Finding Your Heartlight

03/09/2025

September theme idea: Meanings and Stories

Why Stories Matter: The Deeper Meanings
Every story, whether it's an epic legend or a simple memory, is a container for meaning. This "meaning" is the wisdom, emotion, or truth we extract from an experience. Think of it this way: a car trip is just a series of turns and highways, but the story of that road trip holds the meaning—the laughter, the wrong turns, the bonds formed.

Stories are how we teach our most important lessons. They give us a way to pass on values like courage, kindness, and perseverance without just listing them. For example, a parent doesn't just tell their child to be brave; they tell a story about a time they had to face a fear.

They also provide a sense of identity. The stories we tell about ourselves—our successes, our failures, our defining moments—are what create our personal narrative. The stories our families tell about where they came from and what they went through give us a sense of belonging. They are the threads that connect us to a larger tapestry.

The Power of Sharing
When we share our stories, we're not just speaking; we're giving a part of ourselves away. This act of vulnerability creates a bridge between two people. By listening to someone else's story, we step into their world and build empathy. We find common ground in shared emotions—joy, sadness, or struggle—even if the details of our lives are completely different.

The meanings and stories we share are what keep us human. They are the antidote to isolation. They remind us that our experiences, no matter how small they seem, are significant and connected to the larger human experience.

What's a simple story you've heard that holds a profound meaning for you?

03/09/2025

What non-commitment story are you telling yourself?

Does it sound like any of these:
Let's meet soon.
We should catch up.
I should reach out.
One day I will.
I wish I could.

How long have you been telling yourself this?
How much longer will you continue to tell yourself this?
What are you getting out of staying in replay mode?

If you actually want to do any of the things you have been putting off, make the choice to make it happen.

Make yourself a priority.
Make the commitment.
Make a plan.
Make it happen.
Make your story about experiences instead of wishes.

Take action today and make today that "one day" you have been talking about for too long already!

03/09/2025

Be the author of your story and edit it as often as you wish.

Your Story, Your Life

Your life is a story, and you are the author. Every experience, good or bad, is a chapter. You get to decide what each chapter means. What you believe about yourself—and what you're capable of—is directly shaped by the stories you tell. As John Assaraf said, "The stories we tell ourselves shape our lives. They shape who we believe we are, and this belief translates into who we become."

Your beliefs are the foundation of everything—your values, your goals, your relationships, and the life you build. They determine your standards and what you'll accept. They can either open your mind to new possibilities or hold you back from opportunities.

So, where are you today? Are you living the life you imagined? The person you are and the life you have are a result of your current story. Are you waiting for things to change, or are you actively working to create change?

If you want to create a different future, you have to start with a new story. You can't keep doing the same thing and expect a different result. Change begins with you and the narrative you choose.

Here are a few suggestions to help get you started to rewrite your story:

Revisit Your Past: Don't just look at past experiences as setbacks or failures. Examine them for what you learned and the strength you gained. See how those moments shaped you for the better. This new perspective can change the meaning of your stories.

Challenge Old Beliefs: As your stories change, your old beliefs—the ones that held you back—will begin to lose their power. You can then replace them with new, empowering beliefs that serve the person you want to become. This opens up your mind to new possibilities and opportunities you never considered before.

Create a New Chapter: Now, think about who you want to be. Imagine yourself one, five, and even ten years from now. What does that person believe? How do those new beliefs help them achieve their goals? What action will you take to live that story?

It’s your story. It's your life. What do you want it to be?

05/08/2025

August theme suggestion: Empowerment

Empowerment is:
❤️trusting yourself
❤️believing yourself
❤️owning yourself
❤️speaking your truth
❤️honoring your boundaries
❤️being comfortable with who you are
❤️being yourself

Empowerment is living life on your terms.
Unapologetically.
Without asking for permission to be yourself.

It is time to rise and let yourself shine!
Focus on your self-awareness of who you authentically are and all that you have to offer. You will thank yourself for it.

31/07/2025

Our suggested theme for July was "teach others how to treat us".

Did you adopt this theme or apply your own?
What did you do differently this month?

Are you treating yourself better?
Did you raise your standards?
Did you create an awareness about how you treat yourself?

Imagine how your life would look if you did any of these.......

You decide how you want to be treated.

Then you teach others how to treat you.
You teach others by what you model, not by what you say.

You set the standard for the way you want to be treated.
➡Your actions must match your words.
➡Your dress code speaks volumes.
➡Your presence to the moment influences the connection.
➡Your energy sends a message.
➡Your self-respect honors your boundaries.

It is up to you to teach others how you want to be treated.

If you want to be treated better.....
Start by treating yourself better and raising your standards.
Enforce your boundaries.
Be the example, in every way.

Make today the day you commit to being a role model for yourself!

22/07/2025

22/07/2025

It's 2025........already!!

Fifty years have passed since 1975! How old were you then?
Do you remember the dreams and goals you had then? How many have you achieved? Did they match your expectations?

