12/26/2025
I had a miscarriage 6 weeks ago—my second this year. I haven't told my family. Not because I'm ashamed, but because my narcissistic sister will make MY grief about HER. Again. 💔👶
I'm 32. My sister Claire is 29 and has a 4-month-old baby. She's also a textbook narcissist who makes EVERYTHING about herself.
When I had my first miscarriage last year, Claire was pregnant. I waited weeks to tell my family because I needed time to grieve.
When I finally told them, my mom's response was: "That's sad, but Claire is having terrible morning sickness and really needs support right now."
Claire called me to ask detailed questions about my miscarriage symptoms—not because she cared about ME, but because she was scared it would happen to HER.
Then she posted on Facebook about "pregnancy after hearing about loss" and TAGGED ME without permission. She used my grief for sympathy points.
At her baby shower, she gave a speech about how "blessed" she is that her pregnancy worked out "unlike some people" (looking directly at me).
My loss became her gratitude p**n.
So when I had my SECOND miscarriage six weeks ago, I didn't tell anyone except my husband. Because I KNEW Claire would:
Make it about her feelings
Post about it on social media
Use it to highlight how "lucky" she is
Demand support for HER anxiety about MY loss
My family thinks I'm being distant because I'm "jealous" of Claire's baby. They're pressuring me to come around more, to be a "better aunt."
They have no idea I'm drowning in grief.
Yesterday my mom pressured me so much that I finally told her about the miscarriage. Within HOURS she texted me that "Claire is struggling with postpartum anxiety and really needs her sister right now."
I told her I had a miscarriage and she made it about Claire needing support.
I'm going low contact with my entire family.
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Am I wrong for keeping my grief private to protect myself from my narcissistic sister?