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08/07/2025

When I speak on the ways misogynoir shows up in my dating experiences with some Black American men, it’s not a generalization — it’s a pattern I’ve lived across polyam spaces, veteran circles, and beyond.

A man responded to my post trying to invalidate that by citing fraternity events and the internet being “rage-driven.”

So let me remind folks:

- If you’re not engaging with Black men as a Black woman or femme, your perspective isn’t interchangeable with mine.

- My experience doesn’t require your approval to be valid.

- You don’t get to call it a “broad brush” just because it makes you uncomfortable.

This is what mansplaining looks like in real time.

I said what I said.

08/07/2025

08/07/2025

Celebrating my 5th year on Facebook. Thank you for your continuing support. I could never have made it without you. 🙏🤗🎉

08/07/2025

In the span of 15 minutes on my timeline, I’ve seen multiple videos and comments by Black American men do***ng Black women — for their hair, for not wanting to go 50/50 and “submit” (because who the f**k pays to be a slave?), and for supposedly only being good for s*x.

And this is why I aggressively choose to date West African men — and when I do date Black men, it’s alternative ones. Men who are emotionally mature and not insecure about their masculinity.

In my experience, I’ve only had conversations about submission and going 50/50 with Black American men. And I’ve dated across races, age groups, and cultures. I’ve only been asked to submit by Black American men. I’ve only had Black American men pocket-watch me and get insecure about my income.

Y’all need to unpack that.

A lot of Black men (and yes, some Black women and gender-diverse folks too) have identities built off cosplaying white supremacy — and being deeply insecure within it.

That “traditional man” bu****it?
It’s rooted in the post–WWII reconstruction of white society in the 1950s, when white America pushed white women back into the kitchen after the war effort. That’s also when the GI Bill gave home loans and benefits almost exclusively to white men — setting the stage for white suburbia.

The s**t that is spewing from a lot of these men are generational traumas and desires their fathers could not realize due to their race.

Hating Black women’s hair?
Demanding submission in the form of s*x, finances, labor, and silence?
Reducing Black women to nothing but s*x?

Who does that? Racist white people.

So when I see Black men upholding those ideas, I don’t see revolution.

I see white supremacy with a Black face.

It’s misogynoir. It’s self-hate.
Y’all don’t love Black women — you love controlling them.

That’s not the same.

28/06/2025

Dan Pate - you inboxed me saying you support veterans and the flag on my personal account. I didnt ask for you to grovel because im a veteran.

Then got mad because I dragged you for worshiping a flag and not honoring the humans who served this country.

Yt racists and faux patriots like this irritate me because where do you get off on telling me to leave a country that you, yourself, didn’t serve.

Loving the flag more than the people who served under it is exactly how fascism grows. I served to protect rights — not symbols. If a piece of fabric means more to you than a veteran’s voice, you’re the one who doesn’t belong in a democracy.

Nothing screams fake patriot louder than telling a veteran to leave the country for not idolizing a flag. Y’all don’t love freedom — you just love control.

And it’s absolutely diabolical to tell anyone to leave a country your ancestors stole.

19/06/2025

Better not be yt folks in these comments river dancing for gold stars. I'll embarrass you. Don't do it to yourself and I'm annoyed I even gotta say it.

19/06/2025

How I reserve my energy and my peace as a content creator: