode is all about building that skill, so you can respond instead of spiral. 💜

If non-monogamy feels harder than you thought it would…that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.So many people think they...
16/04/2026

If non-monogamy feels harder than you thought it would…

that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.

So many people think they’re supposed to be “good” at this:
unbothered,
secure,
never jealous,
always evolved.

That’s not real.

Non-monogamy can bring up fear, grief, comparison, attachment wounds, and old stories you didn’t even know were still living in your body.

That doesn’t mean you’re failing.
It means something tender is asking for your attention.

In this week’s episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I’m talking about why struggle doesn’t mean failure, what jealousy is often really trying to tell you, and how to stop making your hard feelings mean something is wrong with you.

If you’ve ever thought:
“Why does this feel so hard?”
“Why can’t I just be chill?”
“Am I bad at this?”

This one’s for you.

Listen now, and send it to someone who needs this reminder. 💜

Dating someone who’s already partnered isn’t inherently a problem.But it will expose where you’re:→ over giving → under-...
10/04/2026

Dating someone who’s already partnered isn’t inherently a problem.
But it will expose where you’re:
→ over giving
→ under-asking
→ or trying to fit yourself into something that doesn’t actually meet you

In this episode, I break down how to navigate this dynamic without losing yourself.
🎧 “Dating Someone Who’s Already Partnered… and Still Feeling Alone” is live.

03/04/2026

The Hidden Aftermath of Triangulation
In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, we explore the challenges that persist even after a conflict resolves, especially for the third party involved in triangulation. We discuss how people often hold onto the emotional residue, highlighting the complexities of polyamorous relationship dynamics and the impact of toxic people. Understanding these patterns is key for healing and fostering healthier communication in all relationships. 💜

This is how so much unnecessary tension starts.Communication triangles pull you into dynamics that were never yours to c...
03/04/2026

This is how so much unnecessary tension starts.

Communication triangles pull you into dynamics that were never yours to carry.

In my newest episode, I break down how this happens and how to step out of it.

🎙️ Listen now — link in bio

NEW PODCAST EPISODE 💜One of the biggest sources of drama in polyamory?Not jealousy. Not boundaries.👉 Communication trian...
02/04/2026

NEW PODCAST EPISODE 💜
One of the biggest sources of drama in polyamory?
Not jealousy. Not boundaries.

👉 Communication triangles.
When you start holding feelings about dynamics that aren’t even yours… things get messy fast.

In this episode, I’m talking about:
→ venting vs processing
→ how we accidentally recruit partners into conflict
→ and how to clean up your communication so your relationships feel lighter

If you’ve ever been pulled into something you didn’t mean to be in… this one’s for you.

🎙️ Listen now wherever you get your podcasts

Have you ever felt like the way you love doesn’t quite fit the rules you were given?Like… you tried to do it “right” and...
28/03/2026

Have you ever felt like the way you love doesn’t quite fit the rules you were given?
Like… you tried to do it “right” and something still felt off?
Yeah. Same.

In this week’s episode, I’m talking with writer and poet Kate Heskett about what it actually looks like to follow that feeling instead of ignoring it.
Including showing up alone to a swingers hotel takeover 👀

We talk about:
→ the messy transition out of monogamy
→ feeling “wrong” for what you want
→ awkward, hilarious, very human moments around s*x and relationships
→ and the relief of realizing… you’re not the only one

New episode just dropped 💜Metamour relationships can become some of the most beautiful connections in non-monogamy… but ...
19/03/2026

New episode just dropped 💜
Metamour relationships can become some of the most beautiful connections in non-monogamy… but expecting instant “chosen family” can also feel overwhelming, awkward, or pressured.

In this conversation, I share real experiences, coaching insights, and gentle permission to let these relationships unfold at the speed of trust.

If you’ve ever wondered: “Are we supposed to be closer than this?” This episode is for you.
Listen now 🎙️

Some people thrive in kitchen table poly. Others feel safer with a little more space.Healthy non-monogamy is about allow...
18/03/2026

Some people thrive in kitchen table poly.
Others feel safer with a little more space.

Healthy non-monogamy is about allowing relationships to grow at the speed of trust.

What kind of metamour dynamic works best for you?

17/03/2026

Sometimes, New Relationship Energy (NRE) is misunderstood in polyamorous relationships, often dismissed as immature. This episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous explores how NRE can be a beautiful and energizing aspect of ethical non-monogamy, reminding us of our capacity for connection. We discuss the nuances of NRE within open relationships and offer relationship advice for navigating these intense feelings. 💜

16/03/2026

Ever feel that urgency in new connections? This episode explores how a scarcity vs abundance mindset can push us to move too fast, overinvest, and merge lives before truly knowing if we're compatible. It's crucial for dating advice to address this, ensuring a solid foundation for relationships and a healthy love life. 💜

14/03/2026

Did you know that when people fall in love, their serotonin release actually drops? This dip can lead to repetitive thinking, making you constantly think about your partner. Let's discuss the psychology and attachment theory behind what happens when you fall in love, revealing how your brain temporarily runs a powerful attachment program. 💜

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