Godly Single & Married Forum

28/05/2025

The Pressure to Marry: How to Handle It

The truth is, the pressure to marry has led so many people to marry the wrong partner.

Once someone reaches their early twenties for ladies and early thirties for men , their family, friends or society want to see them marry. And When they don't see that person making moves towards getting married, they will start pressuring them towards getting married.

If you're in this age range and still single, you will start hearing questions like, "When are you getting married?" or "Don't you want to settle down?"

These questions, though often well-meaning, can feel intrusive and place unnecessary pressure on individuals like you.

Social media also amplifies this pressure. Seeing friends, peers, or even celebrities getting engaged, married, or starting families can make you feel left behind. This has led many women and men to make regrettable decisions who they choose to marry and when they get married..

Here are some tips that will guide you on how to handle the pressure to marry

Acknowledge Your Feelings: It's essential to recognize and accept your emotions. You do want to get married and that’s okay. Feeling stressed or anxious because you"re getting older and haven’t met the person you will marry is normal. Such feelings show that you are a human being with blood flowing in your veins. Allow yourself to process these feelings without judgement.

Set Boundaries: It's okay to set boundaries with people who pressure you. Politely let them know that you're not comfortable discussing your relationship status. You can say something like, "I appreciate your concern, but I'm focusing on other areas of my life right now."

Focus on Personal Growth: Instead of succumbing to the pressure, use this time to invest in yourself. Focus on your career, hobbies, or personal development. The more content you are with your life, the less external pressures will affect you.

Surround Yourself with Supportive People: Spend time with friends and family who respect your choices and don't pressure you to conform to societal norms. A strong support system can make a big difference.

Trust Your Timing: Everyone's journey is different. Just because others are getting married doesn't mean you're behind. Trust that the right time and person will come when it's meant to be.

The pressure to marry is real and often a challenging experience, but it doesn't have to dictate your life choices. By understanding the source of this pressure, setting boundaries, and focusing on your personal growth, you can navigate this period with confidence.

Remember, marriage is a significant step that should be taken on your terms, not because of societal expectations. A decision to marry will significantly impact the next fifty years of your life.

Trust your journey, and know that the right path for you is the one that feels authentic and true to who you are.

10/03/2025

> Marriage flourishes 😍 when the couple work together as a team; when both husband and wife decide that winning together is more important than keeping score. Good marriages don't just happen. They are a product of hard work.

> A successful marriage doesn't require a big house, a perfect spouse, a million dollars or an expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment selfless love and Jesus at the center of it all.

> Empowering And Blessing Generations

10/03/2025

𝗟𝗢𝗩𝗘 𝗜𝗦 𝗡𝗢𝗧 𝗕𝗟𝗜𝗡𝗗!

💬 "Some people say 'love is blind.' No! Love is not blind. If love was blind, God wouldn’t tell us to walk in love, because God is light! Love sees clearly." – 𝗣𝗔𝗦𝗧𝗢𝗥 𝗖𝗛𝗥𝗜𝗦

📖 "And this I pray, that your love may abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all judgment;" – Philippians 1:9

🔴 𝗟𝗢𝗩𝗘 𝗦𝗛𝗢𝗨𝗟𝗗 𝗕𝗘 𝗪𝗜𝗦𝗘, 𝗡𝗢𝗧 𝗦𝗧𝗨𝗣𝗜𝗗!
✅ 𝗦𝗘𝗘 𝗖𝗟𝗘𝗔𝗥𝗟𝗬 𝗕𝗘𝗙𝗢𝗥𝗘 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗖𝗢𝗠𝗠𝗜𝗧.
Don’t let emotions blind you from seeing red flags. Ask yourself:
✔️ Does this person align with God’s vision for my life?
✔️ Are they spiritually mature?
✔️ Are they trustworthy, responsible, and loving?

🚨 𝗗𝗢𝗡’𝗧 𝗠𝗔𝗞𝗘 𝗘𝗫𝗖𝗨𝗦𝗘𝗦 𝗙𝗢𝗥 𝗗𝗘𝗦𝗧𝗥𝗨𝗖𝗧𝗜𝗩𝗘 𝗕𝗘𝗛𝗔𝗩𝗜𝗢𝗨𝗥!
❌ "They’ll change after we marry."
❌ "They love God, but they just have anger issues."
❌ "I know they’re worldly, but I’ll help them grow."

🔴 𝗟𝗢𝗩𝗘 𝗧𝗛𝗘𝗠, 𝗕𝗨𝗧 𝗗𝗢𝗡’𝗧 𝗠𝗔𝗥𝗥𝗬 𝗔 𝗥𝗘𝗗 𝗙𝗟𝗔𝗚!

