Marjani Lane

05/09/2026

New post alert - check the bio for the 🔗.

As a whole Black women cannot show up and be mediocre but when fatphobia enters the conversation - things get shaken up a bit more.

https://marjanilane.substack.com/p/fat-black-women-dont-get-to-be-mediocre?r=1wteby&utm_medium=ios

05/09/2026

And this is how they trick yall right into worse situations than you already are in.

Being a “wife” - especially not a legal one protected by legislation - is going to send yall even deeper into poverty and misery.

Don’t let these influencers who pimp their multiple wives and girlfriends out on OF and es**rt sites while living in an apartment leasing their luxury cars trick yall into thinking this is the better life.

No.

You’re gonna get tagged up with a man who has multiple children and multiple women. You’re gonna have a child or children by said man who doesn’t have any legacy. And if he has property and a legal wife - you’re getting nothing or less than what you think you deserve.

Your children will have to split what little he does have and that’s assuming he doesn’t have an outstanding debts because I highly doubt this man has set up trust funds for the kids.

Yall stop being tricked into polyamory.

02/09/2026

28/08/2026

Don’t have to worry about fighting the yt men who may be racists when there are “ally” yt women and Black men present lol…

They will handle all of the work.

Homie legit got confused why I didn’t find a joke about Black men’s pen*ses being “big” and having rough s*x funny.

Why would I find that funny?

I’m conscious.

Like that put a really bad taste in my mouth.

28/08/2026

You want to know who gives me the biggest issues for talking about racism:

Yt women and Black men lol.

Interesting right?

28/08/2026

Where are the lies?

It is RARE - that you will see the same fat body composition type presented by white women (and white men) be present by Black women at lifestyle/swinger and B**M spaces.

It won’t happen.

I know that if I gained 50-100lbs most, if not all, of the spaces where yt women are present with the same weight, would not offer me invites - regardless if I intend to attend or not.

This is the same for B**M spaces as well.

Fatphobia is racist inherently by nature and it is more violent towards Black women. I’ve always tried to be careful with my weight for personal reasons but the way fat yt bodies that are not HWP are treated at LS spaces is NOT THE SAME experience fat Black bodies that are not HWP are treated.

This is something that I try to express to Black people who want to enter these spaces - especially women and femmes - you will be expected to look “better” and perform “better” than your yt female peers.

This is why you don’t tend to see more seasoned Black women players in most LS spaces - they curate their own or attend smaller events to minimize their exposure to this behavior - even if they are the “hot wife” or fit a desired aesthetic.

I’ve found it particularly violent personally when someone who fetishizes and pedalstools yt women - finds me attractive because what are we doing big boss? It’s very alarming and needs to be unpacked.

Thank you for your insight Nathan Michael!

28/08/2026

This is legit how yall sound when you’re in those OPP polyamory dynamics…

You’re offering monogamy to a greedy poor man?

Diabolical.

But yasss queen! Build his empire. Invest in that man. Let him talk you into putting money into a house your name isn’t on the deed of . Yes, have his kids and build that legacy so that when he dies you have to fight for property with the other baby mamas aka sisterwives. Girl yes let him talk you into making financial decisions he isn’t helping pay for lol.

Yasss queen!