What Motherhood Taught Me (2025)

12/09/2024

Parenting is HARD. It might be one of the toughest jobs in the world. Sadly, oftentimes, parents go unappreciated by society and at times, by their own kids.

In the past few weeks, I have seen and heard parents having difficulty managing their children's behavior. I am one of these parents too. With a threenager in tow, I sometimes miss the calmness he had when he was two.😂

There are a lot of things we cannot control when it comes to parenting. We cannot control the emotions of our kids. We cannot control their behavior. We cannot control their decisions.

Yet, we can trust a God who is in control. This verse reminds me that God is on the throne. He is on high. He is in control. My God is mightier than the noises that I hear, the floods that may come, the storms that I have no control over.

This verse calmed my heart and helped me remember that I am but a steward of God when it comes to my child. I will do the best I can to raise Him in a godly fashion, and God will do the rest. After all, He is the one in control of every facet of my life.

So if you feel overwhelmed, tired, frustrated... Rest in God, dear Momma. You can find peace and calm in His presence. You can find assurance in His plans for your child. Rest in His promises. You are not alone in raising your child.

God is in control!

16/07/2024

Gentle reminder to every mom.
What is inside our hearts matter more than the outside. ❤️

05/07/2024

When we are in fear, anxiety and in distress, our capacity to think diminishes. Our IQ decreases. That's what I have learned in a Psychological First Aid training I completed last month. I also learned that I never really appreciated the essence of this verse (2 Timothy 1:7), until I heard our resource speaker talk about fear.

What is fear? In this verse, fear in Greek is "deilia" which means timidity, fearfulness and cowardice. Fear is described in Merriam-Webster as "an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger." This fear in 2 Timothy 1:7 is not fear of the Lord. It is not reverence. It is an overwhelming emotion of alarm due to danger.

I realized that when we are in fear or if we inflict fear on others, our little ones for instance, we forfeit the gift of demonstrating things that God has given us - power, love and a sound mind.

Power in this verse is "dynamis" which means strength or ability - the power to perform miracles, ability to work or a mighty work. When we are in fear, we lose the power that God has given us to do His work. This can mean roadblocks in terms of stepping up in our ministries, being good parents, or excelling for His glory.

Moreover, love, in this verse, is the agape kind of love which is brotherly love, affection, good will or benevolence. When we let fear prevail in our hearts, we cannot easily love people. We tend to show the opposite of love to others especially our family and friends. This can be hurtful words and actions, or even indifference.

Lastly, we also lose the capacity to have a sound mind. Sound mind here means self-control or discipline. When we are governed by our fears and anxieties, we sadly lose our control over our minds. We may say things we don't mean and do things we normally would not do.

We lose these three things that God has given us if we let fear control us.

What are you fearful of today? Are you fearful of...
💵 bills you are unable to pay?
💔 a broken heart?
🤱 not being a good enough mom?
👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 a divided or problematic family?
🧑‍🏫 not excelling in your chosen field?
🙏 not being able to be a good Christian?
⚰️ death?
or the uncertainty that tomorrow brings?

We can have a lot of fears, but if we give God these fears, know that He is able to remove it. He can give us the ability and power to overcome everyday struggles, the capacity to love even the unloveablee and the clarity to decide according to His will.

Let us remember that He is with us along the way. Let us focus on the fact that He is God - Our GOD, He is a God that loves us, cares for us and takes care of us. We can let go of our fears today. :)

Isaiah 41:10
Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.

We got this Momma! God is with us!

25/06/2024

Sunshine and love.

My son and I went for a short walk and playtime. Then, I saw the beautiful sunset. I told him, "Baby, let us stop a while. I want to take a photo of the sunset." He said, "No. It's sunshine!!!"

It got me thinking how our little ones may have no concept of sunrise or sunsets yet. All they know is that the sun is there. There is sunshine!

Often, we look at time frames in our life. Sunrise urges us to get up, start the day, and face challenges of a new day. Sunsets signals time to wind down. It may also let us feel regret and sadness over for things not accomplished for the day, or joy for victories. In our minds, this day is quite finished. We live for every sunrise and every sunset just like clockwork. At times, it gets monotonous.

Not for them.

For our little ones, each moment counts. Each moment is an opportunity to live, love and explore. Every sunshine counts.

A great reminder for busy parents like you and me.

Let us make every sunshine count! 🌞

17/02/2024

Face your fears.

My little boy used to be so scared of this Gorilla toy in one of the mall playgrounds we go to.

I was so surprised today that he took the same toy and played with it. He even hugged it! I was so proud of him because he was able to face and embrace his fears.

How I wish I was like that.

