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Above the Fray is a weekly podcast where we share advice on parenting, marriage, and life.

We strive to help people live freely and lightly by living 'above the fray.'

25/10/2025

When he’s not leading…

-Breathe.
-PRAY.
-LEAD YOUR KIDS SPIRITUALLY.

Did you know that I specialize in helping wives, one-on-one, navigate the hard parts of marriage, helping them process, heal, and move forward when marriage feels heavy.

Let me help. DM me “Lifelong” to find out more.

25/10/2025

Make your marriage bed a non negotiable.

Here’s four more practical reasons why sleeping in the same bed with your spouse is good:

1)The kids are taking notes. They need to see unity.

2)Creates more regular space for s3xtual intimacy and emotional connection.

3)Your spouse is there when you NEED them.

4)Mend conflict becuase you know you’re going to sleeping in the same bed.

If you are struggling in this area, we can help. DM us “Lifelong” to find out about our marriage mentoring program.

23/10/2025

God told Hosea to marry a woman who would break his heart.

But because God wanted to show what He does with unfaithful love:
He pursues. He redeems. He loves freely.

Marriage isn’t built on logic.
It’s built on covenant.
And covenant love doesn’t wait to be deserved—it chooses to stay.

“I will love them freely.” —Hosea 14:4
That’s the kind of love that transforms a marriage.

What does “loving freely” look like in your marriage?

Are you a wife who wants to learn how to fight for your marriage even though he’s not interested? ✨DM “Lifelong” to ask about mentoring.

22/10/2025

How are out stewarding God’s gift He gave you? Share with someone who needs this reminder.

Outside of salvation, the greatest gift God gave me is my husband.
And I couldn’t say that if I hadn’t learned to count the ways.
To focus on the good.
To remember the gift.
To recall the covenant.
To share grace when it’s hard.

29 years in, we’ve had our struggles.
But we keep choosing to see the masterpiece God is painting—one brushstroke at a time.

If you’ve been neglecting the health of your marriage, mismanaging it, we can help you get back on track. DM us “Lifelong” to find out about our marriage mentoring.

21/10/2025

We help married couples (and wives) work through dry seasons to reignite joy.
Comment “Lifelong” for details.

Some seasons in marriage feel like a feast. We should treasure and rejoice in these moments.

Others feel like a fast. Yet, we should still rejoice. These are the dry spaces where God creates a thirst that draw us to Himself for lasting fulfillment.

The secret to contentment isn’t found in the season…
It’s found in the Savior.

Paul said, “I’ve learned the secret of being content…”
Not because everything was perfect—
But because Christ was present.

When your joy is rooted in Jesus,
your marriage can bloom in any soil.
Whether you’re dancing in abundance
or praying through drought—
Christ is enough.

And in Him, so are you.

Contentment starts in Christ—and spills into everything else.

Thank Jesus!🙌🏽

Comment “Lifelong” for details about our marriage mentoring.

20/10/2025

We don’t follow trends—we follow truth...

We live above the fray.

These 10 principles guard our marriage and shape our legacy. They’re not popular, but they’re powerful. Read them, wrestle with them, and ask:
"What’s protecting your home?”

"Which principle challenges you the most—and which one do you want to start living out today?”

We help couples establish boundaries to protect their marriage using skills we’ve learned. ✨Comment or DM “Lifelong” for chat.

19/10/2025

Culture says “get away to reconnect.” But Jesus says “draw near to be restored.”

When you book the cabin, book time with the Father.
When you escape the noise, enter His presence.
Marriage doesn’t always need a break—it needs a breakthrough.

Let Him be your refuge, your reset, your renewal.

🕊️ What’s one way you and your spouse can retreat to the Father this week?

Slowing down long enough to check in on your soul of your marriage.

DM us “Getaway” for a link to our Couples Getaway Devotional.

18/10/2025

The darkness and void became light.

Adam’s rib became a woman

Dry bones came to life in Ezekiel

Moses staff turned into a serpent.

Water flowed from a rock at Mt Sinai.

And a host of individuals and saints lived again.

And Jesus.

God gives dead marriages life, too.
Jesus is our power & example.
He saw our offenses and didn’t turn away. He went full-love to catch our eye.

