14/07/2022
I raised my daughter as a single mother.
For me, the bond that we formed was like no other.
I was young, so we grew up together.
We had our share of ups and downs, but we always found a way to make it.
She was the first person who I truly felt unconditionally loved by
For once in my life, I felt needed, appreciated, valued, and important to someone.
Needless to say, her last couple of years of high school, caused a lot of fear to surface. The unstable feeling of knowing that the unconditional love that I had grown accustomed to was not going to be the same way that it had been for the last 18 years.
I became aware of how entangled our lives were.
And as she was starting out on her own journey, I realized it was only fair to untangle our lives.
As parents we want so much for our children, it is easy to get lost in their lives and push ours aside.
We want to control their environment in order to keep them safe the way we did when they were younger… But we can’t.
Trusting that we provided them with the necessary tools to survive was all we had control over.
We want to prevent them from making the same “mistakes” that we did.. We can’t..
Their mistakes will allow them to learn and grow, just as we did.
Of course, we will be there when they need us, and at the same time, their learning to trust themselves is a part of their growth.
For many mothers, our primary focus became our children.
So when my daughter left, I realized that I didn’t really know myself.
I went from being a kid right into motherhood, with no real space to figure out who I was or who I wanted to be. I became who she needed me to be.
With her gone, I was left with myself, confronted with all of my limiting beliefs, fears, and unfelt emotions that had been locked away.
When we are ‘busy” with their lives we can easily “justify” being distracted from our own. However, the stuff we lock away doesn’t disappear because we lock it away.
Once our children grow up and start to explore who they are without us it can be challenging to accept. Letting go and allowing our children to fly can leave us feeling lost.
For so many years they were our identity.
We will always be their mother but as they go off and create their own lives, Its is time to ask ourselves:
✨Who do you want to be?
✨What feelings have you left unfelt because you
were too “busy'' to attend to them?
✨How do you want to live the rest of your life?
✨What kind of relationships do you want to form?
✨What is important to you now?
Rediscovering yourself after years of being who you thought that you had to be for others is an exciting opportunity!
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I am excited to work with women who are ready and committed to change!
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