Relationship talk with Ayaba

05/02/2024

14 RULES THAT SHOULD GUIDE YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE.

Note: No relationship can succeed without both partners putting in an effort to make it work. Below are 14 rules that should guide your relationship.❤️

1. Never push a loyal woman to the point where she no longer cares.😥

2. There is a difference between somebody who wants you and somebody who would do anything to keep you. Remember that.✍️

3. Communication and trust is important if you want to secure your spot in someone’s heart.❤️

4. Never fall in love with someone who left his girl for you because he might do the same and leave you for someone else.💯

5.A real man never gives up on the woman he loves with all his heart, no matter how much it hurts.😇

6. Don’t play with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of your own.🤨

7. One of the worst mistakes you’ll make is walking away from the person that stood there and waited for you.😔

8. Just because one man treated you badly doesn’t mean all men will. Get this into you skull.✍️

9. Be careful what you say. Human being remembers everything. They will never remember the good word you said to them but they will remember the bad ones you have ever spoken that is Human.😌

10. When two people care about each other, they will always look for a way to make it work.👌

11. Love someone who loves you too.❤️

12.A heartbreak is a blessing from God. It’s just his way of letting you realize he saved you from the wrong one. So you better stop crying now.🙂

13. Letting go isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign that you’re strong enough to move on.💪

14. It’s better to be alone for the right reasons than to be with someone for the wrong reasons.

God help you 🙏

02/02/2024

YOUR LIFE YOUR RELATIONSHIP {3}

31/01/2024

HAPPY NEW MONTH

30/01/2024

30/01/2024

Misunderstanding is something you can never do without in a relationship/marriage. What makes it different is knowing how to handle them when they come.

Most people who do not know how to handle misunderstandings in their relationship/marriages have become victims of divorce and heart breaks. If you can master how to handle misunderstandings when they come, be rest assured that you're going to enjoy a beautiful relationship.

📌LISTEN:
The first thing to do during a misunderstanding is not shouting back at your partner, the first thing to do is to listen. A lot of persons listen to reply but that is wrong. You must listen to understand. Even when they are screaming on top of their voices, relax, be calm and just listen.

📌DON'T RETALIATE:
It is often said that two wrongs cannot make a right, so when they are shouting at you don't retaliate, just keep your cool. When you are calm, you take control of the atmosphere; you tend to study your partner's emotions and hear them clearly.

📌DON'T USE HARSH WORDS:
Yes, it's normal to want to be heard but tame your tongue. Please be mindful of your words while trying to be expressive. Do not say anything out of anger that would make the situation worse. Take time to explain with a language that's soft and tender.

📌SHUT THEM UP WITH LOVE:
Bear in mind that the bone of contention is not to win over your partner but to grow and move forward. There are certain things you will do to your partner that would keep them shut immediately.

Brother Mekus, call Sister Testi sweet names; it will not remove the fire in you. Tell them they don't look good when they are angry, hug them and tell them you love them, stare into their eyes and say they have beautiful eyes or beautiful lips, just say something sweet to them. It won't cost you anything.

📌APOLOGIZE IF YOU'RE THE ONE AT FAULT: Pride is a major dream killer of many beautiful relationshios. If you're at fault, kindly and respectfully apologize and move on. Holding on to issues without apologizing is not right. It will only cause a bigger rift between you and your partner. Accept your mistake, apologize and never get to doing your partner wrong again. And pls, mean it when you say it.......

25/01/2024

A Happy Marriage Or Relationship Doesn't Need The Ideal House, flawless kids, the ultimate job or best car, just perfect commitments & unconditional Love. ❤There are six keys to a great relationship:

1- Friendship:
Try to be your spouse best friend. No matter what happens, be a friend first, and a lover later.

2- Trust:
The key element to any relationship is trust, so before starting this beautiful journey with your spouse, learn to trust in all
circumstances.

3- Understanding:
Try to figure out each other and work out on our differences. There are going to be many differences, but it’s mutual compromise and sacrifice which makes this relationship beautiful.

4- Communication:
Try to talk and convey your message to your spouse. Let your spouse know about how good/bad your day was along with remind them how you feel for them.

5- Honesty:
Always speak the truth, never lie or hide things in fear that your spouse won’t understand. Give your spouse a chance to
understand you.

6- Freedom:
Give your spouse space and freedom to decide for themselves. Don’t take away the personal time of your spouse. When you have practiced all of the above, then trust Good and you will see how beautiful life gets better.

