18/09/2025
For years, I set goals that looked great on paper:
๐ The promotion
๐ผ The bigger salary
๐ The โnext stepโ in my career
And yes, I achieved them. But instead of feeling proud, I feltโฆ exhausted.
Thatโs because the goals I was setting werenโt really mine. They were โshouldโ goals - the ones I thought I was supposed to want.
The shift came when I asked a different question:
๐ โWhat do I want my life to feel like?โ
For me, that answer was freedom. I wanted time to ride my horses, space to travel, and energy to enjoy life outside of work.
So hereโs what I did - and what you can try too:
1๏ธโฃ Write down your top 3 goals right now.
2๏ธโฃ For each one, ask: Is this a โshouldโ goal or a soul goal?
3๏ธโฃ If itโs a โshould,โ reframe it into something that connects with how you actually want to feel.
This one exercise changed everything for me. It took me from chasing other peopleโs definitions of successโฆ to creating goals that gave me energy, purpose, and freedom.
โจ Try it this week - and let me know what you discover.
Because the goals that light you up are the only ones worth chasing. ๐