22/07/2024
Privacy, Weddings, and the increased demand for control from couples.
I am not surprised that couples no longer want to be on display for a sea of strangers, that is the internet. Our relationships and marriages are not some eye candy for the passers-by to pass by with each swipe of our scrolling fingers. Some things are sacred.
Once images have been intertwined in a web of social commentary, it’s nearly impossible to take it back.
With the flood of images that find their way to the internet, privacy and autonomy are hard to come by. I have been photographing privately for decades now. The one thing I can say is that those who want to show their wedding do it for a reason, and it isn’t about showing off or being in a tabloid. And this coming from an artist who has been published numerous times.
At the first wedding Marco and I photographed the couple had an amazing story, the bride having never been kissed, had her first kiss at the altar. A doctor and her groom mixing cultures and innovatively celebrating their love was another time the couple was excited to share their story. Or the lovely immigrant families who have come together to raise beautiful children, and imbraced their union with a unique celebration. All of these stories were filled with joy, the intentions were pure and kind, just like the dedications and speeches throughout the night. They love the art, they love their love. But the share has a purpose, it isn’t a contest of opulence but a statement of the heart.
I have been doing this too long for it to be a trend, it’s about autonomy. There are times when people will allow me to share and I am grateful. As an artist, I may share because the image is an outstanding piece of art. It is possible for the story to not be ours to tell but one to capture. Over the years I grew to specialize in private weddings, honoring what isn’t seen for consumption, and putting museum-quality art in homes.
When everyone is loud, the biggest flex is to be quiet.