24/01/2024

HOW TO WIN AS A COUPLE

1. Cover each other's weaknesses

2. Celebrate each other's strengths

3. Have no topics that you cannot talk about. No judgment. Openness will open your mind to solutions

4. Consider each other's opinions and contribution

5. Be 100% in. Full commitment

6. Make incremental progress. Seek growth, not perfection

7. Develop a culture of reviewing your relationship; are we doing OK, and where can we improve?

8. Accept correction, be humble

9. Work on yourselves to be the best wife, the best husband

10. Have joint goals

11. Support each other in your individual goals

12. Keep each other as a priority even as you have friends

13. Thank God together. A thankful couple is a powerful couple

14. Don't compete with each other, accommodate each other

15. Bring whatever lessons or opportunities you learn out there into your marriage. Learn together

16. Be patient. Some wins take time

17. When you fall whether as a couple or as individuals, pick each other up

18. Protect what you have built together. It is very easy to lose it fast

19. Control your tempers. A lot of bad choices are made in moments of anger

20. Don't copy other couples. Create your testimonies.

22/01/2024

"The most important decision you'll ever make has nothing to do with your money or career - it is who you marry" - Warren Buffett.

Choosing the right person from the start of a relationship is critical. Finding someone that shares your values, you are physically attracted to, pushes you to be better and lights you up inside is the goal.

Let me share with you some of the life's lesson I learnt from my parents.

1) We all communicate differently.

Study your partner. Meet them halfway—and then go a little further. Understand their love languages. Disagree respectfully.

(2) Look for the good.

Some years will suck. It won’t always be that way. Focus on the journey and let the milestones surprise you. The best stuff is in the mundane.

(3) Be a great teammate.

Life is hard. Doing it with someone you love, trust, and admire is far easier. Treat marriage like the best team you’ve ever played on.

(4) You’re never done winning them over.

Marriage is a verb—an ongoing commitment. Be thoughtful. Do the small things. Always be serving.

(5) Don’t keep score—it’ll never be 50/50.

Marriage is a bunch of give and take. Play to each others strengths. Pick up the slack when needed—your time will come.

(6) Be each others #1 fans.

Listen, support, and encourage them. Help them realize their potential. When they fail, be the first to pick them up. When they succeed, be the first to say “I told you so”.

(7) Don’t give up.

Ruthlessly prioritize the one’s you love.

Marriage is an integral part of life that a wrong decision can cause you a lot. For those who are already married, ask God to help you make it work. For those who are not married, ask God to help you make the right choice. Don't rush into it and don't compare yourself with someone else.
yourself
wisely

19/01/2024

QUALITIES OF A GREAT WOMAN

1. SHE IS INTELLIGENT
She opens her lips and oozes wisdom. One can have a hard and serious talk with her.

2. SHE IS EMOTIONALLY STABLE
Yes, she may be hurt, feeling low and going through much, but she's a master of her feelings. She remains calm and collected

3. SHE MULTIPLIES
She'll turn one hundred into a thousand, a thousand into a million. She doesn't sit pretty and lazy waiting to be done for.

4. SHE LOVES BEING LOVED
Yes, she is not waiting to be done for things, but when you love on her and do good to her, she is receptive and appreciative. In as much as she loves to give, she welcomes being served and given too

5. SHE LOVES THROUGH FOOD
She will make attempts to cook the best meals and in the process, feed your soul too

6. SHE'S FUN
Though she's intelligent, she can also act silly, crack jokes, tease, laugh; she is great company

7. SHE KNOWS HOW TO CALL FOR HELP
When she's stuck or in trouble, she knows how to ask for help. She doesn't suffer alone

8. SHE'S A REFLECTION OF GOD
You see her and see God, she's becoming more and more like God: loving, forgiving, graceful, strong valued

9. SHE IS CONFIDENT
Whether she is an introvert or outgoing, she has a high self esteem. You can't bring her down. She has admirable qualities

10. SHE FEEDS HER MIND, BODY AND SPIRIT
You will catch her often reading a stimulating book or novel, praying, eating the right foods and working out

11. SHE KEEPS RELATIONSHIPS
She will have strong people surrounding her, whether a best friend, a clique of girlfriends or a bunch of close friends. She values relationships with friends and family not just the one with her man

12. SHE UNDERSTANDS HER BODY
She is self aware. She knows what type of clothes, fashion and hair compliments her body shape, size and complexion. She looks phyically good

13. SHE IS SEXUALLY AND FAITHFULLY ALIVE
She is not afraid to make sexual advances on her spouse............

18/01/2024

HOW TO SERVE YOUR HUSBAND'S MEAL......