🔥 𝗦𝗘𝗘 𝗖𝗟𝗘𝗔𝗥𝗟𝗬! 𝗔𝗦𝗞 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗛𝗢𝗟𝗬 𝗦𝗣𝗜𝗥𝗜𝗧 𝗙𝗢𝗥 𝗚𝗨𝗜𝗗𝗔𝗡𝗖𝗘!

🔴𝐆𝐎𝐃 𝐁𝐋𝐄𝐒𝐒 𝐘𝐎𝐔

10/03/2025

SECRETS OF LOVERS WHO DON'T BREAK UP

1. They know how to say sorry and mean it.
2. And they don't hold on to grudges.
3. They don't make assumptions about their partner's feelings - they ask.
4. They make time for physical affection.
5. They stand together and refuse to let outsiders call the shots.
6. They don't play games with each other's heads and hearts.
7. They keep dating and treat date night as a sacred ritual.
8. They make daily sacrifices for each other.
9. They refuse to play the blame game.
10. They start as equal partners, and they stay equal.
11. They cuddle.
> 12. They regularly make important decisions together.
> 13. They always say good night - don't go to bed mad.
> 14. They give thoughtful surprises.
> 15. They always have each other's back.

Empowering And Blessing Generations

10/03/2025

DONT DATE OR MARRY A MARRIED MAN/WOMAN
When a handsome, loving, and cheerful person shows interest in you, it's natural to feel drawn to them. But what if that person is already married?
Some people might claim, "God spoke to me, and He said this person is the one." But let's be clear, God didn't speak!
God will never instruct you to pursue a relationship with someone who is already committed to someone else. Never!
God is not the author of confusion, and He will never contradict His own principles.
His will for you is not a married person. Period.
Think about it. If God truly spoke to you about being with a married person, what would happen to their spouse? Would they be left to suffer depression, pain, or heartache? No!
God's plan is not to harm or destroy relationships, but to build and restore them.
To all the singles out there, please don't settle for less. Once you are aware that the person showing interest in you is married, RUN!
God has someone special in store for you, someone who is available and willing to commit to you fully.
Wait for your Mr. or Miss. Right!
Remember, God's best for you is not a married person. Don't try to force God's hand or justify a relationship that goes against His principles.
Trust in His plan, and wait patiently for His timing.
God didn't speak ooo!
Go and disconnect any romantic connection you have with a married person.
I am super interested in helping, and making sure you have a thriving, healthy, heavenly, and blissful marriage.
You will marry WELL!

24/01/2025

16/01/2025

25 Characteristics of Baby Husbands!
These habits usually show more during any disagreements or conflicts.
1. No care about family provisions. Provide and plan for himself alone Bro! Marriage is a responsibility, why did you marry?
2. Abusing or cursing of wife instead of correcting in love and praying for her for more grace for obedience. You are cursing and abusing yourself sir!
3. Outburst of anger anyhow, anywhere, and anytime. So shameful , and does not portray a Christian home. Change!
4. Ignoring wife's calls or ignoring verbal communication for little conflict.
It may lead to a serious problem. There may be important and urgent issues to attend to.
5. Repeating matters or over flogging matters. It is not how much you repeat a matter that will change your wife.
It spoils the friendship between you and your wife. No moment of joy!
He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; but he that repeateth a matter separateth very friends.
Proverbs:17:9
Put matters behind you and forgive in time.
6. Reporting wife to friends and family or pastor. This is not love! Don't expose your nakedness anyhow.
If it's a matter than needed attention of a third party, prayerfully seek a marriage counselor and if it's going to be your pastor, make sure you know him so well, he can't cause more havoc.
It is not every pastors that has wisdom to settle family dispute
Hatred stir up strifes: but love covers all sins.
Prov 10:12
7. Denying his wife $€x or money for conflict or disagreements.
Don't push your wife to temptations, we are all human!
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. 1 Cor 7:5
8. Withdrawing his normal responsibilities at slight issues.
9. Neglecting food cooked by his wife for disagreements. Don't be a waster of your own resources, be wise!
10. Avoiding praying together at slight disagreements.
The Devil is near! Beware!
11. Staying out late. It may lead you to fall into temptations.
12. Calling your wife names e.g harlot, pr******te, adulterer. Many may hear drop this.
It is so hurtful and may lead your wife into unforgiveness. Don't put a stigma on your wife by yourself.
13. Abusing wife's parents and her siblings. It's is a natural course on you! They are your parents.
14. Bringing up past issues and past life to abuse wife. You have your weaknesses. It is so ungodly to do this.
15. Inviting neighbours directly or indirectly during disagreements. When they hear your noise, they will always say, he has started again.
Don't think their coming always mean love. They are coming mostly to despise your home. Please change.
16. Raising of voice at your wife. So childish! Raising your voice won't achieve anything better. Try speaking in love. It will enhance great love.
17. Impatience with your wife. Some do this every time. Your wife is not a robot. Slow down!
18. Correcting your wife or abusing her in the presence of children, friends or neighbours.
Don't teach your children how to raise a bad family. They learn more through your behaviour then what you say.
19. Travelling aimlessly or leaving your home because of disagreements.
Wasting your resources is so unwise. And also unplanned journey can push you into unplanned debt and temptations.
20. Hanging out with other women, or having extra marital affairs to punish your wife.
Don't face the wrath of God! Stop. There is divine punishment for this.
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Heb 13:4
21. Calling or chatting your ex or some ladies to spite your wife. You are dishonouring your wife with this.
22. Bringing ladies to your home to spite your wife. Can also hinder your prayers, also dishonouring your wife.
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
1 Peter:3:7
23. Unforgiveness. You are blocking your prayers from being answered.
24. Sleeping in another room anytime there is conflict. You can't bond with God in bitterness. It will lead to more bitterness.
25. Not discussing matters but acting hurts with moodiness and
coldness to wife.
Moodiness and coldness to your wife leads to prayerlessness.
Always call your wife to discuss anything bordering you.
If you are married and you are still doing all these, please stop. A man doing this is not yet emotionally ready for marriage.
Marriage has great challenges. And a matured man must be emotionally matured for this. Be a man! Marriage is for matured men and not for babies!

