
02/01/2025
The most common reason we struggle with behavior in school or the home is the students have a different vision for success than the one we have for them. They are proud of the things aren’t proud of them for. They seek to imitate those we don’t see as worthy of imitation. They celebrate actions we deride. When this happens, they do NOT CARE about either our praise or our censure.
💫 We must begin with a shared vision for success and growth.
Once we have this, when a behavior issue arises, we can ask them to read again who they said they want to become and help them see they are becoming less like that person when they behave poorly. Then we can ask them how we can help restore their sense of self (that is, become that person they want to be).
Obviously this won’t solve every issue, but without it no behavior issue can be truly resolved. (Note: this is regarding behavioral issues and does not include disorders or regulation issues, which require a different approach as they arise from the body. Let us know if you’d like a separate post on that!)
And why pencil and paper? Writing things down gives our thoughts shape in the material world. This is one step closer to embodying virtue within our own lives.