16/09/2025
FIVE THINGS THAT KILL YOUR VALUE IN FRONT OF A MAN
Some of you keep wondering why a man doesn’t respect you, but you're the cause of it.
You’re doing things that kill your value right in front of him. And once your value drops in his eyes, it’s very hard to bring it back.
Here are five of them:
1.Always begging him for money.
Every little thing — urgent 2k, data, transport, food, you’re calling him. It makes you look dependent and desperate. A real woman adds value, she doesn’t drain him.
2. Oversharing your personal problems too soon.
You just met him, and suddenly he knows your whole family history and every struggle in your house. Sis, he didn’t sign up to be your ATM or your therapist.
3. Dressing indecently to get attention.
Yes, he may look. Yes, he may even want you. But deep down, he will never see you as the woman he can build with. Real men respect women who respect themselves.
4. Chasing him instead of being chased.
Always calling, always texting, always forcing conversation. Men value what they work for. The more you throw yourself at him, the less he sees your worth. This doesn't mean you shouldn't call or text. But allow him to do the chasing at the initial stage. Don't throw yourself cheaply at him.
5. Tolerating disrespect just to keep him.
When you allow him to treat you anyhow and you don’t speak up because you’re scared of losing him, sis, you’ve already lost. A man will only treat you the way you allow him to.
Listen, your value is in how you carry yourself.
If you want respect, don’t beg for it, don’t cry for it, don’t fight for it. Earn it by holding yourself to a higher standard.
Stop selling yourself cheap. Be the woman he has to step up for, not the one who lowers herself just to keep him.