Finding Your Heartlight

02/06/2025

Another step in the journey to finding your heartlight!

This month’s theme is “Stop Comparing Yourself”.

Last month focused on self-care and I trust you dedicated time to make yourself a priority and are appreciative of the rewards that is giving you.

Now let’s add the element of not comparing ourselves to others. This is actually a form of self-care too and an excellent stress reducer.

Everyone is on their own journey and we are rarely aware of the challenges, struggles, doubts, and attempts required before they succeeded. All we see is what they show us which is usually just the positive results and rewards.

Why would you compare yourself to a result?
Have you ever asked what they had to do in order to achieve that outcome?
Have you asked yourself what you are willing to do to make sure you get the same results?
Have you ever wondered about the price they had to pay for the life they have?

Don’t tell yourself a story that compares your beginnings to others endings.

Focus on yourself and what you need to do to get the results you desire.
Find inspiration to make sure you remain committed and dedicated.
Feel gratitude for what you do have and for who you are.
Let go of the expectations of others and stop highlighting your setbacks.
Give yourself permission to be yourself.
Believe in yourself and trust that your journey will unfold as it is meant to.

Make today the day you committed to stop comparing yourself!

07/05/2025

Self-care is one of the steps to finding your heartlight.

Theme idea for May: self-care.

Self-care is the fuel for your heart, dreams, passion, and health.

Self-care means giving yourself permission to pause.

Self-care takes care of your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual needs, and can be extended to include your social needs.

Self-care is an easy way to show yourself that you are worthy too, and it should be a part of your daily ritual.

Self-care allows you to shine.

This month is a great time to focus on your self-care. Anytime is a great time to focus on your wellbeing. Make a commitment to yourself and take time every day for self-care. It will make a difference in your life and that will have a ripple effect on everyone in your life.

Make today a great day and do something that makes you feel alive!

If you want to discuss this in more detail, send me a message.

10/02/2025

It's time for a pause!

The Finding Your Heartlight theme for February is PAUSE.

When I watch the news or scroll through social media I am bombarded by headlines and events that are definitely cause for concern but all out of my control. This is a perfect time to pause and reflect!

Pause to assess the situation and to determine the best plan to move forward.
➡Think about what you can do to control your life and situation.
➡Stay in the present moment.
➡Understand that saying you will do something and actually doing it are two different things - many times it never gets done.
➡Put things in perspective.
➡Focus on what is important.
➡Be true to yourself.
➡Get help as needed.
➡Support others if you can.

This is Valentine's week and should be all about relationships. It should be about love, respect, and gratitude. These are all things you can give yourself!

If you are in a relationship, pause to consider how you show that you are completely invested in making it work.
If you are single, pause to consider how you can show yourself the love you have.
If you are ending a relationship, pause to consider how you can show respect for the love that you had.

Things to remember in a relationship:
➡fear is not love
➡taking is not respect
➡demanding is not desire
➡intimidation is control
➡coveting takes away from appreciating
➡secrets are not conducive to a healthy environment
➡time can not be replaced
➡trust that is broken will never fully recover

In the pause, you can gain an awareness that these apply to all relationships: personal, business, employment, associations, political, and geographic. Your ability to love, respect, value, and honor yourself translates into how you interact with the world.

We can't control what is happening outside of us, but we an control ourselves.
Take time to pause and incorporate a pause button into your life. It may prove to be one of the greatest assets to make your life easier going forward!

07/01/2025

Thanks to Positive Paths Leadership for providing the pictures of our calendar!

07/01/2025

Happy New Year everyone!

We have a gift for you!

We designed a calendar based on our podcast series to serve as reminder of the steps to reconnect and fall back in love with your authentic self.

Each month highlights one of the 12 steps we discussed and in the order we presented.

Message us if you would like a copy.

28/10/2024

Message to myself: I am so proud of you!

16/10/2024

Thanksgiving is over but gratitude is always in season.

We shouldn't need a special occasion to remind us to be grateful for what we have.
We shouldn't need a special occasion to celebrate people in our lives.
We shouldn't need a special occasion to acknowledge ourselves.

Giving thanks, showing appreciation, expressing gratefulness, and practicing gratitude should be daily rituals if you want to live a more peaceful life.

