Nope We're Not Monogamous

18/07/2025

When the mind says yes but the body says no, healing is needed. Check out the full episode with Dedeker Winston from Multiamory and Orit Krug, we chat about so many good somatic tools!

17/07/2025

Your brain gets polyamory.
But your body? Still panicking like your partner left you for the witch from Into the Woods.

In this week’s episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I’m joined by from the Multiamory podcast and dance/movement therapist .krug to talk about what actually happens in your body when you're trying to be the “chill polyam partner” and your nervous system is like “nah, we’re spiraling.”

We talk:
→ Why jealousy isn’t just a mindset problem
→ How trauma shows up in polyam dynamics (even years later)
→ WTF to do when you’re activated and trying to be a good partner
→ Why somatic healing works when talk therapy hits a wall
→ And what happens when you get weird (on purpose) in a room full of polyam folks in Spain

🎧 Listen now: Your Brain Gets Polyamory—But What About Your Body?
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✈️ And if your body’s like “get me to Spain,” check out multiamory.com/retreat

11/07/2025

10/07/2025

What really happens at sex-positive events?
(Hint: It’s not what most people think.)

In this week’s episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I’m joined by the amazing Jamie Love of S*x Positive World—a global leader in creating consent-forward, inclusive, and deeply healing spaces for connection and intimacy.

We talk about:
→ How to build your own sex-positive community
→ What it means when your community is your primary partner
→ Cuddle parties, massage nights, and self-pleasure circles (yep, for real)
→ The emotional side of consent, boundaries, and touch
→ And a behind-the-scenes peek at Polytopia 2025, Portland’s upcoming conference for polyam folks (where I’ll be speaking!)

If you’re curious about how to show up with confidence in intimate spaces—or just want a real talk about creating connection—you don’t want to miss this one.

🎧 Listen on your favorite podcast app
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💋 Bonus content lives Patreon

09/07/2025

If I were to create a training on practical tools for non-monogamy, would you want access?
Type “Tools” in the comments! 🛠️

07/07/2025

What’s one practical tool or tip you’ve used that made a real difference in your non-monogamous relationships?

05/07/2025

Have you ever found yourself silencing your needs in the name of love? It's time to stop disappearing and start embracing your worth in every relationship dynamic. Check out the full podcast episode!
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04/07/2025

Jealousy in non-monogamous relationships? You're not alone! Let's talk about embracing emotional honesty and staying true to yourself. 🌟💬 Watch the full episode to understand how your feelings matter too. , , , ,

03/07/2025

You don't have to perform to earn love. Your presence, vulnerability, and authenticity are what matter most. Explore how to navigate relationships with all of who you are in our new episode. Be sure to check out the whole episode. , , , ,

03/07/2025

If you’ve ever found yourself holding it together while everyone else’s needs take center stage…

If “I’m fine” has become code for “I don’t want to make it harder”...

This week’s episode of Nope, We’re Not Monogamous is for you.

We’re talking about the quiet cost of being the “easy one” in your polycule—and what it takes to come back to yourself when you’ve been playing small.

Inside this episode:

✔️Why your needs aren’t a burden—even if you’re the calm one.

✔️How silence isn’t maturity—it’s often survival.

✔️What boundaries actually do (spoiler: they protect connection).

✔️The difference between being included and being emotionally held.

✔️And why “being good at non-monogamy” doesn’t mean disappearing.

If you’ve been wondering whether you’re asking for too much—or just finally being honest—this is your permission to take up space.

Listen to the whole episode on your fav podcast app.
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02/07/2025

Let’s go there.
Not in a shamey way. In a “holy s**t, that really happened” kind of way.

What’s one way you’ve lost yourself in love before?
Was it becoming the “easy one” so they didn’t leave?
Saying “I’m fine” when you were unraveling?
Letting their wants become your world—until you couldn’t hear your own?

In non-monogamy, it can get sneaky.
We say yes when we mean “I’m not sure.”
We play cool when we’re actually hurting.
We shape-shift to keep the connection.

But here’s the truth:
You don’t have to disappear to be chosen.
You don’t have to perform ease to stay included.
You get to bring you—messy, emotional, magic YOU.

If you’ve been ghosting yourself inside your relationships, I see you.
Let’s help you come back home. Book a Clarity Chat.👇👇