Jarad Tokich

20/11/2025

Strong men, self appointed or otherwise, are you strong enough to let others heave their emotions onto you without taking damage? (Applicable to anyone, I've observed men tend to identify with strength more though)

12/11/2025

I've been thinking much about identity lately.

Not in a way that would break the rules of society for some grasp on self that is more fleeting than relying on money fame or materials for satisfaction. No, identity and where it actually lies.

Let's define terms here. My thoughts have revolved around what true identity is. What MY true identity is. Not the one where I decide or find or elucidate with books and information from those before, but the identity that exists regardless of my status, creed, situation, or anything variable.

What IS that? It must exist. I must exist, so there is something that makes me... Me. Rather than the simple collection of experiences and decisions.

Who am I on a base reality, that's been my ceaseless thought.

So who am I who are you? Ok what I come to is...
This life is partly for that pursuit, then maybe walking out whatever that is/isn't.

24/10/2025

One more song for the album.

I have already uploaded the writing demos for the album, patron is probably one of the best ways to be able to support artists to make music or any entertainment or even research.

If you'd like any of my music before it's officially out, send some support, $5 a month is a huge deal for me and my family.

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23/10/2025

There is a lot on my mind today. There always is, today isn't much of an outlier so much as news reached me concerning a friend, now in a coma.

Death and life are constant friends in my thoughts, I often contemplate my own meaning in this system, both of the universe but also more locally in society both at large and more intimate. I don't find much more than I am a grain on the beach.

We have value, right? We have this inextricable worth, but where it's expressed, then values, and lastly mourned is vastly different.

I've been told and have seen it said to masses that no one should care what the greater majority considers as good or right or true,. I cannot say that is truth and a gospel worth torturing myself with any longer.

How it works is not a mystery, but we are uniquely suited as humans to tell ourselves and each other the world isn't what it is.

I sure do have value, and so does my friend. I also had a friend recently passed away, his value was noted more incredibly than I've seen ever.
My friend in a coma however, he isn't dead. I'm praying for him, for God to care for his family, to heal him if possible in His will.

Truth is, right now my hope being in eternity, can't account for the tragedy now. Now is the time to mourn. Now is the day we have, so I will do that, try to make some sort of a difference, and wreck my sense of self, craft something better with The Bible as a template.

Can't say I know what I'm doing, but I can't say many do, and enough make life out of lemons, must be something to doing something rather than the right thing.

22/10/2025

There is a class of person I cannot stand.

Take advantage of someone with less "power" you and I have a problem!

Now for the actions and words spoken in the past, these I choose to willfully forgive. Some successfully forgotten and covered, others a daily task of intentionally "putting down". But the personality, the continued actions and words...

I Condemn them.

I won't put up with it as much as I can in peace, but there is coming a time where peace will no longer be an option.

Those of you Christians who devour,

(you want an example? Okay;
refusing to pay employees better when boasting about record profit,
continuing to accept accolades and glorification of yourself while refusing to give out in equal measure especially if you get nothing out of it,
neglecting the poor needy and ugly even distancing yourself from them while using them for you own purposes. There are more, obviously)

Again to the Christians specifically who devour those around you, the poor and needy, the less powerful or ugly and odd outcasts. You won't get away with it forever, I have no power to do anything, and honestly if I did have it, I wouldn't take much action outside of protecting your victims in the moment but only as God might will it.

This picture is a print of my and my son's feet. A beautiful picture to me, it speaks to me "these feet will follow, tread carefully"

Made me consider those who stepped in front of me. Some with large shoes, whom I have yet to even get close to filling. Some of which intentionally stepped in valleys deep enough for me to trip, knowing. They could escape, and I couldn't.

Be careful, leaders, your responsibility isn't to me, or anyone really expect God. Try to get away with playing loose with those behind you and get caught in your own traps. Maybe not now. Maybe not soon. But proverbs tells us, it WILL happen.

More importantly, and as a sober reminder. I will be held accountable for all, if any, who might follow even a tiny bit of my steps. I'm no leader, but I'll still head the warning,

Matthew 18:6 NASB1995
6] but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea



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19/10/2025

Try to be there for someone. I dare you, and trust me it's not as easy as it seems.

Give what you have to them, but maybe it's less useful than they need? What if listening isn't our strong suit and the three hours of silence followed by a twenty minute explosion of confusing babbling and a totally wrong version of what has/is/will(or won't) happen.

Try it. You won't like it, but this is where life is ironed out, where love is felt to those on the precipice of pushing their life off a cliff. Sometimes literally.

I am deadly serious here people.

Listen to those around you. I'll be if I need to, the ones in the most danger won't even tell you about it, unless...

