02/07/2025
Su***de has, unfortunately, touched many of our lives.
One in eight men struggle with depression, but blokes don’t have the best reputation for talking about our feelings.
For Men’s Health Week, we’re encouraging our members to learn how to reach out, and intervene if they’ve got a mate that doesn’t seem to be doing too well recently.
For this, we have adapted the ALEC model developed by R U OK, which is a guide on how to have those difficult, awkward conversations with someone you care about
Ask - Start by asking how they’re feeling. It’s worth mentioning any changes you’ve picked up on.
Use a prompt like,
"You haven’t seemed yourself lately – are you feeling OK?"
Trust your instinct. Remember, people often say "I'm fine" when they’re not, so don't be afraid to ask twice.
Listen - Give them your full attention. Let him know you’re hearing what he’s saying and you’re not judging. You don’t have to diagnose problems or offer solutions, but asking questions lets him know you’re listening.
Ask a question like,
"That can't be easy – how long have you felt this way?"
Encourage Action - Help them focus on simple things that might improve how they feel. Are they getting enough sleep? Are they exercising and eating well? Maybe there’s something that’s helped in the past – it’s worth asking.
Suggest that he share how he’s feeling with others he trusts. This will make things easier for both of you. And if he’s felt low for more than two weeks, suggest that he chat to his doctor.
Check In - Suggest you catch up soon – in person if you can. If you can’t manage a meet-up, make time for a call, or drop him a message. This helps to show that you care; plus, you’ll get a feel for whether he’s feeling any better.