Don't let your gratitude be dictated by a calendar.
Make it a part of who you are and what others see in you.
Let the feeling of gratitude be its own reward!

When you fully feel gratitude in your heart, you will know what I mean.

03/10/2024

03/10/2024

Life after letting go is whatever you choose!

Following up on my last post about the weight we carry.

For most of my life, I never realized the toll it took on me to try to be the person others wanted me to be, and I never imagined the effect of burying emotions. I was able to show the world a smile regardless of how I felt. I lived life and made the best of every situation. I still do. But now it is authentic!

My life changed when I discovered life coaching and chose to become one. I have always thought that attitude was everything, and I learned how to expand on this and help others shift their thinking to create the lives they desire. To become a coach, I needed to be coached, learn, heal, and grow.

What I didn't expect in this journey was that I had to explore all that I had buried and the stories I had been telling myself. I had to choose how deep I was willing to go as that would determine how deep I could go with potential clients.

I went deep! I went to my very core, my essence, my soul, my spirit, my authentic self.
I re-wrote my stories. I let go of the versions of myself that others wanted me to be. I fell back in love with myself and found peace with all that I am.

I let go of the parts of my past that no longer served me. The facts didn't change, but my viewpoint did. I let go and I found my purpose, my path, my way forward.
I let go and found renewed energy, lightness, and awareness.
I let go to be propelled forward!

Some of what I let go of provided an immediate shift in me, and some took time to fully process and release. Some of what I carried is still with me.....but only to serve as a reminder of all I have been through and the lessons I learned.

My life changed when I released the burden of my buried emotions and old stories.
I became my authentic self again, and became someone who is passionate about helping others through this journey.

I wonder who you could be and how you would feel if you let go and chose to move forward.

03/10/2024

How much weight do you carry?

I am not asking you to tell me what your body weight is, I am referring to the burdens you carry mentally and emotionally.

Our mental weight is based on all that we have learned and the stories we tell ourselves. Our thoughts have the power to weigh us down and to lift us up.

Our emotional weight is based on what we feel about ourselves with the experiences we have had and the meanings we applied. Our emotions can have limitations or be completely expressive.

Do you feel like you are carrying the weight of the world? Are you able to fully feel emotions or are they stunted?

How many secrets are you keeping?
How many of your stories focus on failures, abandonment, lack of love and support, not being good enough, generational history?
How strong is your emotional attachment to these stories?
Do you always feel like you have reached your limits emotionally?
Do you wish or believe you are invisible?
Do you worry about being alone if you were to stop putting others first?

If you answered yes to any or all of these questions, then you truly do carry a lot of weight. I know how exhausting that can be. I also know that many people will put on a mask or try to be who they are expected to be, and that only serves to compound the issues.

Can you lighten your load? Yes!
Do you want to lighten your load? You tell me.
Is it really possible? Absolutely!

How do I know?

I know because I was you. I never asked for the burdens I carried. I never showed my pain. I never thought I was worthy of your time. I held back emotionally from everyone including myself, which added even more weight.

I know it is possible to let go, re-write, process, feel, and heal! I did!
I know it is possible to become re-energized and enthusiastic! I am!
I know it is possible to feel lighter and be at peace! I show it!

If you want to learn more about this journey, stay tuned for the follow-up post.
If you can't wait, send me a message to connect.
If you know someone who needs to read this, share it with them.

In the meantime, become aware of the true weight you are carrying.....

30/09/2024

26/04/2024

Boundaries are the guardians of our essence.

I love this statement! I think it perfectly encapsulates how we should look at our boundaries.

In our boundaries we can be our authentic selves, be true to ourselves, find and maintain our self-respect, and we are safe as long as we honor our boundaries.
Boundaries help us teach others how to treat us. Your boundaries are your boundaries and do not need approval or permission from anyone else!

Honoring your boundaries is saying YES to you, and showing yourself that you are your priority. You matter. You are worthy. You deserve to take care of your needs and wants. You are just as important and valued as every other person in your life!

Today is a great day to focus on your boundaries. Say yes to yourself.

If you have challenges with setting and honoring your boundaries, or have associations with guilt around your boundaries, let's connect and get you on the positive path forward.