20/08/2026
I saw a picture of Jordyn Woods in her wedding dress, with Kylie Jenner looking on, and it stayed with me.
There’s so much history in one photograph. Two women who were once inseparable, a friendship that fell apart in front of the entire world, years passing, lives changing, and somehow finding their way back into each other’s lives again.
And now Jordyn is married.
It made me think about how life works. Because celebrity doesn’t protect you from any of it. Money doesn’t. Beauty doesn’t. Access doesn’t. At the end of the day, relationships are still relationships. Friendships break. People fall in love. People fall out of love. Lives separate. People come back. Someone reaches one part of life while someone else is somewhere completely different.
It’s the same human s**t, just with better lighting.
And something about that picture made me think about love and my own life.
I’m nearly 39. I’ve lived a lot of life. I’ve had relationships. I’ve loved people. I’ve walked away. I’ve stayed when maybe I shouldn’t have. I’ve made good decisions and terrible ones. And there are still things I simply don’t know how to do.
Love is one of them.
The thing I’m talking about isn’t some extraordinary fantasy. It’s actually incredibly ordinary: finding one person you love, who loves you, and building something stable together.
But how do you actually get there?
I genuinely don’t know.
And I started thinking about how many women probably don’t know. We talk endlessly about relationships once we’re in them, and endlessly about getting over them when they end, but there’s this whole bit in the middle where you’re supposed to somehow know how to find something healthy and lasting in the first place.
I can’t control when another person comes into my life. I can’t manufacture love. I can’t force something to become what I want it to be.
But I can do something.
I can put myself in its path.
And if something real does come along, I can choose it too.
That’s where I am with it.
I CAN’T MAKE LOVE ARRIVE.
BUT I CAN PUT MYSELF IN ITS PATH.
AND WHEN IT COMES, I CAN CHOOSE IT BACK.
That, I can live by.