18/05/2025
I never thought I’d reach this point.
As a partner and a mother, I held on for so long, believing that love means sacrifice, patience, and endurance. And while that’s true… I’ve come to learn that love should never mean losing yourself completely just to keep someone else.
One of the hardest realizations I’ve ever had was this:
When someone doesn’t want you anymore, they won’t always say it…
They’ll just start hurting you.. bit by bit, until you finally walk away.
It was like a punch to the gut.
I kept asking myself: What did I do wrong?
Was I not enough as a wife? As a partner? As a woman?
But the truth is… their actions were never about me. It was about them.
Their coldness, their anger, their distance, it wasn’t because I failed. It was because they had already given up and just didn’t have the courage to say it.
For so long, I stayed, for love, for family, for the kids.
But I forgot to stay for me.
This journey has been painful, but also empowering.
Because now, I’m starting to heal. To breathe again.
To show my children what self-respect looks like.
To remind myself that I’m still whole, still worthy, even after all the hurt.
To any other woman or mom going through this.. please know:
You are not alone.
You are not weak for feeling tired.
You are not selfish for choosing peace.
You are strong for surviving what many will never understand.
And you deserve love that feels safe, kind, and true.
