A Christian Response to the Transformed Wife

13/01/2026

Love is not selfish. Men who truly love their wives respect them also.

(1 Cor 13)

If someone respects you, your needs don’t feel like an inconvenience.

If someone uses you, your needs suddenly become “too much.”

Pay attention to who adjusts and who tries to make you feel guilty for even asking. That information matters.

12/01/2026

This behavior is exactly what men learn from TTW.

And it’s exactly why we speak out.

11/01/2026

The reason why most patriarchal women are continually harping on women to respect their husbands is because they themselves don’t really respect their husbands. They have to essentially manufacture these feelings.

I do understand why.

IT IS NEARLY IMPOSSIBLE to have genuine deep respect for someone who continually disrespects you.

10/01/2026

Can a husband make an “executive decision, as head of his household” that his wife should clean up his messes if he refuses to clean up his own? Does being the ‘leader’ entitle him to continual maid services for all of his messes?

TTW says yes, unequivocally. And it’s lunacy. Total lunacy.

This, my friends, is where hierarchal dynamics inevitably lead. The defacto reality in patriarchal marriage is that wives are continually infantilized and are left with very little agency to counter disrespect from their husbands.

From TTW’s blog:

In a 2020 article entitled “Dealing With a Messy Husband,” TTW quoted a woman named Lindsay Harold (who herself is a writer and blogger) and said she concurred with everything Lindsay set forth.

Here are Lindsay’s words:

“When a husband refuses to clean up messes, even after his wife has brought it to his attention, then he has made the executive decision, as head of his household, that his wife should be the one to do that cleaning up. The wife should honor this and DO IT HERSELF, WITHOUT COMPLAINING. (My emphasis added).

Lindsay then paints a scenario of a child being told to wash dishes by his mother, who has authority over him and is delegating a task to him.

She says, “In the same way, it is not sin for the husband to delegate the task of cleaning up the house to his wife, regardless of who made the mess. He has that authority. It is impertinent and rebellious for the wife to insist that her husband has to do that chore. She doesn’t get to decide which chores he does. She doesn’t have that authority. She’s not the boss. Her husband is.” (Lindsay Harold)

The TTW reflects upon Lindsay’s words by reiterating that wives are to submit in all things and says:

….”I agree with Lindsay. If he doesn’t want to clean up after himself, so what, women? If he’s a good provider, faithful, and loves you and your children, be thankful and cheerfully clean up after him!”

TTW further goes on to accuse wives who can’t clean up for their husbands of forgetting what Christ did for them on the cross.

(Interesting take ….. I personally got the distinct impression Christ died for sin, not maid service for husbands). 🤷🏻‍♀️

If you would like to read the article for yourself, the link is in the comments.

09/01/2026

Anytime you see a teacher fixated upon the notion that women cannot say no to s*x w/their husband, you will ALWAYS find a pattern of dehumanizing beliefs toward women. It’s like finding a cockroach in your house: Finding one is evidence that there are more.

08/01/2026

Telling women they don’t “want to obey God” if they’re not okay with having s*x every day is spiritually abusive teaching.

07/01/2026

All of us sit equally at the cross, equally in need of God’s grace and mercy.

Having long hair and birthing twelve kids doesn’t gain you VIP seating.

03/01/2026

It’s fascinating to watch patriarchal men jibber jabber about how being a full-time wife and mother is the most valuable and important job in the world (they love to lecture about how it needs to be uplifted and honored more in society) and THEN subsequently treat their wives as subordinates who owe them s*x and obedience for their unilateral economic provision.

This is a dynamic that stinks to high heaven that is very present in patriarchal Christianity.

Here’s the deal:

If a man believes his economic provision entitles him to a subservient wife, he does NOT actually truly believe that being a full-time wife and mother is inherently the most important, valuable job a woman could have.

Men who truly believe that being a
full-time wife and mother is a very valuable job with inherent dignity will regard his wife as CONTRIBUTING EQUALLY to the household and to the “team” even though her labor is unpaid.

And when a man truly believes his wife is contributing equally to the household, it is impossible for him to be of the mindset that he is owed anything or should be absolved of assisting with basic household help because of his economic provision for her.

When a man really and truly views a wife’s contributions as different BUT EQUAL, there is mutual gratefulness and respect for what each is bringing to the table for the good of the household. Being the financial breadwinner will not bring a sense of entitlement or superiority.

02/01/2026

I can think of a lot of awful things that can weaken and destroy a marriage (i.e. infidelity, addiction, lying, verbal abuse). A husband doing the dishes doesn’t usually make my list.😂

Frankly, this assertion by TTW is a glimpse into her own marriage. Once again, she is projecting her own marriage problems onto all women and promoting dysfunction.

Lest you think I am making assumptions, here is Ken, TTW’s husband, in his own words on an old blog post where he detailed TTW’s frustration that he was not doing enough to help her. (Link in comments)

“Hardly was I focused on housework after working a sixty hour week, and to be honest, I really detested household chores. But I had no issues caring for the kids, or cooking meals, and vacuuming. But dishes and cleaning was not my idea of my role in the relationship.”

So, there you have It. I can (unfortunately) somewhat understand why TTW thinks that asking a husband to wash dishes can destroy a marriage. It likely caused much tension in her own marriage as it is clear from Ken’s writing that there were household tasks he just didn’t think he was obligated to do. In his words, he “detested household chores.”

And while I agree that a SAHM will shoulder more housework than her husband due to primarily being at home , she is not a maid. She works AS MUCH OR MORE in the home as her husband does in the workforce. She puts in her “sixty hours” each week and is deserving of household help from her husband WHO IS AN ADULT AND LIVES IN THE HOUSE.

In internet speak, I am SMH.🤷🏻‍♀️