08/11/2025
“No one warned me how much I’d lose myself after becoming a mum.”
Four years ago, I was deep in the newborn fog — running on caffeine, stress and minimal sleep during covid (which let’s be honest turned the world as we knew it into an unpredictable + isolating one)
But what I didn’t realise back then was that I was living in constant survival mode.
I was trying to be everything for everyone — whilst also figuring out who I was in this new season and in the process, I completely forgot about myself.
My body was exhausted. My hormones were screaming and my body was completely depleted. The predictability of my days was gone and as a well known Type A perfectionist, people pleaser - I for the first time felt lost because the way I had always lived was no longer..
I wasn’t the “go with the flow type” I liked structure and routine. But this motherhood season really stripped all of that away and I was left navigating the unknown of having a baby and not being able to live as I always had..
I know this postpartum transition for all women is different.. but if I have any fellow type A mamas following here I would love to know if you encountered this same initial struggle?
The good news is I did find myself… and I’ve never felt happier + like we’re living in more alignment.. it’s the most incredible feeling..
But what really sucks is how long it took to get here, I know I’m not alone in this and that for us fellow A type mamas we wish there was some sort of manual to help us transition but let’s be real that doesn’t exist 😂🙈
This time round with baby Connor, it’s different. (Firstly it’s not in the middle of Covid that’s a bonus in itself).
With my second baby, I’ve built a slower, calmer more intentional way of mothering and living— one that puts energy, health, and connection first.
It’s not perfect, but it’s peaceful.
And that’s what I want for every modern mum who’s tired of feeling burnt out and stretched too thin.
More to come on this soon mamas. Let me know in the comments If you felt this way or similar on your journey too — you’re not alone.
💛 Tammy