The Power of Habits

08/01/2024

27/11/2023

Achieving a goal is only a momentary change.
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Imagine you have a messy room and you set a goal to clean it. If you summon the energy to tidy up, then you will have a clean room—for now. But if you maintain the same sloppy, pack-rat habits that led to a
messy room in the first place, soon you’ll be looking at a new pile of
clutter and hoping for another burst of motivation. You’re left chasing the same outcome because you never changed the system behind it.
You treated a symptom without addressing the cause.
Achieving a goal only changes your life for the moment. That’s the
counterintuitive thing about improvement. We think we need to
change our results, but the results are not the problem. What we really
need to change are the systems that cause those results. When you
solve problems at the results level, you only solve them temporarily. In
order to improve for good, you need to solve problems at the systems
level. Fix the inputs and the outputs will fix themselves.

26/11/2023

THE TWO-MINUTE RULE

Even when you know you should start small, it’s easy to start too big.
When you dream about making a change, excitement inevitably takes
over and you end up trying to do too much too soon. The most effective
way I know to counteract this tendency is to use the Two-Minute Rule, which states, “When you start a new habit, it should take less than two minutes to do.” You’ll find that nearly any habit can be scaled down into a two-
minute version:
“Read before bed each night” becomes “Read one page.”
“Do thirty minutes of yoga” becomes “Take out my yoga mat.”
“Study for class” becomes “Open my notes.”
“Fold the laundry” becomes “Fold one pair of socks.” “Run three miles” becomes “Tie my running shoes.”
The idea is to make your habits as easy as possible to start. Anyone
can meditate for one minute, read one page, or put one item of clothing
away. And, as we have just discussed, this is a powerful strategy because once you’ve started doing the right thing, it is much easier to
continue doing it. A new habit should not feel like a challenge. The
actions that follow can be challenging, but the first two minutes should be easy. What you want is a “gateway habit” that naturally leads you down a more productive path.

25/11/2023

Why you become angry?

You may be annoyed by situations, things, peoples and even by yourself. But bear in mind all these make you angry if you only let them make you angry. If you let everybody annoy you, you have missed something.
You have opened your deep inside for everybody to make you feel whatever they want you feel or Whatever you want yourself feel. Your mood is dependent on others. Don't let your deep inside emotions open for everybody so as not to be dependent on others weather or mood. Have your own weather with you every day.

...✍ Caleb Tamru

24/11/2023

IMITATING THE POWERFUL

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Humans everywhere pursue power, prestige, and status. We want pins and medallions on our jackets. We want President or Partner in our titles. We want to be acknowledged, recognized, and praised. This tendency can seem vain, but overall, it’s a smart move. Historically, a person with greater power and status has access to more resources, worries less about survival, and proves to be a more attractive mate. We are drawn to behaviors that earn us respect, approval,admiration, and status. We want to be the one in the gym who can do muscle-ups or the musician who can play the hardest chord progressions or the parent with the most accomplished children because these things separate us from the crowd. Once we fit in, we
start looking for ways to stand out.

BY JAMES CLEAR