I know some women will say "who husband help"?
But do your best and leave the rest to God.
Some wives are used to buying fanciful bowls, plates and serving dishes all to decorate their store/kitchens.
They serve their husbands with just any meal dish but when a visitor is around, they go into the store, to get a nice/best dish plate to serve a visitor.

NOBODY IS SUPERIOR TO YOUR HUSBAND!!!

👉 To have the best of marriage, you must serve your husband's meal as a king. If you haven't been to a palace to dine with a king before, watch movies to see it.
Don't just put rice and stew in one dirty flat plate for your husband. Serve his stew separately, if possible, meat/fish separately.

👉 Get a beautiful cup for his water/juice.

👉 Don't let your kids, siblings, housemaid or anyone else serve your husband's meal (except for reasons)....Serve your king by yourself!
👉 When you want to serve his meal, serve with honour and respect. Don't just dump his food on the table.

👉 You need to eat together with your husband sometimes and if by any reason, you have eaten before him, sometimes, ensure you sit with him, ask if he is okay with the meal.
Then pack the plates when he is done.

*The only place most men experience excellent meal service is at the eatery or when they go to watch movies. Don't you know that when you serve /treat your husband like a King, he'll also sees you and treats you like a queen.

*And when you serve/treat him as a slave, he might go out to get a better service..... Then you must not complain. I know some ladies would be like this teaching is odd.. Yes it would be odd to some but for those who seek a peaceful and longlasting marriage.. IT IS A SUCCESS DOSE.
Men's heart move to where they are treated with respect.

Note: Little things that we do ignore go a very long way keeping our home happy and successful.

*Husband and wife who eats together, prays together and do all other things together conquers all marital obstacles.......

May God help you🙏🙏🙏

17/01/2024

AS A WOMAN YOU NEED EXTRA OIL IN YOUR MARITAL LIFE ------- A CANDID ADVISE.

A lot of girls complain that guys walk away from them simply because,they refused giving them sex,some are even tempted to give away their virginity just to keep the guys😕

- Let_me_be_very_blunt_here...😇
Virginity may not be the real reason
Why the guys go away, yes, no doubt,there are several guys who want sex,and if they don't get it,they walk away...😬
The problem may not be the virginity or the sex...😎
NO! they had no 🙌
And the EXTRA OIL here is character!🙋

Most girls do not have extra oil to sustain any relationship,while many brag about their virginity,that's all they have to offer. 👤

Aside your virginity,what do you have to offer to a man?
Can you support him spiritually?
Can you support him physically?
How about mentally?
All you do is demand money for bags👜,shoes👠👠,clothes,👗👖👙?and outing,making him spend unnecessarily.

Have you ever sat him down, to help him plan his future?💭
Has he ever seen you as someone he can confide in?👫
how many times has he come being in a state of dilemma seeking advice from you?😭
Rather than jumping from one club to another. 😵😱
And for the virgins, they forget that virginity ends after the wedding but EXTRA OIL continues...
Yes... Nobody is perfect...
We all have our bad sides...

BUT...

Try to be a woman that a man will always regret losing for the rest of his life...
Be that woman that your man can never afford to lose to another man😊
Build your man to your taste...
And stop looking for a ready made husband 😏😏😏
Force yourself on that rich dude that you didn't work with to achieve what he has...

And hear the story of your life from him one day.

Did You Work With me to achieve all I've got?

Ever since you've entered this house... What have you added to what u met??

There's just nothing as best as building up your man yourself...
You will forever earn his respect.

I hope this piece of advice is useful to all souls?

14/01/2024

Life might look tougher than you expected.
Those that you look as friends might have turn to be your greatest betrayal.
But yet, you don't need to destroy yourself, you don't have to quit now, life will still pay you better, those that have looked down on you will still look up to you.
Don't just give up!
With God, it is well!

10/01/2024

WHAT IS A RELATIONSHIP 😘?

Many people do not know the meaning of relationship or read different meanings to that word.

A RELATIONSHIP is not about having a handsome boyfriend or having a beautiful girlfriend.

It’s not about looking for a perfect person because there isn’t any perfect person on earth.

It’s not about looking for a fair complexion or a rich person.

Having a lot of money doesn’t mean that one has too much pure love.

MONEY 💰 CAN’T BUY LOVE. 😍

A relationship is about finding someone who respects you.

