Billy Stokes - Its All BS Story

Billy Stokes - Its All BS Story This is a real-time documentation of growing and scaling our business

21/05/2024

"Uncovering Resentment" - S2,Ep4

- Gym
- Bec bailing on Gym cos Sterling
- Taking Sterling into the office with me
- Taking the kids out for Brekky so Bec can sleep longer
- Dropping the kids to school, and having a chat to the teacher about Tilly’s time out thing
- Thinking about the flexibility and capacity of uninterrupted focus on the goals we have when we’re younger and have children
- I spent the early years that I had my drive in the church and religion. I wonder what things would be like if it was spent in the pursuit of business?
- Would I have the same level of drive
-Home and up to see Elle about some design for the new shop and our family crest
- Home for a meeting with Niro
- It is more resentment is the issue, not shame
- Recording the videos that I missed out on
- Heading to Holly and Levi’s
- Home and knackered and putting the kids in Bec.
- Revenge procrastination

20/05/2024

"Bec’s Date with Lexi" -S2,Ep53

- Waking up this morning and Bec feeling overwhelmed with the house being chaotic and the kids being hectic
- Deciding that we would have the day at home
- Kids playing heaps in the play room while I sorted the house:
- Dishes
- Washing
- Books
- Back yard
- Front yard
- Putting up my goals
- Tools
- Office
- Wanting to make my goals and vision for my life more clear
- Focussing on the art of aligning a collective of people through influence and persuasion as the next skill to develop.
- Putting the bookshelf in the kids room
- Kids in bed
- Finishing tidying up
- Bec coming to feed Sterling and telling me about her time with Lexi
- Sterling on the mat playing with the dangley things
- Tilly asking me “why” when we told her to get out of the bathroom, I reacted and then realised that she was doing the right thing.
- Explaining to Jacob that we teach the girls to ask why and that they are the boss of themselves.
- Jacob hanging out with the kids outside
- Reading How to Make a Few Billion dollars:
- The necessity of humility What memory can I maintain to keep me humble?
- Walk with the kids with the reflectors
- Talkin with Tilly about being scared to go to school
- Being scared to say anything about her teachers

20/05/2024

"Bec’s Date with Eliza" - S2,Ep52

- Waking up after another ordinary night
- Bec getting the kids ready and taking Eliza out for a date
- Went for a tram ride
- Taking the kids out for the morning on the scooters.
- Tram was overbooked, so came home to get a scooter, but were all gone, so went and bought Eliza a scooter and went for a ride with Bec
- Baby chinos
- Twin dams
- Back to Centennial Park
- Eliza was knackered and jumped on Bec’s bike home
- Tired and slept for 3 hours
- Bec playing the new game with the kids
- Selling the bookshelf cupboard thing
- Heading off to Jodie and Emily’s farewell

20/05/2024

"Lessons from Epic of Gilgamesh" - S2,Ep 51

- Gym - Emma feedback
- Coming home and Lexi waking
- Quick nap
- Ice Bath
- Helping Lexi doing a puzzle
- Praying in the shower with Lex
- Playing Sleeping queens
- Bec coming home and noting that Lex has had a good morning
- The blessing of kids is that they are so present, and that they just relish the moment
- Making smoothies and kids doing dip exercises
- Listening to Leading through culture
- Getting the electrical stuff and swapping the GPO and light switches out.
- Making my planner
- Talking with Jed about Epic of Gilgamesh
- Talking to lateral about future development
- Doing my 90 day plan board
- Talking to Ben West
- Heading to the outdoor cinema
- Hanging out with Elle
- Possibly found new name for the next business
- Putting the kids to bed & trying to be more patient with Eliza’s aggression.
- Tilly wanting Lexi’s book, then realising that it was actually Eliza’s, and by that time Lexi had Tilly’s book. Tilly gives to Eliza and said “nothing else” when asked what would you like me to do with that?
- Happy to just go without, and that’s when I gave her the other book which she sheepishly said “Thanks dad…”
- Talking with Bec about coaching programs and that they shortcut the hard lessons - is that a good thing?