Maybe you weren't born yet.
Maybe only twenty or thirty or forty years have passed.
Maybe you never gave this any thought.

What I want to know is if you are happy and living the life you imagined. And if not, how many more years will you let pass you by?

You have your age behind you and your future ahead of you.

Make it time that fulfills you.
Start taking steps to create the life you really want.
Do things that make you happy.........every day.
Believe that it is not too late to become.
Remember that it is not how you start, but how you finish.

Fifty years have passed since 1975. I don't know how many years any of us have left.
My wish is that we all live whatever time remains. Don't just exist, live your life!

If you don't know how to start, or want to discuss your possibilities, or have a conversation about your life, reach out and let's connect.

14/07/2025

Have you set your theme for July yet?

If you answered no, it is not too late to apply one now.

Our suggestion is "teach others how to treat us".

We teach people how to treat us by what we allow, what we stop, and what we reinforce.

We also teach them by what we model in the ways we treat ourselves. We set the standard for how we expect to be treated in our language, behavior, respect, and compassion for ourselves. Honoring our boundaries, practicing self-care and gratitude, using a pause button when needed, and believing in ourselves all serve as examples of our standards.

There may only be two weeks left in July, but you have a lifetime yet to live the life you desire on your terms!

Be the example.
Remember the golden rule - do unto others as you would have done unto yourself.

I think the world would be a better place if everyone adopted this attitude!

02/06/2025

Another step in the journey to finding your heartlight!

This month’s theme is “Stop Comparing Yourself”.

Last month focused on self-care and I trust you dedicated time to make yourself a priority and are appreciative of the rewards that is giving you.

Now let’s add the element of not comparing ourselves to others. This is actually a form of self-care too and an excellent stress reducer.

Everyone is on their own journey and we are rarely aware of the challenges, struggles, doubts, and attempts required before they succeeded. All we see is what they show us which is usually just the positive results and rewards.

Why would you compare yourself to a result?
Have you ever asked what they had to do in order to achieve that outcome?
Have you asked yourself what you are willing to do to make sure you get the same results?
Have you ever wondered about the price they had to pay for the life they have?

Don’t tell yourself a story that compares your beginnings to others endings.

Focus on yourself and what you need to do to get the results you desire.
Find inspiration to make sure you remain committed and dedicated.
Feel gratitude for what you do have and for who you are.
Let go of the expectations of others and stop highlighting your setbacks.
Give yourself permission to be yourself.
Believe in yourself and trust that your journey will unfold as it is meant to.

Make today the day you committed to stop comparing yourself!

07/05/2025

Self-care is one of the steps to finding your heartlight.

Theme idea for May: self-care.

Self-care is the fuel for your heart, dreams, passion, and health.

Self-care means giving yourself permission to pause.

Self-care takes care of your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual needs, and can be extended to include your social needs.

Self-care is an easy way to show yourself that you are worthy too, and it should be a part of your daily ritual.

Self-care allows you to shine.

This month is a great time to focus on your self-care. Anytime is a great time to focus on your wellbeing. Make a commitment to yourself and take time every day for self-care. It will make a difference in your life and that will have a ripple effect on everyone in your life.

Make today a great day and do something that makes you feel alive!

If you want to discuss this in more detail, send me a message.

10/02/2025

It's time for a pause!

The Finding Your Heartlight theme for February is PAUSE.

When I watch the news or scroll through social media I am bombarded by headlines and events that are definitely cause for concern but all out of my control. This is a perfect time to pause and reflect!

Pause to assess the situation and to determine the best plan to move forward.
➡Think about what you can do to control your life and situation.
➡Stay in the present moment.
➡Understand that saying you will do something and actually doing it are two different things - many times it never gets done.
➡Put things in perspective.
➡Focus on what is important.
➡Be true to yourself.
➡Get help as needed.
➡Support others if you can.

This is Valentine's week and should be all about relationships. It should be about love, respect, and gratitude. These are all things you can give yourself!

If you are in a relationship, pause to consider how you show that you are completely invested in making it work.
If you are single, pause to consider how you can show yourself the love you have.
If you are ending a relationship, pause to consider how you can show respect for the love that you had.

Things to remember in a relationship:
➡fear is not love
➡taking is not respect
➡demanding is not desire
➡intimidation is control
➡coveting takes away from appreciating
➡secrets are not conducive to a healthy environment
➡time can not be replaced
➡trust that is broken will never fully recover

In the pause, you can gain an awareness that these apply to all relationships: personal, business, employment, associations, political, and geographic. Your ability to love, respect, value, and honor yourself translates into how you interact with the world.

We can't control what is happening outside of us, but we an control ourselves.
Take time to pause and incorporate a pause button into your life. It may prove to be one of the greatest assets to make your life easier going forward!

07/01/2025

Thanks to Positive Paths Leadership for providing the pictures of our calendar!