23/10/2025
Being raised by emotionally immature parents means you're treated like an adult when you're a child and like a child when you're an adult. You’re expected to understand things far beyond your years, to comfort the very people who were supposed to comfort you. You learn early that love must be earned, that silence keeps the peace, and that your feelings are too much or never enough. You become the caretaker, the peacekeeper, the one who carries the emotional weight of the family while no one ever asks how you feel.
Then you grow up—and suddenly, your attempts to make your own choices, set boundaries, or express yourself are seen as disrespect, rebellion, or selfishness. The same parents who relied on you for emotional support as a child now try to control you as an adult, dismissing your voice and belittling your independence. You start to realize that the love you received was conditional, tied to how well you met their needs, not how deeply they saw yours.
Healing from that kind of upbringing is a slow, painful process. It means learning that your worth isn’t tied to how much you do for others. It means grieving the childhood you never got, forgiving yourself for the patterns you learned to survive, and teaching your inner child what safety and unconditional love actually feel like. It’s about finally giving yourself the emotional maturity, stability, and care that your parents couldn’t provide—because now, you’re the one who gets to protect and nurture yourself.