06/11/2025
𝗠𝗮𝗻, 𝗜 𝗮𝗺 𝗦𝗢 𝗹𝘂𝗰𝗸𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗵 𝗮𝗻 𝗮𝗺𝗮𝘇𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗿𝗶𝗯𝗲! 💫
𝗛𝗼𝗿𝘀𝗲 𝗼𝘄𝗻𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗯𝗲 𝗮 𝘄𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗲 𝗿𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 — 𝗯𝗲𝗮𝘂𝘁𝗶𝗳𝘂𝗹, 𝗯𝗿𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗮𝗻𝘁, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗵 𝘀𝗼 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴! 🐴
𝗗𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗮 𝗳𝗮𝘃𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗴𝗼 𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗰𝗸 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗗𝗿 𝗦𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗲𝘆 𝗔𝗽𝗽𝗹𝗲𝘁𝗼𝗻’𝘀 𝗽𝗮𝗴𝗲 — 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗶𝗻-𝗱𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗵 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘁𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮 𝗺𝘂𝘀𝘁-𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗱. ✨
𝗦𝗵𝗲’𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗯𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻, 𝗸𝗲𝗲𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘁 𝘀𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗲, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝘂𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱 𝘂𝗽 — 𝗺𝘆 𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗮 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗮𝗻! 👑
𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁? 𝗜 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗼𝗿 𝗶𝗻 𝗺𝘆 𝗰𝗼𝗿𝗻𝗲𝗿.
𝗚𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 — 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗜’𝗺 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗯𝘂𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱 𝘂𝗽, 𝘁𝗼𝗼! 😉🔥
𝗕𝗮𝗯𝘆 𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗽𝘀, 𝗺𝘆 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝗲𝗻𝘀.
𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹, 𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹-𝗲𝘅𝗲𝗰𝘂𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗯𝗮𝗯𝘆 𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗽𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗶𝘁 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝘆… 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗵𝗼𝗿𝘀𝗲𝘀 𝗳𝘂𝗻 𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗶𝗻! 💕
👉 𝗛𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗮 𝗳𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄 — 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝗺𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂! 👇
When You Care About Everything
“When you care about everything, you do nothing well, which then compels you to try even harder. Welcome to being tired.”
- Kendra Adachi, The Lazy Genius Way
Social media has made it almost impossible to know what to care about anymore.
Every scroll screams a new priority: the bit, the barefoot trim, the blink, the blink rate, the triangulated eye wrinkles when the horse blinks (because apparently there are thirteen categories of blink now) 🫠 the rug, the no rug, the lick, the chew, the yes, the no, the vertical, the topline, the hoof boot, the bare hoof, the saddle, the pad, and of course... the blink. Again. 👁️
Everyone wants to do the best for their horse. Everyone. But out there in the wild west of the horse world, good advice, bad advice, and pure outrage collide creating so much noise.
Gurus, experts, and equestrian vigilantes line the fences, ready to tell you what’s right, what’s wrong, what’s ethical, what’s cruel, and exactly how far behind the vertical your horse was in a single freeze-framed screenshot.
It’s chaos. And it’s exhausting. 😩
The problem is that when you try to care about everything everyone tells you to, you end up caring effectively about nothing. You get tired. Paralysed. You start second-guessing everything you do. Progress stalls. Motivation collapses. What once brought you joy now feels like guilt and shame.
I’ve had people tell me they’ve thought about selling their horses, even their whole property, because it’s all just too much. It’s not fun anymore. It’s an expensive way to feel perpetually guilty, crushed and resentful.
BUT! Let me explain something important....
This isn’t a lack of love. It’s cognitive overload.
Humans are intelligent, but our brains can only juggle so much. When you’re trying to coordinate your body, learn new skills, interpret every twitch and blink (and the moral implications of that blink🙄), and manage your own fear... that’s a mental pile-up. The brain throws its hands in the air and shouts, “Nope!”
So I do something radical: I reduce the load. 💡
We start with 22 simple things. Clear, teachable skills for the horse, and learnable, repeatable patterns for the human. Once those are in place, the brain can breathe again. You build competence, and with it comes confidence. Suddenly, you can see more, do more, be more - not because you’re forcing it, but because your mind finally has CAPACITY.
That’s what progress looks like. Not perfect care about everything, just meaningful care about the right most effective things.
Take Stacey in this photograph, one of my favourite clients. She’s only owned horses for three years. We built her plan step by step, and she followed it. She got so proficient with her first horse that she brought an older mare, long retired, back into work and is turning her into a happy, willing partner. Now they’re working under saddle to really get stuck into some specific training to support her body and they are doing so well.
Stacey can notice a lot now - her timing, her horse’s balance, the small shifts that matter. But that didn’t happen because she tried to care about everything all at once. It happened because she was disciplined enough to care about a couple of things at a time.
That’s what learning what to care about looks like: clarity, skill, and confidence that builds strategically over time.
It’s not that you stop caring — it’s that you focus your care on the big things that really matter.
And the best part? Stacey’s having a ball. Her horses are her fun. She has great progress and even if she has to go backwards in one of the horse's training - she knows this is part of the process.
I would be grateful if you hit SHARE on this one to raise awareness of what is sitting behind this endemic of “stuckness”.
IMAGE📸: Stacey & Z at the beautiful Sutton Farm in Sutton Forrest. Where the movie Pharlap was filmed. I invite all of you that feel stuck to discover Project Reboot. It's a community event I run where we run through the 22 exercises with my feedback. It works. If you want to know more DM me for more info ℹ️
