23/05/2025
Hello peza wako, I need some advice, please hide my ID and post for me☺. I am a high school leaver, 19, and I am dating a second year finance student, 21. We have been friends for 6 years since primary but only started dating this year in January. I have been in a number of toxic, nonbeneficial relationships for quite some time before I started dating him and so has he. When he asked me to be his girlfriend he made me promise to take our relationship seriously and genuinely because he is dating to marry. He told me that he wants someone who he can confide in, give love and loyalty, work hard with and build a future with. His motives for a relationship assured me and we began our relationship.
So far everything has been going great. We go on dates, talk to each other everyday over the phone, share issues (home, school, work related) support each other, helps me with my anxiety attacks and everything else in between! I have seen his red flags and he has seen mine, we've accepted them and grown passed that.
Now here is the problem.. My peers💀and not just my peers but even random associates constantly discourage me by telling me it won't last because he is a student. They say university breaks even the strongest of relationships and there's nothing one can do about it. I shun from their advice and statements but deep down I am scared.. I was going to tell my siblings about him but I am afraid that they may say the same things and ruin our relationship.. I really love this boy and I'm planning on spending the rest of my life with him.
I don't want to seem like a paranoid freak by asking him weird questions that might make me look like I don't trust him, I do trust him but I trust my gut even more and my gut says he's the one..
Please lend this young hopeless romantic some advice 😭 I'll be reading the comments and please no criticism 😞thanks in advance!🫶🏽