Who cares about you in anyway he/she can afford.

Who understands you.

Who is proud of having you.

Who appreciates you the way you are .

Who loves you the way you are.

Who is faithful to you.

Who knows how to comfort you.

Who is supportive to you or in everything you are trying to do.

Who knows how to encourage
you to be your best.

Who would accept the worst of you.

Forgive you
And who will go through everything without giving up on u.

Such people are very rare to find these days.

It takes God himself to bring you such person just like He did for Adam.

But your relationship with God will be a major determinant in finding such person.💐🤝💐

If you have got such person already just keep that person.

Handle him or her with care.🙊💕✨

Be honest & contented with that person and don't do anything to hurt or let down that special person.🥀🌙🥀

Remember, Relationship is a full time commitment/sacrifice and you must be willing to pay for it.

May you not choose wrongly in Jesus Name. Amen

07/01/2024

Happy Sunday

06/01/2024

7 THINGS TO CARRY LIKE A CRATE OF EGGS

There are things we must carry and handle with extra- carefulness because these things are fragile and once broken, it is not easy to put back together and once some of these things get broken, they can lead to huge damage and destiny wastage.

1. Your Relationship With God:

The most fragile matter that you should not allow to break is therelationship with your Creator.
You should know that the main purpose why God created you on this earth is to worship Him and you will stand in front of Him and account for what you did on earth.
Always put God first in everything you do.
Don't disobey Him because of anybody or anything.
Remember that day you will need Him and nobody will be there to help you.

2. Your Name:

Your name is very important and fragile. There are names that stinks in the ears of people simply because, those who bear those names spoilt the name. The way to handle your name with care is to be careful of your doings. Your actions can rubbish your name. A good name can open doors for you & for your children and generations after you.
Carry your name with carefulness. It is a huge asset.

3: Your heart:

Many hearts are broken, shattered, wounded and bitter today. One of the factors responsible for this is because many of these hearts' owners were careless with their hearts. You can guard your heart from being broken and bitter. *Run away from people, and things that are bent on breaking your heart.* Carry your heart like a crate of eggs. You need a whole heart before you can be said to be fully whole!

4: Your Health:

You have only this body as a vehicle that will carry you through your journey of destiny in this life. Handle your health with care. No matter how big your vision is, once you are dead, nobody can really run the vision like you! Fight for your health. Avoid things that can destroy your health. Wealth is useless when your health becomes useless. Don't kill yourself before your time. Do your best to stay alive.

Some people use FORK, KNIFE, GLASS and SPOON to dig graves through reckless eating and drinking. Watch what you EAT and DRINK. Don't eat anything because it is edible and don't drink anything because it is appetizing.
Always pray for divine immunization against sickness and diseases.

5: Your Relationship/Marriage:

So many people handle their Relationship/ marriage like a carton of Indomie noodles. Your marriage is fragile, so also is your relationship with your spouse. Don't forget it is your relationship with your spouse that will lead to marriage. Handle it like a crate of egg. It must not break! A broken marriage is not easy to put back together, because, when a marriage breaks, many things get broken with it. Remember, it takes two to tango. Husband and wife must always carry their marriage like an egg. It must not break!

6: Your words:

Your worth is attached to your words. Be careful with words. Once broken, you can't gather them up again. Many people are careless with their words. They speak violently. They make empty promises and break them. Some say things they later wish they never said. Guard your words. Be careful with your diction.

7: Your eternity:

Those who are running up and down to fulfill destiny here on Earth without thinking of their eternity do not belong here! The matter of eternity is not something you should handle with levity. Think about where you will spend eternity, You will die one day. I will also die one day. All that we are and have in this world are vanity upon vanity.

Take the matter of your end very serious. Stop living carelessly as if you have extra life. Don't live for the pleasure of this world. Have the hereafter in mind in all that you do.

25/12/2023

May the Birth of Jesus Christ we are celebrating today brings good tidings to you and your kin In His Name. Amen🙏🙏🙏

MERRY CHRISTMAS🤗

18/12/2023

Your Life Your Relationship {2}

11/12/2023

YOUR LIFE YOUR RELATIONSHIP!

27/11/2023

Go for who looks like you {prt2}

20/11/2023

Go for who looks like you

22/10/2023

For understanding to work for you in your relationship you need to have all this criteria.

15/10/2023

Have the understanding and Knowledge needed in your relationship.

08/10/2023

Wisdom In Relationship (Part2)

01/10/2023

WISDOM IN RELATIONSHIP