When we display this eye-catching grace and mercy, sin can’t destroy a marriage. And where it has, there’s no way back to life but for His grace and mercy to bring it back. And it can.

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17/10/2025

I dare you to read the entire Matthew 5 Sermon on the Mount in full context. It’s eye opening and convicting.

Circumstance will tempt us to move the boundary lines that God has for us.
Jesus is saying don’t do it.

Below is an excerpt from a paper written by John Piper on the subject:
Marriage is a “one-flesh” relationship of divine establishment and extraordinary significance in the eyes of God (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5; Mark 10:8),
1. Only God, not man, can end this one-flesh relationship (Matthew 19:6; Mark 10:9—this is why remarriage is called adultery by Jesus: he assumes that the first marriage is still binding, Matthew 5:32; Luke 16:18; Mark 10:11),
2. God ends the one-flesh relationship of marriage only through the death of one of the spouses (Romans 7:1-3; 1 Corinthians 7:39),
3. The grace and power of God are promised and sufficient to enable a trusting, divorced Christian to be single all this earthly life if necessary (Matthew 19:10-12,26; 1 Corinthians 10:13),
4. Temporal frustrations and disadvantages are much to be preferred over the disobedience of remarriage, and will yield deep and lasting joy both in this life and the life to come (Matthew 5:29-30).

Those who are already remarried:
1. Should acknowledge that the choice to remarry and the act of entering a second marriage was sin, and confess it as such and seek forgiveness
2. Should not attempt to return to the first partner after entering a second union (see 8.2 above)
3. Should not separate and live as single people thinking that this would result in less sin because all their sexual relations are acts of adultery. The Bible does not give prescriptions for this particular case, but it does treat second marriages as having significant standing in God’s eyes. That is, there were promises made and there has been a union formed. It should not have been formed, but it was. It is not to be taken lightly. Promises are to be kept, and the union is to be sanctified to God. While not the ideal state, staying in a second marriage is God’s will for a couple and their ongoing relations should not be looked on as adulterous.

16/10/2025

Instructions for Husbands: Your Response to the Sarah Standard:

“Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”
—1 Peter 3:7

💡1. Be understanding.
Know your wife—her needs, her emotions, her story.
Don’t just live near her. Live with her.
Listen well. Respond with care.

💡2. Show honor.
Treat her with respect and dignity.
Not because she’s less capable, but because God calls her precious.
Honor her in public and private.

💡3. See her as your co-heir.
She’s not less than you.
You share the same spiritual inheritance.
Lead with humility, not control.

💡4. Protect your prayers.
How you treat your wife affects your relationship with God.
Disrespect blocks spiritual growth.
Tenderness invites God’s favor.

If your marriage is struggling, we can help. DM us “Lifelong” to find out more.

15/10/2025

Worship starts at the kitchen sink... Or while cooking dinner, or folding laundry.
It’s not just an at church thing.

Cranking up music and singing my heart out helps me align my heart and attitude with my actions, that they may be pleasing in His sight.

It isn’t just about the music and the beat and the emotion, or to pass the time while doing something you don’t want to do.

It’s making space for transformation.

It’s basking in the presence of Jesus because He alone is Worthy.

It a reframe that refreshes our soul.

Transform your thinking, renew your mind, love above the fray.

🔆 If you are struggling with a bad attitude, your soul is downcast, and you need some spiritual guidance, I would love to mentor you. DM me, “Mentor” and we can chat.

14/10/2025

The strength of a society rises or falls with the strength of its marriages...
“If the foundations are destroyed, what can the righteous do?” — Psalm 11:3

Marriage is one of those foundations — established by God for love, faithfulness, and the raising of godly generations (Genesis 2:24, Malachi 2:15).

Why? Because marriage reflects Christ and His Church.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” — Ephesians 5:25
When that sacred reflection fades, so does the moral light of a nation.

When marriages are centered on Jesus and homes are filled with God’s wisdom, peace, and righteousness follow...

“By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established.” — Proverbs 24:3

How’s your marriage doing? We can help. DM us “Lifelong” to find out how we can minister to your marriage.

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