10/05/2024
*ANOTHER SIDE OF PARENTING*
"Consequences of Revealing what your child did at home in public "
You caught your child stealing meat from your pot of soup.
You were so enraged that you hit him with the big soup laddle. He escaped and sought refuge from your wrath at a neighbor's place.
You reported him to your husband when he got back from work. He summoned the child and gave him a punishment. He released him after minutes of messy tears and trembling legs.
You didn't give him dinner, you sent the boy to bed hungry.
Yet, you were not satisfied. You woke him up in the middle of the night and delt with him further. Your turning stick and his father's leather belt aided you in melting out the punishment.
In the morning, you acted as if you had forgiven him. You admonished him, fed him, packed his lunch, and offered to walk him to school. The child was relieved, happy even that he was now forgiven. Only for you to approach his teacher and narrate what he did, with dramatic details.
The teacher promised to discipline him adequately, and so, after you went back home, your child was called out on the assembly and flogged before the students populace, including his friends, his crush, and those who looked up to him.
Those who missed the assembly heard the exaggerated version of the story. Everyone laughed at your child, including the boy who stole from his parents on a daily basis, and even the one who picked pockets in the market. Nobody laughed at those ones because their mothers did not bring their matters to the school.
Your child soon became lonely at school. His friends didn't want him any more because of the stigma. They wouldn't pick him for any football game or allow him into any clubs. He developed self-esteem issues.
Your child grew up emotionally distant from you, he could not bring himself to open up to you no matter what he went through, because he never forgot what you did the last time he made a mistake.
Now, you wonder why your own child wouldn't confide in you. That's right, because you will make it the topic of discussion at your next woman's meeting.
Ten years down the line, someone created a whatsapp group of his school mates set. Your child was added to the group and he joined with the hope of reuniting, but left when he found a meme making a joke about his past. Even though it was just a joke, he couldn't stand it because he already had internal issues. He couldn't bear to show his face at the reunion ceremony.
Your child graduated from the university and applied for his dream job. He passed the first three stages of the application and was invited for the interview.
He left the interview, hopeful to be called back for the job. Only for him to run into one of his ex-schoolmates after the interview. He greeted her hastily and hurried away.
But it was too late as the lady happened to be the wife of the boss who interviewed him and he had already saw them exchanging greetings. He asked his wife about your child and she went ahead to paint an ugly picture of what happened ten years ago.
“Ahhn, that boy was a bandit of sort. He used to terrorize his neighborhood with his stealing antics, everyone knew him both at home and in school.” That was all the boss needed to make a decision among the many competitive applicants.
Even though it has been several years already, you have even forgotten about the incidence, your child is still suffering from the consequences.
Your child hasn't stolen a single item since that meat, but the stigma had evolved with him and only grown bigger around his existence.
Before you expose your child's misdeed at his school or Church, please ask yourself if you would do the same if he had exhibited a pleasant behavior.
Revealing what your child did at home in public is embarrassment, not discipline.
Dear parents, please don't embarrass your children, it may scar them for a lifetime.
This is May. A month, when Children should be celebrated. It's just 23 days away from the DDay. Plan to celebrate your Children not to victimize them for life.©️ Ambassador Flash Point
