30/01/2024
LUUNCH!! Actually just a quicks stop to refuel the soul with java. I have been up and around since earlier today...
Happy Tuesday! It is soo very pretty out today!
Due to current events that I have experience lately with different groups of people, I am taking a lil break to share my mind... Go ahead and feel free to comment or argue my point if you do not agree. I am really ready to respond accordingly.
The feeling of being used is a very bad and sad feeling, but it is even more sad to see the true characters of those who we love and appreciate resort to such attitudes. Be it Family, friends, coworkers or clients... I have always since a young child always enjoyed quiet alone time and this totally validates me enjoying being alone more often than not as I am getting older, I can only thank my husband for wanting to hang around with me after the many years of marriage, taking me as I am, as I too love him as he is. Thank you, Caveman.
When we reach the next step of up in life and those around you elect not to or flat out refuse to level up with you, we must respect them. We do not have to agree, we do not have to force them to do as we want them to do, we must simply respect them, period.
We must respect everyone's decisions and move on... It is best to keep a safe distance from people we care than to be sad because of the choices they make.
The reality usually sinks in and then some with their dysfunctional life will call one names, like" arrogant, condescending, rude or cruel and calculative", yet not once will they stop and think of how the decisions, we make separate us from those who think totally the opposite ever so slowly but permanently in our lives in totally and absolute opposite ends...
I am a firm believer that if one doesn't work. One doesn't eat…
I also believe that great opportunities are to be taken along with all that is required to reach the rewards and gratification and really make it all worth at the very end.
Great opportunities, most often than not, require great efforts and some or much physical, mental, emotional and/or financial sacrifices too. Only those who choose to visualize life in the future will succeed over those who would much rather have instant gratification.
I make it my personal goal day in and day out to learn something good, to improve and to add value to self and so does my husband. I am a true believer that we must find a living partner/husband wife etc. to match and or exceed our standards, and be willing to keep up, support and encourage each other, but never go back or go lower. I come from a very humble background and I am the last to cast judgement to the less fortunate or the one that have fallen back or are behind academically or financially, but I am not okay with the same groups refusing to do the very basics to move on, up and forward.
When I become a part of a conversation or somebody shares with me or asks my opinion, help, support or advise, I in fact do my very best to listen to their story, their facts and their reasons and then speak my mind. When I speak my mind, I tend to be BOLD. FRANK & TO THE POINT. My diplomacy goes out the window and I set cards on the table of possible options and opinions or ideas of steps to be taken to make life better, then after I openly, share my opinions, a few things will happen:
I get those who get "offended" or may take my words as a personal attack, when it is actually a response to them reaching out for my point of views in life. The members of this particular group will refuse to even process any of the possible truths or facts in an effort to avoid at all cost being accountable for their actions and or consequences. The members of this group usually tend to resent me or anyone for being in a better position, even if that “better position” is just a tiny step ahead…
Then, I get those who would much rather feel victimized by life, events or “luck” when in fact they, more often than not, will eventually admit and wished they had worked just a lil bit harder, or would elect to blame their parents and those loved ones around for making things a bit too easy, and not teaching them the actual steps to accomplish things in life.
The last group is the most pathetic, they not only opt to feel offended by my opinion, refuse to be accountable, but truly believe that society and the whole world owes them, for every breath they take and therefore the members of this group, will demand and cause chaos at home, work or pretty much anywhere they are present, this group of people will use the race card at any given point they do not get their way. This group is the worse because they are not only pathetic but they could be dangerous.
People if you come to me for help, I will help if I can, but please, NEVER ASK ME FOR UNCONDITIONAL SUPPORT OR HELP. I CANNOT NOR DO I WANT TO OFFER UNCONDITIONAL HELP.
My help or support, be it emotional, physical or financial will always be tied with the condition of having in return a positive outcome. Not what I want or how I want things. All I demand in return is positive results, so you can be better than when I started investing my self and my money in you. If you show no reasonable progress, it is hard for me not to feel used and at times abused… This post is not directed to anyone in particular, so please do not personalize it, but like the saying goes: “If the shoe fits, put it on”.
Take care of yourselves. Stay happy and always keep in touch… (But only if you want to)….