20/05/2024

"GGOB and Becoming Better Parents" - S2,Ep50

- Gym
- Hanging out the front with Bec
- Lexi having a melt down about the hair thing with Tilly
- Lexi hiding in her bed
- Podcasting on yesterday
- Meeting with Sue on the gain share structure
- Reorganising my desk
- Setting Charlyn up with a mobile number
- Talking with Bec about the kids with a gin
- Guilt around Tilly’s early months with Bec
- Wishing we knew what we know now

16/05/2024

"It always comes back to self" - S2,Ep49

- I understand that discipline is required to get the things we want. There are two issues I see with that:
- The judgement of not being the person who has capacity for being able to get the thing
- The thing I’ve learned about life is that life is about living, and the meaning of life is to live and being a human being is about be.
- Gym in the morning
- Hanging out the front with a coffee
- Lexi and Eliza joining us and having Brekky out the front
- Bec taking the kids to the park in the morning
- Finishing the cart for the kids
- Mowing the lawn
- Bec back with the girls
- Bec heading out with Tilly to the movies
- Eliza watching Paw Patrol with me while I finish my work
- Bouncing on the tramp together
- Helping me make breakfast
- Down for a nap
- Team coming for management meeting
- Great feedback from everyone
- Ownership being taken heaps
- Zee taking the training thing
- Realising it’s always about taking ownership and empowerment
- I’m the problem
- Working on the vision feedback from the team
- Heading out to get the stuff for the mini games
- Moving the iPads
- Fixing the sign
- Coming home to see Elle
- Bec heading out to dinner with Tilly
- Being glad that she did
- Tilly talking about her hair
- Her identity stuff, and knowing that we need to dial it back on her. Make sure we’re still cherishing her as much as we love her

14/05/2024

"Feeling like an ungrateful idiot" - S2,Ep48

- Gym
- I’m sick of psychoanalysing myself and just wanna not feel guilty for the things that I want
- What’s the balance between empowerment, autonomy and decentralised decision making and delegation and control?
- Fixing grinder
- Picking up delivery
- Chatting with a Mentor
- Traits of the ego
- Putting my potential on a pedestal
- A mate of mine saying the problem is that I’m making the systems, not the team
- My frustration is really in my lack of leadership skills
- Walk with Bec for date night instead of last night
- Luc being part of the bet $100 on the line
- Team meeting with the design team and Sue
- Dialling in on the games we wanna play
- Team saying “I wish my last manager put this much effort into their team”
- Feeling like an ungrateful idiot after the last couple days
- Reviewing with Sue
- Getting the VIP NISI upgrade
- Prepping for the team meeting
- Still trying to work out the cadence for team prep
- Focussing on areas of improvement
- Reviewing the feedback data
- Going to the team meeting
- Very information heavy
- Could be more engaging
- Team are invested, which is cool
- Worked on the team’s vision
- Looking to tie off the loose ends in the business
- Meeting the kids at swimming
- Lexi being amped about her plant growing
- Coming home for smoothies for dinner
- Heading to squash
- Coming home
- Lexi trying to throw Tilly under the bus
- Taking it too far getting Tilly to tell me what happened
- Heading to Sam’s to adjust the pipe
- Talking life and MinRes
- How Chris Ellison leads MRL

13/05/2024

"Suspending Judgement" - S2,Ep47

- Poo sample
- Gym in the morning
- Pushing myself more & keeping the stamina up
- Home and nap again until 7am
- Coffee and breakfast
- Talking with staff about s**t over the weekend
- Catching up on stuff over the weekend
- Meeting with a business mate
- Stop being so hard on myself
- Feels like there is so much I don’t know, and so much to do to get the business to a point where I want it to be
- Embarrassing to have to share these thoughts running around in my head, but also, the purpose of this is to document everything in real time
- Reviewing & sorting our personal finances
- Starting to get things in order for the second location
- Preparing the data for the team meeting tomorrow
- Customer feedback survey
- Extraction time data
- Google review analysis
- Bec taking the kids out geocaching so that I can get work done
- Suspending/ignoring my judgement of self until I build a stack of undeniable proof in alignment to who I wanna be
- Putting my phone into greyscale mode

