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ABOVE the FRAY Above the Fray is a weekly podcast where we share advice on parenting, marriage, and life.

We strive to help people live freely and lightly by living 'above the fray.'

Wife, one of the best things you can do for your marriage may have very little to do with trying harder to fix your marr...
19/08/2026

Wife, one of the best things you can do for your marriage may have very little to do with trying harder to fix your marriage.

Sit at the feet of Jesus.

Sometimes we carry things He never asked us to carry.

We carry our husband’s growth.
His choices.
His emotions.
The future of our marriage.
The pressure to make everything okay.

And somewhere along the way, we become exhausted trying to control outcomes that were never ours to control.

But Jesus offers something different.

Come close.
Sit down.
Listen.
Learn.
Surrender.

“Mary… sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to his teaching.”
—Luke 10:39

Wife, your husband was never meant to carry the weight of being your Savior.

Jesus is.

That doesn’t mean ignoring problems or pretending everything is okay.

It means you don’t have to face those problems alone—or believe everything depends on you.

That’s why we offer Marriage Mentoring.

We come alongside couples with biblical encouragement and practical tools to help uncover the patterns keeping them stuck, understand one another more deeply, and begin building a healthier, stronger, Christ-centered marriage.

If your marriage is struggling—or you simply want to grow closer and love each other better—DM us “Lifelong” and we’ll send you the details.

One of the best things a husband can do for his marriage is sit at Jesus’ feet.A husband who sits at Jesus’ feet learns ...
19/08/2026

One of the best things a husband can do for his marriage is sit at Jesus’ feet.

A husband who sits at Jesus’ feet learns what strength really looks like.

He learns that leadership isn’t control—it’s service.

That strength isn’t harshness—it’s self-control.

That loving his wife isn’t merely providing for her—it’s knowing her, honoring her, protecting their unity, and laying himself down for her good.

And that when marriage gets difficult, he doesn’t have to have all the answers.
He just needs to know where to go for them.

Luke tells us that Mary “sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to his teaching.”
—Luke 10:39

Men, there is no shame in sitting at the feet of Jesus.

It’s where husbands learn how to become more like Him.

Because you cannot consistently give your wife what you aren’t first receiving from Christ.

And husbands, sometimes sitting at Jesus’ feet also means having enough humility to admit:
“I need some help loving my wife well.”

That’s one reason we offer our Marriage Mentoring program. We come alongside husbands and wives with biblical wisdom and practical tools to help them understand one another, work through unhealthy patterns, and build a stronger, more Christ-centered marriage.

If your marriage needs some help—or you simply want to become more intentional about building a lifelong marriage—DM us “Lifelong”and we’ll send you the details.

WANTED: A generation of husbands who rise higher.Men who pray. 🙏🏾
Men who protect. 🥊
Men who worship. 🙌🏾
Not perfect men...
17/08/2026

WANTED: A generation of husbands who rise higher.
Men who pray. 🙏🏾
Men who protect. 🥊
Men who worship. 🙌🏾

Not perfect men, but forged men.

🟠 Men willing to fight their own demons before blaming their wives for the battle.

🟠 Men who choose covenant over comfort, obedience over ego, repentance over pride, and holiness over hiding.

🟠 Men who understand that strength isn’t never struggling—it’s having the courage to bring the struggle into the light and let Christ transform them.

👑 If you’ve got one, honor him.
👦 If you’re raising one, bless him.
🙏🏾 If you’re praying for one, keep going.
And husband, if you’re still becoming one—keep going, too.

God is still shaping lionhearted husbands.
“Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.”
—1 Corinthians 16:13–14

And sometimes fighting for your home means having the humility to say, “We could use some help.”

That’s why we offer Marriage Mentoring—to come alongside husbands and wives who want to strengthen their marriage, understand one another better, and build a Christ-centered path forward together.

If you want to learn more about our Marriage Mentoring program, DM us “Lifelong” and we’ll send you the details.

16/08/2026

Marriage will test your faith.

Faith in your spouse and sometimes, even more importantly, marriage will test your faith in God.

Peter knew what it was like to step out in faith.

Jesus said, “Come,” and Peter climbed out of the boat and did the impossible—he walked on water toward Jesus.

But then the wind came and the waves grew, Peter shifted his attention from the One who called him to the storm surrounding him.
And he began to sink.

“But when he saw the wind, he was afraid, and beginning to sink he cried out, ‘Lord, save me.’” Matthew 14:30

Marriage can feel a lot like that.
You stepped out believing.
You trusted the person standing across
from you.
And then came the winds you weren’t
expecting.
🟠 Disappointment.
🟠 Conflict.
🟠 Unmet expectations.
🟠 Financial pressure.
🟠 Distance.

Suddenly, all you can see are the waves.
What if they don’t change?
 What if this doesn’t get better?
 What if I can’t do this?
Those moments reveal a deeper question: God when my marriage doesn’t look the way I thought it would?

Peter’s security wasn’t ultimately in calm water. It was in Jesus. And neither is ours.

Our eyes have to remain on Christ.

And if the waves in your marriage feel overwhelming right now, sometimes reaching for help is part of taking the next faithful step.

Through our Marriage Mentoring program, we come alongside couples to help them identify what’s keeping them stuck, strengthen their connection, and find practical, biblical ways to move forward together.

If your marriage is in a difficult season and you’d like to learn more, DM us “Lifelong.”
We’d be honored to walk alongside you.

Your marriage doesn’t need new hacks. It needs two people who actually live like Christians. And following Jesus should ...
15/08/2026

Your marriage doesn’t need new hacks. It needs two people who actually live like Christians. And following Jesus should change the way we show up at home.

The closer we walk with Christ, the more His fruit should show up in our marriage.
More kindness.
More compassion.
More humility.
More repentance.
More forgiveness.

Less talk, more walk. No one benefits from empty words.

If you know your marriage needs some help putting these truths into practice, that’s exactly why we offer Marriage Mentoring.

We come alongside couples with biblical encouragement and practical tools to help uncover unhealthy patterns, strengthen connection, and build a marriage that reflects Christ more and more.

If your marriage feels stuck—or you simply want to make a good marriage stronger—DM us “Lifelong” and we’ll send you the details about our Marriage Mentoring program.

Marriage has a way of revealing how mature we really are.Not when everything is easy—but when money is tight, feelings a...
14/08/2026

Marriage has a way of revealing how mature we really are.

Not when everything is easy—but when money is tight, feelings are hurt, tempers rise, expectations collide, and we discover that the person we married sees some things about us we’d rather not see. 😬

Marriage is for the mature AND the maturing…

Marriage is one of the places God graciously exposes what still needs to grow in us.

Ultimately, biblical maturity isn’t produced by trying harder to be a better spouse.

It comes from abiding in Christ and allowing His life to reshape ours.
“Abide in me, and I in you.”
—John 15:4

And sometimes part of maturing is recognizing:
We need help with this.

If you and your spouse keep getting stuck in the same conflicts, struggling to understand one another, or simply know your marriage could be stronger, we’d love to come alongside you through our Marriage Mentoring program.

We help couples identify what’s keeping them stuck and begin building practical, biblical patterns for a stronger marriage.
DM us “Lifelong” and we’ll send you the details.

Biblical perseverance isn’t enduring or pretending everything is okay.And it isn’t ignoring sin, refusing boundaries, or...
14/08/2026

Biblical perseverance isn’t enduring or pretending everything is okay.

And it isn’t ignoring sin, refusing boundaries, or believing that asking for help means you’ve failed.

Sometimes perseverance looks like having the hard conversation… again.

And sometimes, it looks like finally saying:
“We need help.”

There is no shame in needing someone to come alongside your marriage. Sometimes when you’ve been in the struggle long enough, it’s difficult to see the patterns keeping you stuck—or the path forward.
“Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” Proverbs 11:14

You don’t have to save your marriage.
Jesus is the Savior.

But you can faithfully take the next step and give Him room to work.

If you and your spouse are struggling and want someone to walk alongside you with biblical encouragement and practical tools, we would love to tell you about our Marriage Mentoring program.

DM us “Lifelong” and we’ll send you the details.

There is something beautiful about two imperfect people who keep turning toward Jesus—and toward one another. Not becaus...
13/08/2026

There is something beautiful about two imperfect people who keep turning toward Jesus—and toward one another.

Not because the hurt wasn’t real.
Not because mistakes weren’t made.
Not because forgiveness came easily.
But because Christ met them in the broken places.

They forgive.
They humble themselves.
They rebuild.
They choose grace.
They keep allowing Christ to do His work in them.

That kind of marriage becomes a testimony.

A testimony that grace is greater than failure.

That broken things can be restored.
That covenant love can grow deep roots.
And ultimately, that Christ sustains His people.

“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
—1 Corinthians 13:7

And if you’re reading this in the middle of the battle, please hear this: struggling does not mean your marriage is beyond hope.
Sometimes you just need someone to come alongside you, help you see what you can’t see from inside the struggle, and give you practical steps toward healing and connection.

That’s why we offer Marriage Mentoring.
If your marriage is struggling and you want help finding a way forward together, DM us “Lifelong” and we’ll send you the details about our Marriage Mentoring program.

Your hardest chapter doesn’t have to be your last.

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