Honestly, the easiest thing to do is to ignore my fears and keep on getting scared. Yet, in this moment in my life, my son taught me that fears are just that... fears. We allow ourselves to live in fear only if we choose to.

I was reminded that I have a Great God who takes care of me and loves me.

What should I fear?

01/02/2024

Celebrating more than a year of motherhood! Wooh!

On days when we are alone with our child/children, with housework piling up, work tasks on the rise, and managing the household seems overwhelming, we might feel that we are failing one way or another.

Yet, motherhood is a journey, so I learned. :)

Some days, you win. Yaaay!
You feel like the best mom in the world.

Other times, you feel like a failure. :(
However, don't forget that it is just a bad day.
You can always try again tomorrow.

05/10/2023

Teaching kids requires patience.

I went home to a very messy home today. My son's blocks, cars and trucks were all out of their boxes.

I was tempted to clean up after him but I remembered a webinar I attended today. The speaker said that we must be patient in teaching toddlers so that they will also learn responsibility and skills.

So, I had an idea. I wanted my son to learn the concept of hard and soft. I also wanted him to learn how to put his toys back in their boxes.

I found the perfect learning opportunity!

He has 2 kinds of blocks, Hard ones and soft ones. I let him feel him what is a hard block and what is a soft block. I then asked him to sort the hard blocks from soft blocks by placing them in 2 different boxes.

Acknowledging him when he got correct answers were helpful.

It took much longer time to tidy up, but it was worth it.. My baby boy was learning. 💙💙💙

26/04/2023

"Baba. Baba."

This is how my kiddo asks me to play with him. I need to sit down and interact with him with full attention.

It's like that in life. Sometimes we have to abandon our high dreams and aspirations. It all comes down to what really matters - our family, our health, our friends and our relationship with God.

It's not all about ambition. We need to see what matters more.

23/03/2023

Sharing appreciation for Pastor's Wives in this special month.
Being a Pastor's Wife is a courageous role in life. You are always in the lens of other people, susceptible to judgements and comments. You also help carry the burden of your husband, the Pastor... burdens most people do not see. Your children are not exempted as well. You need to be more purposeful in how you bring them up in the knowledge of the Lord.

Despite all the challenges, there are always joys. You are able to be in the front seat of seeing God's goodness and faithfulness. You see how the church grow in numbers and in service to God. You also see your husband grow more as a leader. You also experience how your children get to know the Lord each day.

So today, let us celebrate the courageous women of the Lord.
Tag your Pastor's Wife and tell them how much you appreciate them today!

16/03/2023

My son surprised me this afternoon. He tried calling my attention again while I was finishing some emails. My lesson learned last time was that when he calls I have to pay attention, so I did.

He led me to his play area and I saw that he stacked his blocks on top of one of his little buses. It was not an easy thing to do because the bus had an uneven surface and the blocks and other toys were not of the same size. Yet he was able to do it. He was clapping and showing it off.

However, eventually, the stack fell down. What I observed from my son was he did not cry. He tried again until such time he was able build the stack back up. He was determined.

Sometimes, we are deterred by failures in our life. We don't try again. We become paralyzed by the fear of failing. Well, I know I have, multiple times. My son taught me that failure is a form of learning - not to do it again the same way. I must strive to find another way to build and to build it better.

Oh, how blessed I am to have a God who gives multiple chances despite my failures. How blessed I am to be given a child who reflects His love too.

09/03/2023

Have you ever heard enough "Mama" in one day, that you stopped paying attention?

One afternoon, I was busy replying to work matters when my child continuously said "Mama. MAMA. mama." He was getting my attention. I told him "Yes baby? Mama is here." I looked at him, then I continued my work . It wasn't until my husband pointed out what my son was trying to show me that I realized an amazing thing that he did.

He was playing with balls that day, and he made this discovery that when you apply enough force you can lift another ball in the middle without touching it. I was amazed. For a 2-year old child it was amazing that he was able to do that.

I was also rebuked because I did not pay attention to the little things that, maybe for my child, is a huge thing.

Sometimes in life, we tend to dismiss the little things that God is showing us as we go about our daily lives. Maybe we should try to stop and really pay attention so that we will be able to see the greatness even in the minute of every minute.

06/03/2023

Today, I went with my son to the park near our home. A few months ago, before I became a mom, my day was usually full with work and studies. I did not even see the sun or the stars in a given day.

It was my little boy who taught me that it is okay to pause for a while and look at the moon, the stars, the sun. It is okay to just breathe, to reflect, to pray, and to listen to music.

Oftentimes, we are consumed by our to do list that we forget to just appreciate the life that we are given.

So let's stop. pause. enjoy. reflect.

God has blessed us with this life, let's also take time to appreciate it.

What Motherhood Taught Me