You WILL listen, not give advice, not save them with rock solid wisdom or logic.

What a lot of people need, maybe most.

Is for you to listen, then after that, listen , and then... Listen more. To morose rambling and deadly quiet. Listen.

Give an ear save a life, sounds pedantic, but is real.

And don't worry, you need it too. You listen, more likely you'll find someone to listen too. Even if not though there is hope for those of us who cannot find the ear with no mouth.

Another truth that sounds insanely wishful thinking.
God will listen, and perfectly.

Talk to God, not your kid
Talk to God not your neighbor
Talk to God not your barista

When everything in your life needs some sort of controversial or "crazy" "radical" "too much" to give to someone, then let God listen.

Quick note; talking about what's getting at us, is NOT venting. This has been found to be even more damaging, don't let talking become pushing yourself into unhealthy anger or bitterness. Acknowledge what's going on, the. Let it sit there and fade as it must. Don't hold on to it forever, just let it go, not let it control.

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18/10/2025

18/10/2025

Can you imagine the steps it took for legends of the music industry to become what they are today? Now, I'm not talking about the advantages they had, maybe someone from the same social strata and economic or global position as you.

Can you imagine even a fraction of what it took???

Then why don't you take that step towards whatever YOU want to do?

Many of us waffle about the next thing. Maybe hanging on to old habits hoping something will change and maybe I'll go to the gym like I planned two years ago and have never gone like I said I would. Or maybe it's believing that sometimes my day will come and the lottery will pay out, my debt will go away, or I'll bump into a music producer who will sponsor and produce everything I need in order to escape the grind.

But we all know it will never happen. Not because the world is a scam to those born without(different discussion, different day)
But because we can accept the fundamental truth we already know but refuse to believe.

Although many things, in fact almost everything falls outside of our control, the few things that do, we waste.

My 3 year old acts like his arm is getting cut off if he apologized for something, turns out he was embarrassed to admit what he did was wrong. I think it's not too far off with us. A lot of people can relate but also a lot of people have either escaped or die to the legacy they've been born into they weren't subjected to the same garbage that you and I were as kids(which is such a good thing and it's not your fault you were treated wrong as a kid, you did well to survive).

So when you wake up and we both see the same things we should do, I'll try something different, with that little control I have. Might find a winner, might find another habit to replace and throw away. Care to join me? I'm sure we will stumble on some gold if we keep trying. Positive.

18/10/2025

I wonder sometimes about the nature of work and what its value is The more I think about it the more I realize it changes depending on the person. Now that's not the crazy part not that there is one. It's that it's so variable, the value of any given work that we could do could be worth something great in the moment then immediately following, it could be virtually worthless. The value of a piece of work could drop off a cliff suddenly or could stay stable throughout decades. In some form I suppose it is highly trackable and predictable but that's not the case for every person every situation and every form of work.

So for me and my creative words and music, that hopefully one day I'll be able to live off of, I'd like to think that it has tremendous value but I don't always believe that. Sometimes I see it and sometimes others see it a whole lot more than I, but one thing's for sure is that even if I can't track the value of my own work, my creative work, work that I do at actual day job I can at least trust that there is something that if I continue working the value will either be acknowledged valuable, increase or maybe it's just that I do not receive that value. Maybe it's somebody else who gets the dividends of the work and I'm learning to be okay with that.

more than okay

I'm learning to respect it and be grateful. Even if the value isn't as great as I want and I can retire young from the perceived value and the money that people pay to get it

I would so much rather value something less physical or tangible. Maybe a smile and somebody needs what I have to give, maybe just a hard day that is guided by the hurts and successes I've been through. Music has done so much for me and one of the biggest motivations I've had in writing music is

Well...

to make myself feel better(lol)

After that realization came, that I could be part of a thing that makes others even one person feel acknowledged and cared for even a tiny bit. The way that I have.

That's worth it and not just the work to make it but the work to share it to get to that person who needs to hear what I have to say.

but I have to give value so far beyond any money that I can derive from my creativity or labor difficult or otherwise, and that's a life goal right there.

16/10/2025

I've been listing to this song a lot on repeat. Digesting and washing in the melodies and the words.

While I can't say it's because I've been incredibly thankful, it has been quite the opposite actually, I can say eventually, after nothing but time, it's starting to sink.

Now idk if it's this song, The Word being welled up in momeory, something else or everything everywhere all at one (ha).

What I can say, is thank you.

Thank You God. For, yeah. Thank You

16/10/2025

I can't believe there isnt something great on the horizon, but it's impossible to believe most days that tomorrow will get any better than it is.

I think that's the nature of life. To not see the incremental changes made day to day. One way... Or another. Make the choice or it makes you. We all experience it together, just a little differently.

16/10/2025