Sacred Design

22/10/2025

💜 My client told me she finally gets it —🦋 the relationship she was in for years was far more abusive than she ever realized—even just six months ago.
So what changed? 💜 She started learning what subtle abuse actually looks like. 🦋 The kind that hides behind words like “too sensitive” or “hard to please.” 💜 She said to me “I thought I was just difficult. I thought love was supposed to feel like constantly working on myself.” 🦋 Truth is, she grew up in a home where love came mixed with double messages and shame. 💜 And chronic exposure to that kind of energy rewires our instincts—🦋 It teaches us to doubt our perception and chase safety in places that are anything but. 💜 So when someone new comes along who knows how to read us—to us it feels like sweet relief. 🦋 Like finally someone really sees us. 💜 And with a history that creates a vacuum in our soul, it’s easy to mistake strategy for caring—or even love. 🦋 Manipulators study people. They ask questions—they observe and skillfully mirror back what fills that vacuum. 💜 And that creates a powerful chemistry. 🦋 Genius on their part. 💜 So how does one stop this pattern of mistaking “strategizers” for true relationship contenders? 🦋 Begin by taking a step back when meeting someone—stop answering questions so fast or just handing them information. 💜 Instead, be the questioner. 🦋 Not like an interviewer—but keep the conversation on them. 💜 Get to know them first so they can’t mimic you and your needs. 🦋 And ask questions that count. 💜 Find out how they handle accountability, empathy, conflict, stress! 🦋 Pay attention — really pay attention — to what happens next. 💜Their willingness to answer alone is very telling. 🦋 Safe people to date stay open and willing to share. 💜 Unsafe ones flinch—they deflect, turn it back to you, crack jokes, try to make you feel foolish for asking… 🦋 Or worse—become visibly angry because they aren’t controlling the conversation. 💜 The more you listen rather than talk, the more quickly you’ll see any red flags. 🦋 Watch for blaming, minimizing, or even bragging about behavior that’s not ok—that’s actually abusive. 💜 And remember— key to being able to do any of this effectively is nervous system regulation. 🦋 Wanna spare yourself another rollercoaster? 💜 For more tools to w**d them out quick so you can find authentic love, contact me: Vaughn Marie

14/10/2025

💜 Tailored nervous system and communication work for women who refuse to lose themselves around volatility. 🦋 You don’t have to be moved by their chaos anymore. 💜 Message me Vaughn Marie

10/10/2025

05/10/2025

Please, don’t wait. If you’re struggling, reach out right NOW—You are not alone. The ripple effects of this tragedy are unimaginable—and whether or not you believe it, your life matters. I love you.

At the 988 Su***de & Crisis Lifeline, we understand that life’s challenges can sometimes be difficult. Whether you’re facing mental health struggles, emotional distress, alcohol or drug use concerns…

01/10/2025

I’m so here to help you stand up, hold your head high, and take no more s**t from those who push you around. But behaving like them to “give em a taste of their own medicine” backfires. I wanna see you master your own energy so much the manipulator gives up. I wanna to help you become unshakable—especially in their presence. Seem impossible? Actually, you were meant to do just that love. And as a result, you can be even better at it than most. Message me if you’re tired of being their whipping post. (I’m already tired of it for you.) Here: Vaughn Marie

29/09/2025

💜 it's easy to believe that pain destroys us. 🦋 And sure, that can be true—it sadly sometimes does. 💜 Trauma can break us wide open, strip us down to what feels like nothing, and leave scars that never fade. 🦋But—and this is BIG—that's not even close to the whole story. 💜 Pain is the raw material of creation. 🦋 And when we have the right guidance, the right space holder, the one who “gets us” we become someone new. 💜 We become someone who forges transformational art, or writes our book of wisdom—In fact, some of us turn it into love so deep it feels like home. 🦋 So, wounds don't only take from us, they also instruct if we let them. 💜 they can hone our awareness and show us what’s truly important, and they can connect us to others in a way we’ve never experienced before. 🦋 Pain shows us what we’re actually capable of—which is usually a lot more than we ever dreamed. 💜 So if you’re in the abyss of pain right now—I’m here to remind you that this too will pass—🦋And you are on the brink of a massive breakthrough if you tie a knot and hang on. 💜 A beautiful enduring change will come from this moment born of your pain. 🦋 This is the contract we have on planet earth. 💜 We live in a world of contrasts—living pain free for the rest of our lives just isn’t going to “manifest.” 🦋 But your life is a canvas you’ve been given to create from when your relationship with pain changes. 💜 How would your life change if you knew how to integrate this fully? 🦋 Wanna learn more? 💜Contact me here. Vaughn Marie

27/09/2025

Vaughn Marie

24/09/2025

💜 If you can’t seem to stay calm around them it’s not your fault. 🦋 The moment your system flips into danger mode your survival wiring takes over. 💜 And that’s when your chest tightens—your voice shakes—and your thoughts seemingly turn to smoke. 🦋 (So frustrating..) 💜 Truth is, it’s so much more manageable than your brain has you believing—because it’s actually biology. 🦋 And love, that’s why no script or affirmation works when you’re triggered. 💜 Ya can’t just shift it on-the-fly— you have to train your body for safety every day so calmness is available when it counts. 🦋 That requires consistency—and that’s why most people don’t actually reap the amazing benefits of regulation. 💜 Listen—you already know Manipulators keep you on your toes. 🦋 They got serious tricks 😂. 💜 Their unpredictability (right when you think you know what’s comin’) is designed to throw you off center. 🦋 If all you’ve got are affirmations & willpower, 🤷‍♀️ you’re done for. 💜 And forget trying to manage or control them—they feed on your attempt like fire on oxygen. 🦋 Commit to coming home to yourself and reclaiming your body—everyday. 💜 Your inner sanctuary is inaccessible when captain chaos is at the helm. 🦋 But it’s unshakable when your wisest self embodies Sacred Presence. 💜 Wanna learn how? 🦋 Message me: Vaughn Marie