19/03/2026
Church ex-fiance and I attended required us to test for HIV, ex dumped me when he learned my status, shares Duba
IN 2000, Duba Sakala was engaged to get married to her now ex-fiance, who after getting tested in 2001, vanished from her life, leaving their plans to one day get married, crumbling.
Duba, who has lived with HIV for 25 years recollects how she and her ex-fiance visited an HIV testing centre in 2001, and narrates the anxiety the couple bore waiting for results.
Speaking when she featured on My Story Podcast monitored by TV Yatu, Duba shares that the counselor that attended to them shared the couple's HIV test results individually.
"I read my results, and they said reactive, and I knew what reactive meant. He read his results and they read, non-reactive. He looked at me and I am sure he could tell from the look of my face, that my results was not what I expected," she shares.
Duba narrates that, after it was clear to him that they had read their results, their counselor asked if they could exchange their results slips.
"I was okay with it because this was somebody I was going to get married to. So I gave him my results, he gave me his results," she narrates.
She says when he read her results, he quickly gave her a hug.
"He gave me a hug and said it will be okay," she shares.
She further narrates that after they had the HIV testing centre, her now ex-fiance walked her to his home where according to her reality of her testing positive struck and she broke down.
"He was in the kitchen and I think he heard me sobbing and he came. And he started comforting me and told me, don't worry I will walk through this with you, I am not going to leave you, I am still going to go ahead and marry you," Duba shares.
She says according to that Church's practice, since it asked them to test for HIV, the couple needed to get back to it and inform them of the outcome of the test.
Duba says after discussing the matter with her partner, she resolved to share