24/05/2024
"I lost the faith, but not the guilt."
I read this line in a Janet Evanovich book about 15 years ago, and it was a thread that began my religious undoing.
I was slowly beginning to realize that this good Catholic school girl wasn't living, thinking, speaking or being so good. In fact, I was sometimes being a total as***le.
I was rebelling against the restrictive norms I'd been taught.
The problem was, the more I rebelled, the more shameful I felt.
Guilt, worry, fear of judgment – these feelings were controlling my life. I was addicted to it.
Doing things that would produce more and more shame, addicted to the cycle of self-deprecation.
It's been a wild untethering, ya'll.
One by one, I peeled back the layers, and what I found at the center is what this week's guest came on the podcast to discuss: shame around my own feminine desire.
Courtney Boyer, a renowned relationship and s*xuality expert, is here to unravel the layers of societal expectations that often s***f out joy and self-acceptance at every level of our lives.
This episode sheds light on the surprising connection between embracing our desires and stepping into a world where life is lived in full color.
We confront the misinformation surrounding female s*xuality and celebrate the potential for a society informed by pleasure, rather than restrained by outdated taboos.
Because many of our challenges with love and joy and acceptance and abundance - it's all wrapped up in our shame around our own desires and experience of pleasure.
Courtney's wisdom will – at the very least – spark curiosity in you around the complexities of female pleasure and the implications it has on your personal sense of freedom and empowerment. (And how certain practices and belief intentionally restrict our connection to it.)
Listen in to hear how pleasure is not just about the act of s*x; it's about claiming our rightful place in a narrative that has long been dictated by others, and in doing so, finding our truest selves.