16/07/2025
Hide My Identity and Post For Me
I’m a married woman aged 49. Let me be sincere so that you give me correct advice. Some time back when I got married to my husband, I found him with a son from his first wife, who died in an accident. I failed to treat this child well. Jealousy in me was too much. I never allowed him to go to school because I knew he was intelligent and he would pass. It reached a point where he left our house because I created false stories about him to his father so that he would hate him too. I didn’t know where he went to stay, and I thought his father didn’t care either.
I only discovered after three years that he was a student at UNZA. After digging deeper, I found out that his father was renting an apartment for him until he completed Grade 12 and went to UNZA. As I am speaking, he is now working as a medical doctor. None of my children managed to pass Grade 12.
To make matters worse, he comes to visit us and brings a lot of good things. Recently, he bought me an expensive phone. This is not the problem. My problem is that I feel guilty whenever he comes. Sometimes I hide, not because I still hate him, but because I feel guilty and ashamed. This has been troubling me so much to the point where I feel like I should apologise to him and tell him not to be buying me things because I can’t handle the shame. My behaviour was too cruel 😢.
Please, people of God, don’t crucify me. Rather, advise me on how to handle this situation.