
08/05/2025
Battling cancer was easier than looking for a job.
Why? Let me tell me what happened to me today.
My hair has never grown back correctly since battling cancer the second time.
I wear a headdress everywhere I go because I am embarrassed by the way my hair looks.
The only people that have seen me without it have been my husband, my immediate family, and my doctors.
I knew what I was capable of and what kind of person I am. I knew I was strong. I knew I was kind to the lady that sat next to me that talked incessantly, only because she had no other social support to lend a listening ear. She is the sole reason I went to treatment when I didn't want to go; because she had no other support.
This isn't the same type of behavior companies are showing.
I knew every time I sat in the chemo chair, 4 days a week, that I was either losing or winning the battle, but I was kind to others and trying my hardest.
The first time I went to the grocery store after 2 years of treatment, I was 93 pounds. Someone whispered, "Does she know she isn't even going to eat that food she's buying?"
That day will stick with me.
Today, 1-31-2023 will also stick with me.
Today, I had an interview with a company that did not end their zoom meeting before they began to talk with each other.
"She had a head cap on, did she know she was in an interview?"
"She would look more professional if she showed her hair. I can't tell what color her hair is."
Do you know my hair is uneven? Do you know I have bald spots? Do you know I am embarrassed to show anyone what I've gone through? Do you know my hair looks less professional if I don't wear a head cap?
I wouldn't ghost myself. I would show up and show out as my best self each day. I knew I wasn't the type of business owner to send generic emails or steal my business ideas after 4 interviews and promote a customer service motto but internally, act discreetly in poor human practices.
Cheers to the unkind folks out there. You are helping us kind folks realize how important we are to others and how important our purpose remains.
Today is the last day I will wear anything to hide my history. I will wear my history with appreciation.
My pride is hurt but I learned a valuable lesson in self-love today. ❤
Credit: Anonymous