11/11/2024
Perfection doesn't exist...all we can ever do is try our best. For instance parenting certainly doesn't come with a manual BUT it is always obvious when something isn't right or so you'd think....
Here's a list of don'ts;
-What you don't do is use your children as an object or use them as an emotional crutch.
- or use your children as a means to have an affair
-or bring a man in after you kick their father out, then said new man cheats on her then comes back(even when I pleaded don't do it) and makes life hell.
-or you don't ignore her pleas because her step father is a scum of a human and all you ever get is "I just want the easy life"..what about her, mother???
-or consistently using her dad in a negative light making out that acting or being like him is a bad thing
- you don't treat her like crap and then never ever apologise for anything you ever did.
-you don't yell and scream that your daughter is a selfish cow/bitch because ;she felt uncomfortable with you being false and all over yet another man. Then blame her for the relationship breaking down
- you don't tear her down when an ex uses her
-you don't call her selfish and how could I do this, when she is in a bad place mentally and collapse drunk in a street because her MH is in the toilet.
- you don't roll your eyes when your daughter brings up her trauma from her ex stepfather and rolls her eyes goes "oh John again", "I was a different person back then". (And I am your daughter)
-you don't slag off your daughter because she didn't agree with your version of something;
On that point you don't then slag her off as a parent, or call her hateful, disgusting, nasty, destructive, or selfish and make up lies about her
- you don't manipulate her in to thinking her father couldn't give a damn
-you don't destroy two sisters' relationship and sit back and hide whilst blaming your eldest daughter for it
This list can go on and I can easily pad out the detail. As a Mum myself I can't fathom doing any of this.
