19/06/2025
So because he paid your school fees⌠now he is legally permitted to sleep with you?
Because he was there for you when no one else was⌠now you must marry him?
Letâs sit with this truth for a moment:
âGratitude is not a marriage certificate. And sacrifice is not a reason to lose your mind or your destiny.â
Yes, people come into our lives
Some for a reason.
Some for a season.
But not everyone is meant to stay forever.
And certainly, not everyone is meant to become your life partner.
I remember a young lady I counseled late last year.
She was preparing for her wedding.
And I asked, âWhy are you marrying this man?â
Because honestly, from the outside looking in she didnât look ready.
There was no joy. No vision. No conviction.
She looked at me and said:
ââWeâve been together too long.â
ââHe helped me through school.â
ââEveryone already knows us together.â
And I sat there speechless.
I didnât hear words like purpose, vision, calling, compatibility, or even love.
I was deeply worried.
Last month, I heard she had moved back to her parentsâ house.
And honestly, I didnât need a prophet to tell me what happened.
The foundation was built on gratitude, not conviction.
On history, not purpose.
On obligation, not mutual vision.
Young lady, hear me and hear me well:
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Someone can support your dreams and still not be the one God ordained for your future.
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Someone can be there for you in your hardest seasons and still not fit your destiny.
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You can appreciate someone without attaching your whole life to them.
đGratitude should not trap you.
đHistory should not confuse you.
đAnd pity should never make you say âI do.â
Marriage is not a reward for suffering.
It is a divine assignment that requires alignment, direction, agreement, and Godâs hand.
Donât marry out of pressure.
Donât say yes because you feel indebted.
Donât build your future on someone elseâs sacrifice when your heart is not in it.
Say thank you, yes.
Pray for them, sure.
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