16/01/2025

MISTAKES LADIES MUST AVOID WHEN PLANNING TO SETTLE DOWN.
1. I WILL MARRY HIM BECAUSE HE'S MY TRIBE....The fact that he is your tribe ..does not make him good for you.
2. I WILL MARRY HIM BECAUSE HE IS RICH....The fact that he is rich now does not mean he will be rich forever...what if the table turns tomorrow? Can you endure?
3. I WILL MARRY HIM BECAUSE HE WAS THE ONE WHO TOOK MY VIRGINITY... .The fact that he's the one who took your virginity doesn't make him good for you in marriage. May be he just took advantage of your ignorance and weakness. Don't be deceived.
5. I WILL MARRY HIM BECAUSE HE IS GOOD LOOKING.....Looks are not stable. Looks do change with age. What if he had an accident, and lost some of his body parts will he still be your very best? Though we are not praying for that but don't marry because of looks.
6. I WILL MARRY HIM BECAUSE HE IS TALL....The fact that he is tall does not make him good and best for you.
All these are negative reasons for marriage.
BUT MARRY THIS TYPE👇
✅ Marry a man that can lead you.
✅ Marry a man that is God fearing and believe in him.
✅ Marry a man that has a dream and purpose.
✅ Marry a man with good character and conduct.
✅ Marry a man with great skills and potential.
✅ Marry a man that can play with you and pray for you.
✅ Marry a man who you have a future with.
Marry a man who understands you and can tolerate you..
✅ Marry a man who makes you happy irrespective of his tribe,education,financial status, and physical look.

09/01/2025

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09/01/2025

MARRIAGE IS EASY WHEN YOU FOLLOW THE LEADING OF THE HOLYSPIRIT, YOU JUST HAVE TO TAKE THE VERY BOLD STEPS TO ACHIEVE YOU HEART DESIRES

20/09/2024

Its not Easy. But at the End God Show up

14/08/2024

MARRIAGE IS GIVING AND TAKE
1. When a woman is humble, she becomes a natural charm to her husband
2. When a woman is submissive, she gets what she desires from her husband
3. When a woman is trustworthy, she can control her husband's finances
4. When a woman is hospitable, she can host her husband's meetings
5. When a woman is friendly, she becomes her husband's best friend
6. When a woman is jovial and playful, she can unlock her husband's sad mood
7. When a woman is appreciative, she receives unexpected gifts from her husband
8. When a woman is respectful, she can attend her husband's cultural meetings with him
9. When a woman is understandable, her husband feels free to tell her even the ugly
10. When a woman is peaceful, her husband comes rushing home each time
11. When a woman is tender hearted, she makes a great mother for her kids
12. When a woman is slow tempered, she knows when to approach her husband in times of misunderstandings and arguments
13. When a woman is not vulnerable, she is loved by her husband
14. When a woman does not keep secrets from her husband, her husband tells her all of his every moves
15. When a woman is prayerful, she becomes a powerful support system to her husband
16. When a woman is God fearing, she sets her home on the principles of God the Almighty
17. When a woman is selfless, her husband relies completely on her
18. When a woman is creative, she and the husband can figure out the future together
Unfortunately when you are not any of these, it becomes so hard for you to enjoy marriage.
Seek God's help to become any of the above, you can't do it on your own.

Greetings to all submissive Women

A GOOD WOMAN BUILDS HER OWN MARRIAGE - Proverbs 31:10 - 31