13/05/2024

"Mother’s Day" - S2,Ep46

- Sh*tty night
- Lexi already sorting the presents out
- Breakfast with Lolly and the Kids
- Asking Lolly if she knows of some kids who she would recommend for housework.
- Talking with a match at church
- Trying to find the balance between measuring where I am now to where I want to be without judgement and self criticism
- Feeling like I should just fk it and send it and just go get whatever I want and be unapologetic about it anyway instead of spending all this time trying to understand myself and be purposeful.
- Feeling like I am so far behind on areas
- I should be healthier (habits formed when you are in your youth & young adult phase)
- I should have better focus and attention
- I should have a better business knowledge
- I should have more saved and invested
- I should be more grounded and know myself better
- Who can I find who has got life, family and business under wraps?
- Is that a fools errand and is there a level of imbalance required for a period of time before you and redeploy that energy to the areas of life that are under resourced?
- Heading to Jacob & Rochelle’s for family lunch
- Nap with Eliza
- Steam & cold shower with Tilly
- Lunch & naps with Sterling
- Reading How to Make a few Billion Dollars
- Again, it just seems like others have something that I don’t, and right now, I don’t know how to find out what it is.
- Kids bathing & getting dressed
- Hanging out with Sterling and chatting
- Making toast for the kids dinner while mum and Bec do the puzzle
- Telling them stories
- Mr. Bad Guy, food and a cow.
- Moana from the Perspective of Hei Hei
- Home and Bed

13/05/2024

"Being a miserable s**t" - S2,Ep45

- Wasting time - It’s easier to maintain momentum then to gain it
- So much of my time is spent tidying the house and stuff & I feel like Bec could do more around the house
- Wanting to focus more intently on the business, but feeling like I can’t get a clean run on the things I need because of the other areas of my life that also require active input
- It just seems like those who are successful have something that I am missing, and I can’t quite work out what it is
- Seeing that clip from DOAC
- Bec getting paint from Bunnings
- Going to get the stuff for the cart from Bunnings
- Parking in the car park where nobody can see me and realising that it’s a shame spiral
- Talking with Bec about it
- Taking a nap & playing with the kids in the arvo
- Bath with Bec & hanging out

10/05/2024

"Trying to get the traction" - S2,Ep44

- Gym again
- Really tired today
- Didn’t use any affirmations to set my focus for the day
- Got my stuff together and headed to a mate’s place to use his office
- Spent a fair bit of time catching up and talking life
- Starting working on the new systems in the business
- Ended up having a 15 min nap on the couch
- Mother’s day is coming, and today was the only opportunity that I had to be able to get the stuff for mothers day, so shot out there and got it
- Came home, and really just was keen to fight someone
- Not in an angry way, just in a way that it would be really satisfying and exactly what I want
- Probably just from the fact that I can’t seem to find the time to get the traction that I want to get right now
- Tidied up the office cos that needed to happen
- The nature of a home office
- Mate came over and talked business together
- Lexi’s assembly & award
- Ricco in the message about Air Vanuatu
- Coming home to get stuff done, and instead spent the time catching up on the podcast and got my thoughts out instead
- Seems to me that business is about leadership and systems.
- The caveat being that it has to be a business model which can actually make money
- Review customer feedback on areas to improve
- Playing with the kids outside and having dinner at the “shop”
- Going for a family walk
- Home for a movie, which the kids loved
- Straight to bed

10/05/2024

"Seeing Bec as a Means to an End" - S2,Ep43

- Gym
- Morning routine
- Do I see Bec as a means to an end, or the end in itself? - I often default to my children first, then to Bec, and when I think around my dedication, yes I am dedicated to Bec, but I am also often dedicated through Bec, to my children. It feels like often times Bec is the conduit of dedication to my children, biologically, emotionally and psychologically. The thing is that I want to start seeing Bec as the end also. I want to love Bec because I love Bec, and just like my kids are part of my legacy, my wife is part of my legacy. I build her up not because of what my kids see, but because of what she sees. She gets what she needs from me because she needs it, and I want her to be whole and fulfilled in her relationship with me, just like I do with my kids.
- Breakfast and then into the office
- Big win with Water Corp
- Amending our interviewing booklet
- Meeting with a mentor
- Private recording a review of some of other conversations that I have had recently
- GGOB with Sue & strategising the things that we need to tackle to dial in the business
- Kids buying their toys from the money saved
Meeting with one of our local suppliers

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