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BootStrap Journey A podcast/blog focused on healing from trauma by sharing my personal experiences and insights.

You can't fix what you won't face. I come from a long line of toxic family situations. That stops with me! I choose to h...
26/03/2023

You can't fix what you won't face. I come from a long line of toxic family situations. That stops with me! I choose to heal, grow and change. Those who oppose healthy interactions need to step aside because I don't have time for Tom Foolery.

We see throughout the Bible that abuse and toxic dynamics continue through family lines until it is addressed. The strong hold of the enemy will continue to thrive until someone steps up with the sword of the spirit to cut the family loose.

Some people do not want to be free. All we can do is provide them with the Truth and allow them to make their own choice. But bounce will remain present.


For many people this takes practice. We have carved out negative neuro pathways in our brain from years of negative thin...
23/03/2023

For many people this takes practice. We have carved out negative neuro pathways in our brain from years of negative thinking. Once we become aware of our thoughts we can begin to retrain our brains to reframe ideas, situations and experiences in a positive way.

My story is my healing and the actions I have taken in my life. For far too long I linked my identity with my pain. I am...
20/03/2023

My story is my healing and the actions I have taken in my life. For far too long I linked my identity with my pain. I am slowly disconnecting from that in order to fully embrace how God has identified me.

My abusers are not qualified to label me. My abusers cannot dictate my identity. I am who God says I am.

There seems to no longer be a dating pool. It is now a dating swamp. Far too many people are in committed relationships ...
18/03/2023

There seems to no longer be a dating pool. It is now a dating swamp. Far too many people are in committed relationships and engaging with another person on the side because they are unhappy with their relationship. There is no integrity in this behavior.

Years ago when I was still in a very healed stage of my life I would often engage with men who were in relationships. Initially I was completely unaware. Once I became attached the guy and found out about their main relationship I felt the need to prove my worth so that he would choose me.

Do not be fooled by this mindset. There is no such thing as proving your worth and cheaters rarely leave the person they are with for their side piece. Yes I said piece because they are not viewing or treating you as an individual worthy of love and respect. They are treating you like a thing to be used for their entertainment. You are simply a means of temporarily filling the void within them.

Focus on healing and loving who you are. I know my worth and will not now or ever again allow anyone to treat me as a convenience or a piece to plug their void.

Dating someone who doesn't understand or even try to understand your hurts and struggles can actually cause more trauma...
16/02/2023

Dating someone who doesn't understand or even try to understand your hurts and struggles can actually cause more trauma and make us feel like we are not good enough.

The truth is, they are just not the right person for you and that's ok. The right person will accept you as you are and make an effort to understand and support you.

In the mean time, keep working on you. Keep healing.

When you have experienced years of abuse you are terrorized for years after by memories, feelings, nightmares and trigge...
09/02/2023

When you have experienced years of abuse you are terrorized for years after by memories, feelings, nightmares and triggers. Our lives feel like they don't even belong to us at times.

We spend so much time running from the aftermath. We just want to have peace. We just want to feel normal, stable and balanced. Sometimes in that process of trying to feel better We end up doing things that actually sabatoge us. They may bring short term relief but those tactics often further exacerbate the very issues we are seeking relief from.

The only way to find true freedom from trauma is through therapy, a strong support system, processing through the pain in a healthy way, prayer and self care. However, if you fall back into those wild approaches, give yourself some grace. Be aware of your actions and mental state and make better choices.

When a relationship ends and that person moves on quickly, it becomes a double hurt. A deeper wound that impacts our sel...
08/02/2023

When a relationship ends and that person moves on quickly, it becomes a double hurt. A deeper wound that impacts our self esteem. We question ourselves as to why we were not good enough.

The truth is, if they were able to move on so quickly, it was never about you. Relationships are meant to be 2 sided. In toxic paradigms 1 person is a tool and the other is a user.

If you genuinely had your heart involved in the relationship and sincerely cared about the person and wanted a strong relationship, then you were not the manipulator. Someone took advantage of your heart. That was an awful thing for them to do. You ARE worthy of true love.

I would not call this the final stage. I would call it a level of maturity. I endured abuse for my entire childhood and ...
29/10/2022

I would not call this the final stage. I would call it a level of maturity. I endured abuse for my entire childhood and teenage years and was stuck in a traumatic toxic situation until I was in my 30s.

That level of trauma and mental conditioning takes an extensive amount of time to heal and recover from. I am still healing but I am also committed to helping others.



When you realize that your family has a toxic dynamic, it is up to you to make a change, bring healing and rewrite the f...
27/10/2022

When you realize that your family has a toxic dynamic, it is up to you to make a change, bring healing and rewrite the future. Heal those generational wounds. Set boundaries and undo distorted thoughts and beliefs.

If you need help on where to start or how to navugate the process, my Patreon platform will be live on Oct 31, 2022.

Repressing the hurt actually makes things worse. Unprocessed pain will reveal itself in very ugly ways. It will destroy ...
26/10/2022

Repressing the hurt actually makes things worse. Unprocessed pain will reveal itself in very ugly ways. It will destroy relationships, finances, hopes and dreams. Facing the hurt inflicted on you by others allows to break the bonds that have kept you shackeled for far too long.

Focus on your past long enough to process through it, then close that door. You deserve to be free.

When we are hurting it is easy to feel that we have been forgotten or abandoned by God. It can feel that we are alone an...
25/10/2022

When we are hurting it is easy to feel that we have been forgotten or abandoned by God. It can feel that we are alone and He doesn't care. That is not the truth! God is close to us when we are hurting.

Our pain often takes our focus off of the present moment and we can become so comsumed by hurt that we lose connection with everyone and everything, including God. Breath through this moment of stress, chaos, and pain. God is with you and He loves you fiercly!
Psalm 147:3, Isaiah 61:3

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