19/06/2024
Saying "NO"
It's not easy to say "No" to someone you care about, but it's important to know how to handle these situations.
Imagine your friend asks you to lend them 2000 taka. You care about your friend, and you don't want to disappoint them, so you feel like you have to say "Yes," even if it puts you in a difficult spot. It's important to understand that it's okay to say "No." Saying "No" doesn't mean you don't care about your friend. It means you are being honest about your own limits and responsibilities.
Being honest is key. You can tell your friend, "I really want to help, but I can't lend you money right now. I have my own expenses and responsibilities." This shows that you care, but you also need to take care of yourself.
If you can't help financially, offer other types of support. For instance, you could say, "I can't lend you money, but I can help you think of other ways to solve this problem." This way, you're still showing support and care for your friend.
Setting boundaries is crucial. Explain to your friend that you have a personal policy of not lending money to friends to avoid potential issues in your relationship. It might feel awkward, but in the long run, it helps maintain a healthy friendship.
If possible, suggest alternatives that might help your friend. For example, "Maybe you can try asking family members or see if there are other resources available." This way, you're helping them think of other solutions without putting yourself in a difficult position.
It's okay to be firm in your decision while being kind. You can say, "I hope you understand my situation. I value our friendship and I don't want money to come between us." This shows that you care about the friendship and are also looking out for both of you.
Let me share a story. My friend *** once asked me for a large sum of money. I really wanted to help him, but I knew I couldn't afford it. So, I told *** that I couldn't lend him the money, but I helped him look for other ways to get the support he needed. In the end, he found a solution, and our friendship remained strong.
Remember, saying "No" doesn't make you a bad friend. It means you are respecting your own limits and being honest. True friends will understand and appreciate your honesty.
It's also important to take care of your own financial health. If you keep saying "Yes" when you can't afford it, you might end up in a difficult situation yourself. By setting boundaries and being honest, you are taking care of both yourself and your friendships.
So, the next time you find it hard to say "No" to a friend, remember these points. Be honest, offer support in other ways, set boundaries, suggest alternatives, and stay firm but kind. This way, you can maintain your friendships without compromising your own well-being.
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